UNFeigned

Healing Out Loud is the last Friday of every month, where I answer questions submitted by y'all. On this episode, I answer two questions: 1) I feel like I’ve lost myself after years of putting everyone else first. Where do I even begin to heal when I don’t recognize who I am anymore?2) My spouse and I are barely speaking. I don’t know how to fix what’s been broken for so long. Is it too late to re...

We’re starting a brand new series called “Emotionally Whole: Learning to Feel Without Falling Apart.” Some of us learned how to numb before we ever learned how to feel. We learned to shut down, to shut people out, to keep everything under control because we didn’t trust what would happen if we let our emotions lead, but this series...This series is about learning a better way, a whole way, a heali...

The pain you’ve endured, the healing you’ve walked through, the breakthroughs you’ve experienced...they were never just about you. You are redeemed for a reason. Your story isn’t something to hide, it’s something to hold up as a light. You’ve walked through brokenness. You’ve faced the wounds. You’ve chosen healing. You’ve been rebuilt. You’ve been restored. You are whole. Now, you’re ready to liv...

After brokenness, after healing, after rebuilding—comes wholeness, but what does it actually look like to live unbroken, to not just heal from your past, but to stop living like you’re still wounded? Wholeness is not perfection. Wholeness means you are: Fully presentFully awareFully surrenderedFully at peace with your past, present, and future You were never meant to live broken forever. Healing b...

There is something we all long for, but often fear: restoration. More specifically—how do you begin to trust again and love again, when the very things that broke you were tied to relationships? Pain makes us self-protective, and while that may serve us temporarily, long-term it becomes a prison. If you don’t confront the residue of your brokenness, you’ll sabotage your restoration.

When the pain fades, when the pieces begin to come together — What remains? What emerges? We often think healing means returning to who we were before the pain, but the truth is, that version of you can’t carry the weight of your calling. God isn’t restoring you to the past — He’s rebuilding you for the future. Letting go of who you used to be is sacred work. You are not your trauma. You are not y...

Are you looking to heal from areas of brokenness in your own life and/or in your relationship? Schedule a coaching session & let's connect! www.unfeigned.orgunfeignedpodcast@gmail.com Today's episode is one of the most pivotal in the series. Healing isn't just about naming the pain - it's about facing it. Confrontation is not cruelty; it's clarity. It's the moment you stop hiding, stop blaming...

In our first two episodes, we talked about acknowledging brokenness and uncovering the wounds. On this episode, we talk about what might be the most difficult—and most courageous—step in the journey: choosing to heal. Survival is not the same as healing, and healing is not a feeling—it’s a decision. You can’t heal what you haven’t chosen. If you make the choice to heal today, you'll be doing somet...

Today's episode is the first episode in our live Q&A series. On this first episode, we dive into the topic of loving your spouse/partner without pushing them away. This is in the context of a broken relationship, whether that be a relationship that is on the rocks, a relationship that is falling apart but still together, a relationship that is on the brink of ending, or a relationship that is...

In the last episode, we confronted the reality of brokenness. Today, we go deeper. Because in order to heal, we must uncover where the pain began. That requires honesty, awareness, and the courage to look inward—not to shame ourselves, but to understand what still needs healing. You can’t heal what you won’t face. And you can’t face what you’re not willing to see. The beliefs formed in pain become...

This is the first in a series of episodes that will dive into going from brokenness to healing. In this episode, we will talk openly about what brokenness looks like, how do I identify its roots, and how to begin walking the path to healing.

Go to the 'Live Q & A' page at www.unfeigned.org and submit any questions you have, and/or advice you want, regarding healing in your own personal life or in your relationships. You can do this throughout the whole month, every month. You can also choose to remain anonymous or share your name. Then, on the last Friday of every month, that episode will be dedicated to the questions we've receiv...

Check out UNFeigned the podcast, tonight after 10pm for an exciting announcement.

"It's not that big of a deal". That phrase is used often in situations like this. But...Maybe it should be! Maybe it should be a big deal. Maybe if we were purposefully and intentionally making it a bigger deal, we wouldn't have so many broken relationships. Just sayin'!

It's often said that forgiveness isn't for the other person, that it's for you. However, I think that statement is only half true. When we forgive, it absolutely frees us from bondage, but it also does something to the other person. Check out this latest episode, where I talk about my experience with how being forgiven freed me.

When confronted with the "hard things", the very things you need healing in, the difference between brokenness and healing isn't that those "hard things" disappear. The difference is in how we're affected and how we respond.

How many times have we heard someone doing something because "that's the way it's always been done"? How many times have we allowed someone to act in a toxic way because, "that's just how they are"? How many times have we done these things ourselves? Is it "supposed to be" some kind of way when we are "triggered"? I think we have abused this idea of being triggered, and it's become much more of a...

Remember to follow this podcast!!! unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com Over the last few days, I have been asked a specific question. How did I heal? Like what were some of the practical things you did to heal? There is one thing that has to happen in order for healing to begin. I realize that I talk a lot about healing and my healing journey, and how I am currently walking in the healed version of me. On...

In a moment of vulnerability, I share two thoughts that came to me today. The first one absolutely wrecked me, and involved a trip down memory lane then thinking about "lasts". The other one is regarding a perspective on what to do when healing meets triggers.

It's so easy, and most of us do it, to simply get up and dust ourselves off, slap on a smile, and push through. Something that I missed early on in my healing journey, was giving myself permission to grieve. I failed at it miserably! Had I simply allowed myself to sit in the mess, to really "embrace the suck", I may have gotten to healing a lot sooner. When I finally gave myself permission to grie...

unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com What if you could guarantee that you would never lose the romance in your relationship, the passion in your relationship, the love in your relationship, or the connection in your relationship? There is something that we can do, that seems so simple yet carries unimaginable power, that will guarantee that we are never left wondering "what happened to our relationship".

On this episode, discover a key to unlocking the "perfect" relationship. Find out why Perspective and Perception are such vital ingredients. Find out if one influences the other, and which one it is. Do this one simple thing and you will experience a healthy and vibrant relationship.

What stops us from experiencing healing? To understand that, we have to take a look at what stops us from being vulnerable and transparent. Whenever there is a risk of feeling uncomfortable, or hurt, or pain, we'll naturally choose comfort and safety. We have an insecurity, and so we perceive ourselves a certain way. Then, we project that onto the people who we may need to be vulnerable and transp...

www.tinyurl.com/unfeignedpodcast unfeignedpodcast@gmail.com When life gets hard, how do you deal? How do you deal with really stressful times, or really difficult emotions? We all have coping mechanisms, and they will either be healthy or unhealthy. Do you know what your coping mechanisms are? Are they promoting healing or enabling brokenness?

What does it mean to be healed? Healing is misunderstood far too often. It's as though if even the slightest glimpse of who we used to be, or what we used to do, creeps up, then it's assumed that we're not actually healed. It's almost as though the moment we claim to be healed, we're expected to be "perfect". That's not what healing is. Being healed does not mean that the former things don't exist...