Uncomfortable On Purpose

In today’s car pod, I’m talking about people-pleasing, the fear of disappointing your family, and learning to live life on your own terms. We explore the uncomfortable reality that our parents are human beings figuring life out for the first time, too and that loving and respecting the people who raised us doesn’t mean we have to let their expectations dictate our lives. Because sometimes, growing...

In this episode, my husband and I sit down for an honest conversation about friendship, marriage, boundaries, and what happens when two people don’t see eye to eye on what is appropriate in a relationship. We discuss whether married people should have friends of the opposite sex, whether it’s okay to maintain close friendships with single people when you’re married, and whether you should still be...

In today’s Sunday chat, I’m sharing 4 mindset shifts that are changing the way I approach life, relationships, and building the future I want. From why I no longer believe every friendship breakup needs to end in a lifelong feud, to learning to see problems differently and accepting that not everyone will like you, these are some of the lessons I’m learning as I grow into the person I want to beco...

At 27, we thought certain things would look very different. We thought we’d be further along in our careers, own property, have children, and be in a completely different place financially. In this episode, Kudz and I have an honest conversation about the lives we imagined for ourselves, the expectations we put on our twenties, and what it feels like when reality doesn’t quite match the picture in...

It’s been a while, friend. In this episode, I’m catching you up on what’s been happening in my life and behind the scenes of my journey as a creator. The exciting opportunities, the doubts, the comparison, the vulnerability, and the parts of growth that nobody really talks about. I’ve been learning that sometimes when you ask for a bigger life, you’re first given the lessons that prepare you to ca...

Some of the beliefs I held most strongly a few years ago… I don’t believe anymore. In this episode, I’m sharing five things I’ve completely changed my mind about, from what confidence looks like as a Black woman, to friendships, family relationships, my accounting journey, and the need to be well-liked. We talk about how my perspective on natural hair has evolved, why I no longer measure my worth...

Why does asking for more money feel so personal? In this episode, I’m unpacking the internal struggle of charging higher for my work and the money beliefs I didn’t realise I was carrying. From negotiating with brands to questioning my own worth, I’ve started to see that pricing isn’t just a business decision—it’s often a reflection of the stories we believe about ourselves. We explore where our be...

This week’s episode is a little different. Instead of diving into a specific topic, I’m letting you get to know me a little better. I asked my husband to come up with a list of questions, and I answered them without knowing what was coming. It feels less like an interview and more like sitting down for coffee with a friend. If you’ve been listening for a while and have wondered who I am outside of...

What happens when you’ve done everything “right” but success is taking longer than you expected? In this episode of Uncomfortable on Purpose, I’m talking about something I’ve been wrestling with lately: delayed gratification, patience, and learning to trust the process when the results aren’t arriving on your timeline. We live in a world of instant everything—instant communication, instant enterta...

In this episode, we explore a question that many ambitious people quietly wrestle with:  Will anything ever feel like enough? From career goals and financial milestones to relationships, content creation, and personal growth, it’s easy to believe that happiness is waiting on the other side of the next achievement. But what happens when you finally get the thing you’ve been working towards and disc...

In this episode, we’re unpacking the internet’s fascination with public mistakes, online backlash, and why it often feels easier to criticize than to extend grace. From cancel culture and call-out videos to creator burnout and the rise of curated content, we explore how social media has changed the way we share, connect, and show up online. I also reflect on my own relationship with the internet,...

Season 1 is officially wrapped. Six episodes in, and I’ve learned a lot. About this podcast, about showing up, and about what I want this to become. I’m taking a short break to level things up behind the scenes before returning for Season 2. Better, clearer, and more aligned.

Submission. A word that makes some women uncomfortable… and some men very comfortable. In this episode, I unpack a cultural practice that sparked a deeper question in me: How much of what we call “submission” is really about God, and how much of it is just culture, tradition, or even control? We’re getting into: - The uncomfortable tension between cultural expectations and personal conviction - Ho...

In this Ask Me Anything: Deck of Cards Edition, I used random cards as prompts and let the conversation go wherever it wanted. From marriage and PDA to career changes, career pressure, and the fear of disappointing your parents. It’s honest, a little all over the place, and very real. No script, no plan — just me answering whatever comes up. If you’ve ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or unsure about...

In this episode I unpack the subtle “promotion” of romantic relationships over all others. Why do we celebrate love… but quietly downgrade friendship?” I was told growing up that my husband should be my best friend… my only friend. And for a while, I believed that. But I don’t think that advice works for everyone, and I want to talk about why. And if you’ve ever felt left behind by a married frien...

Why do we really have children? In this episode, I unpack the advice many of us grew up hearing; that you should have kids so you won’t be lonely, or that having children will strengthen your marriage. But are those reasons rooted in love… or fear? I reflect on a recent conversation with my parents, question traditional beliefs about motherhood, and explore a perspective that stopped me in my trac...

My grandmother once told me that the day she got married... five of my grandfather's relatives moved into their home. There is so much I want to unpack from her story. Let's dive into Family, marriage expectations, and generational differences. What would YOU have done had you been in my grandmother's shoes?

In this episode, I reflect on growing up in a culture where dating without chaperones wasn't an option. We're talking courtship, structure, boundaries, and how those systems compare to modern dating today. Was it restorative? Protective? Both? As dating culture continues to evolve, it's worth asking: what did we gain, and what did we lose?