Unbreak My Heart

When we're uncomfortable, it can tough to know how to put our thoughts in words. Even tougher, is stepping out and speaking up! What about the risk of all the bad things that might happen?  This Ted talk does a great job addressing the value of being uncomfortable when it's the right thing to do. You'll be encouraged, inspired, entertained and even challenged as Luvvi shares her perspective and pe...

Hi! I'm the host of this show and this is a bit of my most recent breakup story. I was falling in love with a man that often reacted  angrily to unexpected daily situations. These reactions created a lot of division and hurt.  How do you love someone who is hurting inside and then hurts you unintentionally? There is no easy answer to this. And this has been my journey with The Lion King. I am invi...

In this episode you'll hear how Jessica reflects on abusive patterns in relationships, how they've effected her outlook on monogamy, sexual orientation and love. This conversation transitions from recognizing patterns to discovering what is truly holding her back from healing!  I am inviting, you, yes you - to connect and participate in growing this show. You can become part of a support community...

It's the turn of the year, welcome to 2021! In light of the challenging times, I thought it'd be nice to hear from a speaker on anxiety and depression. Johann does a great job putting words around some personal elements that really inspire and express clarity and encouragement. To find more of his resources checkout:  https://johannhari.com I am inviting, you, yes you - to connect and participate...

Ean had an epic trip planned to go to Ireland with close friends and bandmates. Then, enters, Lily. It was love at first sight and she agreed to travel abroad with him so they wouldn't have to be apart!  All was well until he got sick and couldn't go. While recovering, Ean sensed an invitation from a Greater Being, perhaps a Benevolent Father. He was confused. He knew what he wanted was different...

Colleen's heartache carries both sorrow and wisdom. She loved her husband with all her heart. She loved the 3 girls from his previous marriage with all her heart. So much of her story with her ex is tied to the challenges of being the unwanted step-mom of a teen. Her husband struggled with substance abuse and unfortunately, Colleen's love wasn't strong enough to overcome all the adversity that cam...

Albina was stunned after her divorce. At first, she thought God didn't come through for her. She threw caution to the wind and eventually found herself in a relationship with a Muslim man. Despite their parents warnings that blending their faiths was going to be trouble, they forged forward. Eventually, her attitude and his temper almost cost Albina her life. Listen to find out how she navigated t...

Merry found herself at a crossroads. She could stay the course with her husband even though he cheated. She could remain as his wife because he fought so hard to not lose her. Or, she could let go. She could end the relationship and navigate something different on her own.  This is a conversation about Merry navigating the unknown of letting go of her lifestyle, her marriage and embrace a differen...

It's really common to think and say to oneself - "I wish I would've said..." or "If only I could get this off my chest...".  We tend to withhold how we truly feel and the drama of that energy builds up in our bodies and minds - creating toxic thoughts and distance between us and those we care most about. We can retaliate with or are wounded by rejection and attack! Are you willing to pay the price...

Bridget gave herself a pass in her 20's, "it's ok to party hard". She embraced a lifestyle that was wild - drugs, substance abuse and a delicate state of mental health were the norm for awhile. She met a man at a bar and their connection was electrifying and unstable. They were on and off, he was fun and attractive, and she was madly in love - the quintessential bad boy! He had an intervention to...

Alyssa and her boyfriend got pregnant young and their family insisted they get married. Against their better judgement they agreed to follow through with this commitment.  Alyssa found herself struggling as her partner was not very supportive or present. She struggled as keeping up with being a Mom, going to school, work and being a wife.  When she no longer felt safe, she let go of the relationsh...

Has anyone ever caught you off-guard and wooed you? Anna met Sean while contra dancing, at first she didn't want to date him, but eventually, she changed her mind.  It was the end of college and her dream was to explore more of the world. Sean wanted to plant some roots and with Anna by his side. With an open heart and mind, also, against her better judgement - she accepted his invitation to move...

20 years ago Sandy and Burt dated. Their paths crossed again, and eventually, Burt invited Sandy to date once more... this time he was a married man newly exploring an open marriage with his wife.  Even though Sandy had some experience with non-traditional relationships, this was new for her too. What kind of risks would her heart and soul encounter as she worked through mitigating attachment, des...

Molly is a musician and performer who was wooed by a fan. They fell in love and as soon as they got married all of the dreaminess they experienced while dating quickly shifted to something much more distant.  He felt he made a mistake. They did their best at "doing the right thing" and working on their marriage. In spite of their efforts, trouble brewed - whether it was from their past, their fait...

After 8 years, of sharing life and growing up together, their relationship took an unexpected turn. Glen and Katie met in college, started dating, eventually moved in with each other, and became happy cat owners. They had their ups and downs like all couples but it seemed like Katie got more distant over time.  She was from the Mainland and missed her friends and family. Her visits home got longer...

How many times do we find ourselves stuck in our own heads, or comparing ourselves to others? What if - we had a way to get ourselves unstuck - and discover solutions to overcome our pain or find the missing pieces in our lives?  Well, according to Barbara Sher we have to change our common understanding of why we so often fail to bring our dreams into reality – blaming bad attitude, negative think...

"I'm doing this for you", he said. This is not such a straight forward statement when two people are not on the same page. There is sacrifice, guilt, regret and even resentment that can come with such a noble idea.  This story is truly about the growing pains of self-discovery and and how one's heart can change over time and there's no significant explanation as to why feelings no longer carry the...

"It's not you, it's me." Can we take that statement at face value? Or do we read into it and create a story that only emphasizes the shame we feel about ourselves? Sophya is an overcomer who is worn out by years of carrying the weight and pain of her past. Some things happened to her that were out of her control and other things were mistakes she made.  Together Sophya and I address healing throug...

Imagine you meet your soul mate, only to find that there's no way to make the relationship evolve past isolated moments of bliss. This is not an easy reality to accept. Kurt found himself more alive than he'd ever known himself to be; he also found himself empty, exhausted and confused. Why could a connection so strong fall so short?  That's not all. Newly single, he met another woman who showed h...

They loved each other, they were young, they were pregnant and they got married. Shortly after their son was born, Jenn found out he had fluid in his skull, that her husband was cheating on her and that the doctor thought they might be hurting their newborn!  They survived the tragedies but eventually the marriage ended. A second relationship ensued where Jenn found herself pregnant and with a man...

Why is hindsight so powerful? One reason is the clarity with which we see the past. Our narrative has fewer gaps and we can see missed opportunities or the error in our ways.  It's often unpleasant to discover where we were wrong. It happens so often in relationships as we reflect on how it started one way and ended another.  I have found we are often hard on ourselves or amiss to the insights tha...

Chrissy is a survivor of childhood traumas and when she married "J", it was because he was a stable guy and he had a great family. After awhile, she noticed her body had many ill symptoms physically, mentally, and emotionally. She had some good and bad habits to cope with her situation. ...She spent too much money, she slept too much, she didn't work for awhile, her meds weren't helping, and she w...

Shelia is from New York and moved to Portland, Oregon in her mid-20's. She was unsure of her sexual orientation, maybe she was bi-sexual or maybe she was a lesbian? When she landed in Portland, she started dating and eventually found herself in a legal domestic partnership with "Bug".  As much as they loved each other, they weren't able to overcome some unhealthy dynamics. Her partner was an alcoh...

She was in an unhappy marriage and she saw a chance to explore an old romance. Her first love from highschool appeared years later in her life and, when they crossed paths, they felt electric!  What price would you pay to explore an old romance? She gave up her family, her husband and so much more to see what might be in store for she and her ex. He, too, was married and a Father and let it all go...

She was in an unhappy marriage and she saw a chance to explore an old romance. Her first love from highschool appeared years later in her life and, when they crossed paths, they felt electric!  What price would you pay to explore an old romance? She gave up her family, her husband and so much more to see what might be in store for she and her ex. He, too, was married and a Father and let it all go...