Unbreak My Heart

Bridget gave herself a pass in her 20's, "it's ok to party hard". She embraced a lifestyle that was wild - drugs, substance abuse and a delicate state of mental health were the norm for awhile. She met a man at a bar and their connection was electrifying and unstable. They were on and off, he was fun and attractive, and she was madly in love - the quintessential bad boy! He had an intervention to...

Albina was stunned after her divorce. At first, she thought God didn't come through for her. She threw caution to the wind and eventually found herself in a relationship with a Muslim man. Despite their parents warnings that blending their faiths was going to be trouble, they forged forward. Eventually, her attitude and his temper almost cost Albina her life. Listen to find out how she navigated t...

Doesn't heartache feel unfair and like unwanted suffering? When we are rejected, we can feel disoriented. It's hard to know we're loved, that we belong and we are valued. This is the danger of a rough breakup! No matter what you go through, it is never true that you aren't worthy of love. This is when we suffer. We had our partner and we belonged together. When we are no more, there is suffering....

When we feel alone in the darkness, when we're being bullied by lies that say we aren't worthy - we need hope and faith! Sometimes, just that you're showing up is enough. It counts and you're not alone!  This chat echos these sentiments as Brene and Oprah share about risks and consequences of vulnerability. Thank you for listening! You're invited! Let me know if you'd  like to participate in colla...

Holidays are especially challenging when facing the loss of a loved one. It seems like grief comes like the grim-reaper or a pirate ready to weigh you down and force you to walk the plank. We stare into the abyss and wonder where to find life in the darkness of our pain. I hope to encourage you that transformation is possible even when you're at the lowest low! Every one of us needs to be seen and...

Ean had an epic trip planned to go to Ireland with close friends and bandmates. Then, enters, Lily. It was love at first sight and she agreed to travel abroad with him so they wouldn't have to be apart!  All was well until he got sick and couldn't go. While recovering, Ean sensed an invitation from a Greater Being, perhaps a Benevolent Father. He was confused. He knew what he wanted was different...

What's the cost of not yet knowing yourself? For some people, it resembles a mid-life crisis. We wake up one day and the life we have is disconnected from who we are. Daniel had trace experiences of this effect. What started with attraction, romance and a life-long commitment ended in rejection and eventually forgiveness. Life's lessons are ever-present, Daniel continues to embrace them, learning...

None of us want to be robbed. It's violating and theft! We are possessive of our belongings and to some extent or another have a degree of attachment to what's ours. It's clear to see if our house or car have been robbed. What if our relationships are being robbed? What if there's a thief that takes what is rightfully ours right from under our noses but we don't even notice? Or we might notice but...

Happy Thanksgiving! Today, I'd like to share a gratitude exercise, a little story about courage and an update about the podcast for the next few months. Thank you for listening! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart.com for more information.

Not all relationships on the brink of failure are hopeless. There are tools that can help you discover where the negative patterns of communication and behavior come from. This talk is a replay of a conversation between the author, Oprah and a few couples who find out they can be vulnerable and redeem their relationships! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate be...

Falling in love is the phrase we've heard since birth. We've also learned falling hurts and "feeling" in love might not be so easy to sustain long-term. This is a topic Mandy addresses in her talk. What if we could build intimacy with someone, be seen and known and experience deeper connection? Could this help improve our relationships? Listen to find out! If you'd like to take the love questionna...

In a live appearance at UCLA's Royce Hall, Dr. Brené Brown discusses the fundamentals of trust. Brené explains how she was moved to focus on the topic after watching her daughter struggle with a betrayal of trust. Brené says she eventually found a way to teach her daughter to build trust and identify the people in her life who deserve it. She also explains why gossip harms relationships more than...

Finding your way through the world is not easy. The mystery of love can be too much to bear when we're feeling alone and isolated. Jonny talks to this idea of not feeling like he belongs and the saving grace in his life has been connection to people, even when they've been strangers. Listen for fresh hope and inspiration as Jonny talks about his creative and unexpected journey to discovering a mis...

How do you move gracefully through grief? Good question! Grace doesn't have to look pretty during grief. Grace is being willing to open your eyes through the tears, the sorrow, the anger and confusion.  In this case, Jay and I walk through some of his grief together. You'll hear us chat through a coaching conversation where new tools, insights and ideas are shared providing some encouragement and...

One of the scariest things we encounter with heartbreak is losing a loving bond to fear and regret. Jay thought he met the woman whom he'd marry. They were a perfect fit, or so he hoped.  Three years into dating it felt like it was time to start taking things to the next level. Jay felt panicked and his fears seemed to override his hope and love for his girlfriend. What felt safe became rocky and...

Alcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins of sobriety. Listen as Ann shares her lessons, her heartache, and discovers her gains! We have a Patreo...

What happens when your intuition tells you one thing ,  yet you do another? Consequences!  This conversation is a vulnerable   recounting of the heartache and lessons learned in dismissing one's intuition. In  Kate's case,  when  her intuition  hinted  she couldn't trust those who asked for her heart in marriage , she doubted herself and  said yes anyway. The consequences? She found herself   assa...

Jennifer was teaching English overseas when she met a man in the military who won her heart! They got engaged and she was hopeful for a future together.  Along the way, there were signs, some things about his stories didn't add up. After some time and "gut-led" investigation, she discovered he was married and had no intention of marrying her.  This is a woeful tale of heartache, embarrassment and...

What if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it!  Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's fascinating and may provoke some new thoughts and insights. Enjoy! We have a Patreon membership accou...

What do you do with all the stuff that remains left behind after a breakup? What if you can't bear to get rid of it?  Understanding that grief has many phases and comes and goes in waves will help you be patient with yourself and the process. This episode has practical steps and examples on how to help yourself move past the lingering remnants of you and your ex. You are worthy of love. Remember,...

Life is happening one way for a time. There's a routine. Then life changes, our partner is gone and we're stuck with whatever residual and leftovers there are. How can we move on when we're bottled up inside or everything is bottlenecked trying to come out at once? One solution: purging! Listen to here some good ideas on purging and how it can help you find peace and sanity! We have a Patreon memb...

Along the way, we learn life lessons. Love is always pursuing us and we may not know it or be able to receive it. What about when we declare our love to someone and behave in a way that is contrary to what we say? Why do we hold on to someone when we don't want to be faithful? Or when we want a completely different life?  In this example, Femi shares his personal story of a time when he was put to...

Our emotions can hit us like a tidal wave. We can splash around asking for friends and family to be our lifelines, is that enough? How do we go from drowning in our sorrow to staying afloat and navigating our way out of the dangerous waters of despair?  I share some insights on how to identify what's keeping you stuck with on your ex and suggestions on how to strengthen yourself as you work throug...

We hope to avoid bad things happening to us and we do our best to not be the bad guy in someone else's life. What happens when the bad things come? No sex? Cheating? Loneliness? Divorce and break-ups?  Maureen speaks to the unspeakable things that we tend to handle on our own - isolated, afraid, embarrassed or ashamed. You're in for a treat! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out h...

What is something that makes breakups so tough? This episode, I will share some tips and ideas on steps you can work on during the relationship.  Communication is sometimes one of the toughest elements in a relationship and when that fails working through the loss of your partner increases exponentially. Listen to discover some fresh ideas or find assurance in things you may already be working on....