Unbreak My Heart

Along the way, we learn life lessons. Love is always pursuing us and we may not know it or be able to receive it. What about when we declare our love to someone and behave in a way that is contrary to what we say? Why do we hold on to someone when we don't want to be faithful? Or when we want a completely different life?  In this example, Femi shares his personal story of a time when he was put to...

In this episode, you'll hear how Jessica reflects on abusive patterns in relationships, and how they've affected her outlook on monogamy, sexual orientation, and love. This conversation transitions from recognizing patterns to discovering what is truly holding her back from healing!    photo by @amytreasure audio engineering and production by Danny Chau

Trent married young because that's what you're supposed to do - meet a girl and marry her... He was raised with religious mindset that you have to do things according to these rules and if you break them - it's sinful.  This conditioning set him up for a tough road ahead when he met a woman that wasn't particularly compatible for him. They tried making their marriage work until they broke. We expl...

It's official! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Today's guest shares about how she fell in love with a dear friend - not knowing he was married! One of her greatest lessons was that her intuition never lies and it's not something you...

Anger and hate can burn us from the inside out. Breakups are known to cause this type of burn. That's what happened to Kiona. She was torn apart after her boyfriend called it off. Not only did she have to cope with this loss but it also made her confront who she was. New questions surfaced, for example: Am I angry with him? Or am I just an angry person? Listen to find out how Kiona has worked thro...

Jake found the love of his life at a young age. He was content being her man without getting married. Why get married and risk the pain of divorce? He saw what it did to his parents and wanted to avoid in his life. She convinced him otherwise and ... it didn't go so well. We take a deep dive into those patterns and pull out some strong aha's! Listen to find out what happens and even learn what som...

Young, insecure and longing for attention, Kalei falls for a boy during college orientation. It could be love at first sight, he even seems to like her back.  This is a story of a CRUSH. Both Kalei and David fall for each other but never really put themselves out there to truly come together. Instead, they dip their toe into relationship status for 2 weeks and quickly bail - only to become best fr...

Imagine you meet your soul mate, only to find that there's no way to make the relationship evolve past isolated moments of bliss. This is not an easy reality to accept. Kurt found himself more alive than he'd ever known himself to be; he also found himself empty, exhausted and confused. Why could a connection so strong fall so short?  That's not all. Newly single, he met another woman who showed h...

This interview with Katelyn is two stories in one. First, it's very fresh - she lost her Swedish fiancé only 3 months ago. In her closet now hangs the wedding dress she'll never wear. She was blindsided by his sudden change of heart. To understand her breakup - we have to hear the back story   The second half of this interview we start more of a dialogue to process what may have been happening alo...

She's had two serious breakups - she thought she was over her first love, but, to her surprise, she realized this wasn't true. Alex exposed her to new dynamics of intimacy, trust and betrayal. The disillusionment of what was once magical has led Rose down a path of uncertainty about monogamy, marriage and procreation. To what extent do those things carry value in today's modern and progressive rel...

Stacey is 44, an Asian refugee who grew up in New Zealand and made his way to America. Our conversation is casual and insightful. As an Asian man, sharing feelings and opening up about personal experiences is out of the ordinary.  He fell in love with Sarah, they thought they would marry but ended up going their separate ways. Stacey shares about how their mindsets, world views and cultural differ...

They decided they weren't each other's forever person. It was their sophomore year of college and even though they had fun together, the spark just wasn't there. However, there was no ill will and they wanted to involve their close friends in the breakup. Jyssica and Benji decided to host a Break-Up Party. 10 friends gathered together to pronounce their friends single! Little did Jyssica know, tha...

What does it mean when your ex reaches out to you, out of the blue, years after your breakup? It could be that it's time to get some things out in the open and reconcile old wounds and feelings. Or it could be a way of checking in after years of being apart.    Mashaun recounts the story of how he and his ex handled their breakup. They were teenagers, in Atlanta, gay and stuck in the broken relati...

She said yes to marrying him but she didn't mean it. As John's wife, she started acting as if their marriage wasn't real. After some time, John got their marriage annulled.  After successfully going through a few years of recovery John learned, from experience, that he couldn't fix or rescue his wife. Letting her go wasn't easy nor was the alternative of living with someone who wasn't honest. List...

Impressionable and strong willed, Antonia found herself in a toxic loveless relationship at a young age that hurt and haunted her for years.  After some time, she met someone new and found her heart could indeed fall deeply in love; yet, the timing was off. She already planned on an overseas adventure to do some soul searching which meant they had to make a tough choice. Alex, knew she needed to b...

Goodness! This is a great story of a woman who went through the "school of life" because of a 6 year relationship with a man who broke her heart 3 times.  Remanda is a strong, determined and "don't quit -> win" kinda girl. When she started dating for the first time she gave 200%. Being from China, her culture affected many of the decisions she made, especially about how to pursue a career, how to...

Charity feels as though she had been blindsided by the darkness hiding under her wifes' pain. A childhood injury had left her wife with chronic pain that led her down a dangerous and destructive path of self medication with heroin. Heroin was a master at hiding and deceiving. Charity was taken for a fool and lost everything. Her house was gone, career destroyed, personal finances in shambles, and...

When Grace met Eric, they became inseparable. Eric's wife had recently left him for another woman, his story was so moving it seemed to create a strong bond with Grace. Even though Eric's marriage ended, not much changed with his ex. Grace didn't realize it at first, but she was always going to be the outsider in Eric's life, she was never the priority. Her intuition gave her warning signs, she ig...

Keri and I mined through a life-changing relationship she had with an abusive ex-boyfriend. Her gut told her no but her infatuation ignored that still-small voice deep inside.  It's been a while since they were together yet there are still lingering injuries from what happened between them. This conversation is rich with heartfelt memories, insights, wisdom, lessons learned, and encouragement!  Yo...

Lacey's story is quite non-linear.   She started out as a wild college girl whose daily lifestyle included drinking, using drugs, and endless partying. Sex was like a sport, a game to win - the more men, the more power, and the more she knew she was wanted and desired. After college, she found herself falling in love with a music DJ, Thomas. Thomas was a high school dropout also deep into drinking...

Ingrid Fetell Lee has devoted ten years to answering the question: "How do tangible things create intangible joy?" Drawing on research from the fields of neuroscience and psychology, her book,  Joyful , and her website " The Aesthetics of Joy " explore the powerful connection between our surroundings and our emotions, and empower people to find more joy in daily life through design. 

Molly is a musician and performer who was wooed by a fan. They fell in love and as soon as they got married all of the dreaminess they experienced while dating quickly shifted to something much more distant.  He felt he had made a mistake. They did their best at "doing the right thing" and working on their marriage. In spite of their efforts, trouble brewed - whether it was from their past, their...

My good friend Kari and I dive into the heart of what happens after heartache. Her husband cheated on her which ended in divorce after 12 years of marriage. Throughout years of processing grief, learning to forgive, and walking hundreds of miles she found peace and contentment. She's been single a while now, embracing the new challenges of trusting herself, love, and a potential new partner one da...

You're going to meet Timbre. She looks like Wonder Woman who's been suffering from decades of imprisonment. A powerful yet squeamishly uncomfortable conversation ensues, as we hear about the breakup that has her trapped. Almost three years later, she's still haunted in her dreams and her consciousness. Her raw honesty and sense of humor lighten the heaviness but don't keep her from shrinking from...

Bel is returning to talk through the grief and anxiety of making the decision to stay with her ex or move on and follow her dreams.  They love each other and have a great relationship. They also happened upon a non-negotiable. He wants to build roots in their hometown. She wants to explore the world and visit home but not live there. Can they compromise? Or do they have to find a way to face the f...