Unbreak My Heart

Daniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life.  He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he truly was.  It wasn't until his 3rd marriage and counseling, that he finally realized his behaviors and b...

So many thoughts and questions arise when talking with Spencer. He was betrayed a few times in a row with women that brought out extreme opposite sides of himself. He took time to recover after his second break up and found himself wounded again in an unexpected way. Through his trials, he discovered ways to accept - what is and let go of - the idea of himself or the idea of what life should be. S...

What if you could look into your past to find out how you got here today? Daniella found family letters from childhood that revealed insights to some personal relationship patterns. In an unfortunate and unlikely way she realized she needed to re-assess how to care for her heart.  Through all her breakups and heartaches, Daniella began a journey of healing. Through her journey she realized everyon...

Ending a relationship is an opportunity we can embrace to become a better person. Sometimes breakups are unexpected, or they end a bad situation. Either way, what if this is the ticket out of prison - a fresh start to exploring life without being stuck? Gary addresses this very topic in today's episode. Thank you for listening!

Raul, found love in New York with a partner who seemed to be a dream come true. Raul invested wholeheartedly into the relationship - holding nothing back. Only one seed of doubt existed in their connection and he sensed it from the beginning. Was Anthony going to be ready? Did he still need time to explore the world as a single man? Anthony is six years younger than Raul. After two years of bliss,...

Maranda is still recovering from a breakup that happened a year ago. He ended 4 1/2 years in a text and it's left her hurting.  After a lot of time to self-reflect, we take time on this episode to deep dive into what holds her back from moving forward. Guilt, regret and anger have plagued her long enough! Listen to find out how she navigates her way to greater freedom and clarity. We have a patreo...

The attachments we carry with us to our partner are what bond us. Those attachments also make letting go after a breakup pretty tough, sometimes, near impossible. Is it a matter of the mind or the heart? Could it be both? Dessa, couldn't let go. "Everyone else seems to be able to do this, why is it so tough for me?". In this short and light-hearted presentation, she shares how neuroscience helped...

What happens when you open the door to your body and soul wide open? Liberty tells us about the adventures of online dating and self-discovery. She was married for a long time and since her divorce, she's explored her artistic creativity, her spirit of adventure, and her sexuality. Some of it has been fun and some of it has left her with deep pain.  For more information about Liberty - follow her...

Alcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins of sobriety. Listen as Ann shares her lessons, her heartache, and discovers her gains! We have a Patreo...

Sometimes you miss the good things you had even though it was far from perfect. April struggled with anorexia and her boyfriend didn't quite get the scope of her pain. The relationship ended but the feelings remained.  He had big news - he's going to be a Dad! Any hopes of a future dissolved. She met someone new and he isn't the man she longs for... can you relate to being stuck in the sticky shad...

Not all relationships on the brink of failure are hopeless. There are tools that can help you discover where the negative patterns of communication and behavior come from. This talk is a replay of a conversation between the author, Oprah, and a few couples who find out they can be vulnerable and redeem their relationships! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate b...

Will had a good job and a nice house. He was looking for a wife, someone to build a future and a home with. When he met Maddie, they fell fast!  She was a strong, independent woman and knew what she liked. Turns out that was a mask. Beneath the mask he found a woman who was afraid, isolating, and controlling. When he tried to have boundaries their capacity for compatibility started to wane. This s...

When you look at your past, do you see failure? Tracy did. She thought she'd find love by marrying men who'd make her feel at home and like she had a place to belong.  It wasn't working. She always knew she wanted to be married, and discovered that if she could marry herself and be committed, faithful and trustworthy - then she could know love. Her story is sweet and inspiring. No matter what stag...

Doesn't heartache feel unfair and like unwanted suffering? When we are rejected, we can feel disoriented. It's hard to know we're loved, that we belong and we are valued. This is the danger of a rough breakup! No matter what you go through, it is never true that you aren't worthy of love. This is when we suffer. We had our partner and we belonged together. When we are no more, there is suffering....

When we feel alone in the darkness, when we're being bullied by lies that say we aren't worthy - we need hope and faith! Sometimes, just that you're showing up is enough. It counts and you're not alone!  This chat echos these sentiments as Brene and Oprah share about risks and consequences of vulnerability. Thank you for listening! You're invited! Let me know if you'd  like to participate in colla...

Falling in love for the first time or even the 20th time is both exhilarating and disorienting.  After he found out his girlfriend was cheating on her he decided it wasn't safe to fall in love again. It's best to hold back part of my heart and my love so I don't feel that pain again.  What are the consequences we pay for putting our hearts in a cast and never taking it off? What price do we pay wh...

She cheated but the relationship was fractured before her one night stand. Was it the difference in their religious beliefs, or lifestyle interests or general compatibility? It's most likely a combination of all the above. Listen as Eirik and I explore marriage, divorce, love, religion and relationships! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes an...

"We all go through bad seasons". David starts his talk with these universal words. Whether we get what we want or lose what we thought we wanted, we can experience a sense of feeling delusional. I believe David does a great job addressing some of the moments where we have to reconcile the picture we had in our minds to what's actually happening in reality. I hope you are encouraged by this talk if...

What if there were a skeleton key to unlock difficult relationships? It comes in the form of boundaries! Learning to yes and no is one of the most overlooked traits to helping us have healthy relationships and great self-care.  Sarri takes us through a new perspective that will inspire us to have better boundaries. Don't miss this, you'll appreciate the valuable tools she shares.  

Do you explore dating apps hoping for something special or short-term fun? Is it just a digital pen pal or a foundation for something more? Keilee thought she connected with someone special.  She was naive and he was cowardly. This combination led to a four-year tug-of-war on heartstrings that were meant to be played for love, not play her. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out ho...

B is a young Lebanese-American man whose family is originally from Lebanon. Even though he thinks he's generally a good person, he finds himself wrestling with an internal monster.  He first noticed this monster of rage when he dated Brenda. Maybe she created the monster? But after they broke up that monster came out again in other relationships. Now B is looking inward. At his lowest moments he f...

Dailee was dumped by her Jewish boyfriend and it stung hard! She has recovered well; however, in our chat we found an old wound from the fall out between she and her first love.  Even though it was years ago the negative words he spoke hadn't yet left her. Dailee was brave in facing an old scar that no longer needs to make it's home in her soul! We have a patreon membership account! Please check o...

The lingering thoughts and feelings at the end of a relationship can be overwhelming and obsessive. You can feel stuck.  Not only does it take a while to get over a relationship, the remnants can haunt us in the future. In this TedTalk, we will hear simple, practical, and helpful advice on how to sort through the end of the relationship and how to get closure. 

It's really common to think and say to oneself - "I wish I would've said..." or "If only I could get this off my chest...".  We tend to withhold how we truly feel and the drama of that energy builds up in our bodies and minds - creating toxic thoughts and distance between us and those we care most about. We can retaliate with or are wounded by rejection and attack! Are you willing to pay the price...

Anger is an emotion that can reveal an injustice, help us with a boundary and even get us in trouble. When we experience anger, sometimes, we can shake it off. Other times, it lingers and becomes a weapon.  This Ted Talk creates a fresh perspective on our anger! It's refreshing and fun to have a new way of seeing why we get mad. Please check out the new website www.unbreakmyheartpodcast.com and fi...