Unbreak My Heart

Sometimes we find ourselves in a relationship and something shifts. That something can be really clear - like losing a job. Or, that something could inexplicable.  Chloe's partner had one of those shifts. He changed his mind and didn't really seem to know it or at the very least communicate it well. The whole life they had built together over 6 years seemed to end in vapors. They find ways to conn...

Insecurities about our sexuality plague many of us. Caleb has some tough stories to hear about how his heart and soul ache over some unfortunate dating experiences. This is a heavy episode! We talk about dating a sex worker, being used, drugged and violated.  We don't end on a low note though! We find the voice of anger and discover a few ways to reclaim the identity that has been stolen from Cale...

Anger and hate can burn us from the inside out. Breakups are known to cause this type of burn. That's what happened to Kiona. She was torn apart after her boyfriend called it off. Not only did she have to cope with this loss but it also made her confront who she was. New questions surfaced, for example: Am I angry with him? Or am I just an angry person? Listen to find out how Kiona has worked thro...

Marcus and his lady were engaged and in love. He pictured his future with her until she said "it's over" - blindsiding him at the end of their vacation. Marcus was crushed. He found comfort in writing songs and playing his music. This outlet also gave him confidence to let go and find his way back to the light.  We enjoyed discussing our mutual joy in advocating for love and exploring tough questi...

Jason is a soft spoken and responsible young man whose ultimate goal was to keep a smile on his girl's face.  He shares about how he comprised his own values by allowing his girlfriend to talk him into group sex.  Disclaimer, he talks openly about their sexuality. This was a tough story to hear, Jason struggles with standing up for himself. Listening to someone get repeatedly taken advantage of is...

You're going to meet Timbre. She looks like Wonder Woman who's been suffering from decades of imprisonment. A powerful yet squeamishly uncomfortable conversation ensues, as we hear about the breakup that has her trapped. Almost three years later, she's still haunted in her dreams and her consciousness. Her raw honesty and sense of humor lighten the heaviness but don't keep her from shrinking from...

The lingering thoughts and feelings at the end of a relationship can    be overwhelming and obsessive. You can feel stuck.  Not only does it take awhile to get over a relationship, the remnants can haunt us in the future. In this TedTalk, we will hear simple, practical and helpful advice on how to sort through the end of relationship and how to get closure. 

Have you fallen for the wrong person? Have the consequences been privately and/or publicly embarrassing and unbearable?  This happened to Monica; she fell for the wrong man, President Bill Clinton. Her heart was broken and she faced an incredible amount of public shaming. Many of us have been in situations where private info was leaked or we've been harassed because of ties to former lovers.  Moni...

It's the turn of a new year and so much of what we hope for tends to be at the forefront of our minds. You might be working through some tough circumstances, emotions and consequences. Or you may be looking at what you want and making strides to get there - whether it be with love or other life ambitions.  This Tedtalk, by Leonard Kim, will put into perspective what it takes to overcome being at r...

Jonathan was infatuated with her. Two artists fell for one another and found themselves moving quickly into a serious relationship. They took risks by trying something long distance, even changing jobs and states to be together. It seems they knew how to enjoy each one another but something was missing that kept them from seeing things through. Listen to Jonathon as he shares about the breakup tha...

40 break-ups in 40 years! This lady has learned a lot about herself and has not given up hope to find her Mr. Right. Katy is so honest about the ups and downs of dating, and now that she's in her 40's - she is experiencing some of the consequences of singleness.  If you've been dating to meet your match, waiting not to settle, frustrated or stuck in your own patterns, and may be grieving the loss...

Keri and I mined through a life changing relationship she had with an abusive ex-boyfriend. Her gut told her no but her infatuation ignored that still-small voice deep inside.  It's been awhile a since they were together yet there are still lingering injuries from what happened between them. This conversation is rich with heart-felt memories, insights, wisdom, lessons learned and encouragement!  Y...

What is one of the reasons why breaking up is so tough? Could it be procrastination? We don't want to be hurt or hurt others... we end up avoiding difficult conversations, being honest with ourselves or others and making tough choices... This is a humorous and insightful Ted Talk that will surprise and delight you. You'll learn about the monkey mind of immediate gratification and how the panic mon...

This time of year is tough on our hearts. Loss, breakups, loneliness  and other dark feelings can consume us. This TedTalk is a story of hope and inspiration! Mark and Simone find ways to accept hardships, loss, fear, and grief in ways that will encourage you to be brave, courageous and believe that there's more. 

Impressionable and strong willed, Antonia found herself in a toxic loveless relationship at a young age that hurt and haunted her for years.  After some time, she met someone new and found her heart could indeed fall deeply in love; yet, the timing was off. She already planned on an overseas adventure to do some soul searching which meant they had to make a tough choice. Alex, knew she needed to b...

Cam Adair tells a story of our society's collective nightmare: rejection. It's a story we've all lived through before but this one ends with a plot twist. He speaks to the universal experience and paralyzing fear of rejection while exposing his own inner turmoil he trudged through as a teenager. After years of intense bullying starting at age 13 where the fun game was "Who can stuff Cam into a tra...

What does it mean when your ex reaches out to you, out of the blue, years after your breakup? It could be that it's time to get some things out in the open and reconcile old wounds and feelings. Or it could be a way of checking in after years of being apart.    Mashaun recounts the story of how he and his ex handled their breakup. They were teenagers, in Atlanta, gay and stuck in the broken relati...

Just like that, he announced "I've got to go". After a night of laughter and years of dating, he broke up with her and walked away with no explanation. He broke Ashlee's heart and she felt like something inside of her died. Listen to find out how she navigated the aftermath of her breakup and how we take one step closer to closure on pain from the past. We have a patreon membership account! Please...

Just like that, he announced "I've got to go". After a night of laughter and years of dating, he broke up with her and walked away with no explanation. He broke Ashlee's heart and she felt like something inside of her died. Listen to find out how she navigated the aftermath of her breakup and how we take one step closer to closure on pain from the past. We have a patreon membership account! Please...

Each story of heartache addresses behaviors that we aren't proud of or hurt us. Louise shares five different perspectives on how to respond to others behaviors and how to be more self-aware.  This is a fun lesson to learn and very easily applicable in looking at yourself and your relationships with a fresh filter.

You want to do the right thing. You want to see love grow and last a lifetime. That's what George thought he found! He found himself at home with her even when she received a terminal diagnosis.  He was devastated to find out that she had been cheating and couldn't bring himself to trust her again. Eventually, he moved on and found himself in another situation with a woman who was kind yet detache...

How we go about making changes can seem overwhelming, especially in the area of heartache. Our little habits can have a big impact on shifting us out of an old or unwanted place.  Today's show is a Ted Talk by BJ Fogg who teaches us perspective and techniques on how tiny habits lead to long lasting change. To learn more about BJ and his resources please visit:  https://www.bjfogg.com Remember - yo...

This is a Ted talk by Clinical Psychologist, Meg Jay. What is the cost of our wild or unintentional thoughts? What is the cost of living in the moment and not planning ahead? What is the cost of being in relationships that don't really serve us or others well?  Meg explores these ideas and more in her brief Ted Talk. Our 20's are a defining decade that can set the trajectory of our futures. Listen...

She cheated but the relationship was fractured before her one night stand. Was it the difference in their religious beliefs, or lifestyle interests or general compatibility? It's most likely a combination of all the above. Listen as Eirik and I explore marriage, divorce, love, religion and relationships! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes an...

Imagine you meet your soul mate, only to find that there's no way to make the relationship evolve past isolated moments of bliss. This is not an easy reality to accept. Kurt found himself more alive than he'd ever known himself to be; he also found himself empty, exhausted and confused. Why could a connection so strong fall so short?  That's not all. Newly single, he met another woman who showed h...