Ujima Spirit

We discussed what women go through during pregnancy & birth: learning to appreciate them: societal issues; sexism & misogyny; physical & emotional problems; domestic violence & medical complications

We discussed the different reasons why we use assumptions & why it's necessary to question our assumptions.

We discussed different reasons why some people change; different types of changes & outcomes.

We continued our discussion on toxic & dysfunctional parents; negative consequences of growing with toxic parents & how to address past toxic parents as adults.

We discussed the behaviors of toxic & dysfunctional parents: neglect & and abandonment; failure to protect; depriving children of their childhood & allowing children to make adult decisions.

Poem: Learn to let it go

We discussed the importance of having a sacred space for safety, peace, love, acceptance, support, & understanding; need to protect, honor, & appreciate your sacred space and who can enter your sacred space.

We discussed why some people engage in infidelity; different types of cheaters; signs of cheating; why partners stay with cheaters & how to deal with cheating partners

Poem: little brother

Poem: living is loving and loving is living

We discussed the different reasons why women should submit to their men in relationships: love, respect, honor, admiration, conviction, self-gain, & faith. Also, we reviewed reasons why some women refuse to submit to their men: fear, domination, control, & oppression.

We discussed different reasons why some people can't say no: low self-esteem; exposure to past traumatic experiences; external validation; sense of duty & obligation; feeling sorry & pity; feeling guilty & ashamed and not thinking of consequences.

We discussed the definition & meaning of projection; what causes projection; characteristics of projection; negative consequences of projection, and resolving projection.

Poem: You don't have a man

Poem: You were my nightmare

Poem: You want me to understand, but you don't understand

We discussed some of the reasons people can like or dislike others: safety & security;comfortablity; familiarity; commonality;mannerism; personality traits; sociable; good communication;rudeness; patronizing and condescending.

We discussed how to identify different types of sabotaging behaviors that are used in unhealthy, abusive, & dysfunctional relationships.

We discussed the meaning of self-worth; knowing our value as human beings; learning not to base self-worth on external factors and developing high self-esteem based on self-worth.

We discussed the differences between appetite & hunger;what causes an increase in appetite; how to distinguish appetite from hunger; how to control appetite and negative effects of uncontrolled appetite.

We discussed the differences between being entitled and having a sense of entitlement; how people are entitled to receive certain things; what causes a sense of entitlement; signs of sense of entitlement & ways to address it.

We discussed the different seasons & stages of the life cycle; different lessons to be learned & objectives to accomplish.

We discussed false memory; distortion & fabrication of the mind; different types of false memories; causes of false memory; consequences of false memory and characteristics of a false memory.

We discussed the characteristics of Gaslighting as a form of manipulation, mental &emotional abuse; why some people use gaslighting; common statements & comments used by people using gaslighting and how to address it.

Poem: fathers where are you