Betches Media

U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new...

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Betches Media

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Society

Podcast website

betches.com

Latest episode

Oct 23, 2026

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Episodes

How To Tell Your Best Friend You Have Feelings For Them Ft. Tinx 16.05.2021

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Tinx, and they start with a discussion about the differences between dating in NYC, LA, and San Francisco. Then they dive into Tinx’s dating life and her Box Theory about the right time to sleep with someone you’re dating. Later, they answer a listener’s email asking if she should tell her best friend she has feelings for him, and Tinx...

Will My Relationship Survive After The Pandemic? 12.05.2021

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and they start out with a discussion of the viral video of Ben Affleck shooting his shot with a woman who unmatched him on Raya. The first email asks how to deal with going back to the office when her boyfriend wants to continue their nomadic pandemic lifestyle. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves three condoms and a dog. Later, J&J try to figure...

A Matchmaker’s Guide To Finding Love Ft. Matchmaker Maria 09.05.2021

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Matchmaker Maria. They start out with a discussion about how Maria got into matchmaking and how she applied her matchmaking strategies to meeting her own husband. Maria breaks down how the matchmaking process works, the types of guys who hire matchmakers, and how men and women differ when it comes to matchmaking. Later, Maria e...

Is Faking An Orgasm Anti-Feminist? 05.05.2021

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about experimenting with your look. The first email asks about the etiquette of orgasms. Is it ever okay to fake it? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost too gross to believe. Later, an emailer asks J&J to sort out her boyfriend’s shady phone behavior. Is it always a bad sign if your S.O. doesn’t want to share their passcode? Finally, they...

Not Everyone Who Doesn’t Want To Date You Is A F*ckboy 02.05.2021

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts from a “verbose fuckboy.” The listener received some very lengthy text messages from someone she was dating essentially saying, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Does his long explanation and apology mean he is being genuine? Or is he just like other guys who run at the first sign of a serious relationship? Pl...

How To Have Casual Hookups Without Feeling Disrespected 28.04.2021

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the energy in NYC and the post-pandemic dating scene. The first email asks how to have casual relationships without feeling disrespected. Are they always just about 2AM booty calls? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bed wetter and an early morning streak across a college campus. Later, a listener writes in hypothes...

Is My Coworker Flirting Or Just Being Friendly? 25.04.2021

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about relationships with coworkers. An emailer writes in wanting to know if her work crush is flirting with her or just being friendly after their first Zoom meeting felt more like a first date and he offered to help her move. Should she make another move after her initial ask for drinks fell through? Plus, t...

What You Should Know Before You Pay For Dating App Features 21.04.2021

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the paid bonus features on dating apps and if using them makes you look desperate. Would you be turned off by someone sending you a Hinge rose? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter is surprisingly nutritious. Later, an emailer writes in asking how to find an “ass-smacking nice guy” after not feeling the sexual chemistry...

Is He Bad At Planning Or Does He Just Not Care? 18.04.2021

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re dissecting texts between a listener and a guy who keeps rescheduling their dates. The emailer thinks the chemistry is there but worries he’s only looking to hook up. How many chances should you give someone to schedule a real date? Should she give him another chance if he reaches out again? Plus, they discuss how to know...

Are You Setting Your Standards Or Avoiding Rejection? 14.04.2021

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about adult braces and sharing your space with a significant other during quarantine. An emailer sends in a screenshot of a dating app conversation where she sets her standards of looking for a relationship, but she isn’t sure if the response is sincere. At what point does the “what are you looking for?” conversation actually ma...

How To Spot a Lazy Dater Before You Get In Too Deep 11.04.2021

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing when you can assume exclusivity with someone you’re seeing. A listener writes in after her DTR conversation with a long-distance romance did not go as she hoped. Was she reading the signs all wrong? Plus, they talk about the clues that someone is a lazy dater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....

Lightning Round: Dating App Tips, F*ckboy Streaks, And Running Into Exes 07.04.2021

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana change things up with a lightning round of questions submitted by our Instagram followers. Instead of our usual email format, they answer 20 questions with topics ranging from how to get excited about using the dating apps, to running into exes, to how to get your S.O. to go to therapy. Plus, they give their best tips for moving in with your partner, makin...

Why Do People Still Get Married? 04.04.2021

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emailer doesn’t think marriage is right for him, not because he’s afraid of commitment but because he doesn’t think it holds the same value in a modern relationship. Is it okay to date without having the end goal of marriage? How should you explain that to you...

How Long Should It Take For Them To Say “I Love You”? 31.03.2021

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good way to get to know someone? Next, a listener writes in for help after she told her boyfriend she loved him and he didn’t say it back. Can you ever come back from that conversation if it doesn't go well? Later, an awkward date takes the joke too far in...

Am I An As*hole If I Keep Hooking Up With Someone Who Has Feelings For Me? 28.03.2021

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether or not they mean he wants something more. A listener writes in detailing her vacation fling that she doesn’t believe could be a long-term match for her. Does she need to tell him she doesn’t want anything serious or can she continue her beachy booty cal...

Can You Call Dibs On A Dating App Match? 24.03.2021

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started in college. A listener writes in asking if it’s possible to make things work with her boyfriend even though she feels like she has matured faster than him. Is it ever worth it to wait for an S.O. to grow up? Later, an emailer gets an earful during an A...

How Many White Lies Make A Red Flag? 21.03.2021

Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what went wrong with their plans for a Friday night in. How clear do you need to be with your expectations for a date night to avoid being disappointed? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss telling white lies in relationships and whether or not they’re a red flag...

Do I Really Want To DTR Or Is It Just Relationship Anxiety? Ft. Victoria Justice 17.03.2021

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship could turn into something more. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who isn’t in a hurry to progress the relationship. Is it ever too early in a relationship to start owning your standards? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves more tears than...

How To Ask For What You Want In Bed Without Offending Your Partner Ft. Dr. Emily Morse 14.03.2021

On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversation about how to open up to your partner about what you want in the bedroom, with some tips for broaching the subject and getting what you want. Emily fills us in on her own sex life and offers advice for those who feel sexually incompatible with their...

Should I Wait To Break Up Until It’s More Convenient To Move Out? 10.03.2021

Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dating in 2021. A listener writes in with a story about insisting that the guy she’s dating get a test, and how she responded when it came back positive. Is it fair to insist that your partner be more cautious around you? The Awkward Sexual Encounter invol...

How Do I Know If The Person I'm Dating Is Ready To Move On From Their Ex? 07.03.2021

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out o...

How To Apologize To An Ex You Treated Poorly 03.03.2021

The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another...

Is It Ever Worth Trying To Make It Work With a Bad Communicator? 28.02.2021

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting...

How To Set The Expectation That You Won’t Be Hooking Up Before A Date 24.02.2021

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she i...

How To Get A Straight Answer About Why Your Fling Suddenly Ended 21.02.2021

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared...

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