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Jared’s Netflix special is coming out in the fall and he recalls a roasting bit with Rob Lowe, and why meeting him completely changed his mind. J&J then debate whether it's petty or prudent for a guy to text his ex that he won a $50 competition just one week after dumping her. They also unpack a breakup over indefinite travel, questioning if it’s a right guys, wrong time moment? They discuss why w...

Jared and Jordana debate whether dating a diehard Philly’s sports fan is a harmless quirk or a real relationship problem. Can passion be just plain obnoxious? They also unpack the internet debate over women proposing to men, why Taylor Swift rumors about an MSG wedding sparked such strong reactions, and reminisce about the glory days of Fire Island share houses after college. J&J also discuss firs...

Jared and Jordana are getting ready for Fourth of July weekend, where Jared will be staying with Jordana, finally! Then Jared shares the funniest wedding guest he's ever met, a guy with Oakleys on the back of his head who somehow became the life of someone else's wedding. Plus, they debate whether sending a hotter guy to pick up your stuff after a breakup is petty or genius, and help a listener wh...

Jared is back from his book tour convinced dating is rougher than ever, and he and Jordana break down why so many singles are feeling burnt out. Then they tackle whether asking for someone's Instagram or Snapchat before a first date is a hookup red flag, if you should reply when an ex apologizes 12 years later, and whether all men over 40 on dating apps deserve the bad reputation. Plus, is it fair...

Jared shares the wildest piece of weight loss advice he's ever gotten from a fan at a country club, leading to a discussion about criticism, internet comments, and why the people who care enough to complain might actually be your biggest fans. Then, J&J debate whether it's an ick or just being picky when a hinge date pulls out a Bible app and reads a favorite verse at a dive bar over chicken salad...

The Knicks' recent success is creating a wave of new fans, and Jared explains why sports foster community, connection, and shared experiences, while Jordana compares it to the passion people have for Bravo and reality TV. Then J&J tackle one of adulthood's biggest questions: how do you know if you actually want kids, or if the DINK life is right for you? Plus, they debate a dishes-related relation...

Jordana risks a parking ticket after creating her own train station parking spot, while Jared celebrates a glowing dentist report and shares why his gums are finally growing back. Then J&J debate whether a hinge date carrying a gallon jug of water everywhere is an instant ICK or just a dedicated hydration habit. They also discuss how GLP-1 medications are changing modern dating, from awkward dinne...

Jared is officially OVER hearing himself talk after weeks on his book tour, but appreciates all the great feedback from fans who have read his book. J&J get into listener questions, reacting to a woman who discovers her fiancé secretly messaging his ex through a shared Notes app, leading to a conversation about “open phone policies” and whether they’re ever a good sign. Later, they tackle an icky...

Summer is finally here, and Jared and Jordana are feeling the relief after what felt like New York's longest winter. They dive into the realities of parenting twins, why single parents deserve way more credit, and the surprising story of Olympic champion Alysa Liu's father choosing surrogacy and solo parenthood. Plus, Chelsea Handler publicly calls Bobby Flay a bad date after he ordered room servi...

Jared recaps his Kelly Clarkson appearance, the launch of his new book, and why seeing your book in an airport might be the ultimate career milestone! J&J then unpack listener questions: a first vacation to Morocco that had daily sex but zero "I love yous," and debate whether a romantic getaway can reveal a deeper compatibility problem. They also tackle an icky or picky about a gym guy who put his...

Jordana opens this episode with a question for Jared: do some men really think parents find out they’re having twins at the delivery room? That kicks off a hilarious conversation about prenatal care, “punch bowl” movie myths, and just how little some people know about pregnancy. Then J&J debate whether reporting your ex-fiancé’s Facebook profile picture (featuring YOUR dog) is petty or justified,...

Jared is packing a tux for a black-tie-optional wedding, which leads to a debate about plus-one etiquette and who should pay for the wedding gift when you're newly dating. Then they discuss a listener’s theory that the best place to meet men is a Wednesday night bowling alley and introduce Jared’s Summer Strut Challenge: 12 walks in 12 weeks to grow your dating network through friends and family!...

J&J get into a recent article where they mention dating has become a luxury in 2026! From $20 coffee dates to the hidden “pink tax” women pay just to get ready, maybe it really is too expensive to date these days. Then they break down Bumble’s new AI matchmaker “Bumblebee,” why Jared thinks dating apps are just slot machines for lonely men, and whether AI is making modern dating even more fake. Pl...

This week J&J unpack why lying in a relationship can be worse than cheating itself and debate whether an ex warning a new girlfriend is “helpful” or completely unhinged. They break down a breakup that left one listener scrambling for a new apartment and explain the difference between being petty and being prudent when money and resentment collide. Plus, Jared defends his longtime 'finger in the bu...

This week J&J welcome Dr. Orna Guralnik from Couples Therapy to talk about the biggest mistakes couples make before they ever step into therapy! Dr. Orna explains why “agree to disagree” is usually just code for “I’m exhausted trying to change you.” The conversation gets hilarious when Jared roleplays a full couples fight about chicken vs. steak dinner and accidentally reveals his deepest relation...

Jordana and Jared are judging Mother’s Day Instagram tributes like they’re relationship crime scenes. And honestly, some of these captions are screaming “save the marriage post!” They debate whether a woman should warn her ex that she’s pregnant with her new boyfriend’s baby, discuss a first date where a guy ate a pastry and drank coffee in front of his hungry date, and debate over whether sending...

J&J are joined by Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff, the married couple behind the “I Married A Gay Man” podcast, to unpack the relationship dynamic that has the internet completely fascinated! They tell their story of meeting during a Fiddler on the Roof audition, becoming inseparable best friends, and the text message that changed everything after an energy healer told Samantha they shared...

Jordana and Jared hang in Florida and we hear about it on today’s ep! Jordana shares what no one tells you about traveling with twins, including getting interrogated by strangers about her fertility journey, making up fake answers about how many minutes apart the babies were born! J&J get into listener questions and debate whether divorced parents should still take family photos together at a Swee...

Jared and Jordana are back with a Friday Feels episode covering everything from postpartum “groove returns” and winter baby timing to why February birthdays hit differently! They revisit the good times of Facebook event invites, group emails, and how dating used to feel before constant texting took over. A listener's email sparks a debate about “babe” texts, over-texting before a first date, and w...

J&J are back in the studio, where Jordana reveals it’s actually pretty normal for partners to try breast milk, so does that make it weird if Jared does? Then they get into your emails, starting with a listener whose boyfriend keeps going out of his way to help a female coworker even after she said it made her uncomfortable, and why the pattern matters more than the excuse. Another listener gets lo...

Dear Shandy hosts Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine join Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham for a fun Friday Feels crossover at Betches HQ! We get into how they each approach dating advice, why so many people are stuck “analyzing behavior,” and the difference between being confused and just turned off. Then they play a fun round of True Love or True Likes?, reacting to famous couples like Lauren Speed &...

Ryan Seacrest’s “dating red flags” get J&J talking and how out-of-touch celebrity dating advice can be - waving at people should not be a red flag, Ryan! Jared and Jordana unpack a frustrating Hinge situation where a guy pulls back after 6 dates and claims he wants to “be friends first,” and why that’s usually just a soft exit, not a strategy. They then get into a hyper-specific first date debate:...

Jordana and Jared kick things off discussing their night before at a fun client dinner that somehow turns into a lesson about the one airplane seat that always survives a crash (allegedly, 11A)! From there, they get into travel drama, including middle seat horror stories, whether couples who book the aisle and window are selfish, and how being nice to a gate agent can score you a surprise upgrade!...

Jordana and Jared are back in the studio and immediately spiraling about NYC heat, aging, and why early flights now require a full recovery day! They debate whether a man in his late 30s sleeping in a twin bed is an instant ick and why his mom might be the bigger red flag. Then, a listener asks if it’s okay to date while still living with an ex, and whether that situation might signal you’re not r...

J&J kick off today’s Friday Feels discussing New England Patriots coach Mike Vrabel being spotted holding hands with another married woman, and whether interlocking fingers can ever be explained as “just friends.” Jared shares a surreal run-in with TikTok-famous Costco Guys while buying Ozempic, and why it felt a little too close to influencer rock bottom. They then dive into Instagram’s possible...