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J&J are back in the studio and with summer wedding season in full swing, they’ve got some tips for all the single wedding-goers out there. Jared ended up at the “discards table” last weekend, and he tells us why he wears his discard-badge proudly. Next, we hear from a listener whose long-term boyfriend agreed to get engaged by the end of the year… but not knowing when her ring will come is driving...

This week, J&J are joined by Betches’ favorite stylist (and Jordana’s BFF) Liza Lieberman for the Sunday Special. Before getting into your questions submitted via Instagram, they debate the influences of fashion on dating, and Liza shares lessons learned from her first date outfits worn at the start of her serious relationships. Next, they take on your questions ranging from first date outfits to...

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This week, J&J are decompressing after spending the past weekend at different weddings. They dish out their views on the perfect reception, Jordana confesses an embarrassing moment she had, and Jared feels the pressures of being a great brother and best man for his brother’s upcoming “I Do's.” Next, a listener writes in wondering how to save her relationship. It’s important to her boyfriend to hav...

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week starts with an update from our 5/14 episode! A lawyer crushing on her colleague, but unsure if their differing sexualities, longtime friendship or distance between them would be issues, took their advice and reports back. Next, a listener reaches out with a deal reveal that’s still bothering her a month later. If everything seem...

In this week’s episode, J&J are reflecting on how their realities fits into the lives of their loved ones. Jordana realizes her nieces and nephews will eventually learn she’s not “Auntie JoJo” to the public and, during a reunion with his high school lacrosse team, Jared noticed he was the only single, childless alum in attendance. Next, they catch up on new love languages and discuss a Bumble matc...

It’s time for another Sunday Special and this week starts with Jared sharing more about his Euro trip… from hotel preferences to a w/Benefits tease about his dry spell. Next, a listener shares her concern over whether Jared’s so-called “10-monther timeline” is becoming her reality, or if she and her boyfriend are in it for the long haul. She has professed her love — and he hasn’t — but she’s still...

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after weeks of travel and touring to talk about the word on everyone’s minds and TVs: Scandoval. Jordana gives Jared the highlights of the Vanderpump Rules finale and reunion, and they debate the toll of being cheated on in such a grand scale. Then, they jump into an email about a guy having a great time seeing a fellow grad student, but he’s about to move...

J&J are back with a Sunday Special and, this week, they’re joined by comedian Heather McMahan. Heather and Jared have only known each other digitally until this point, so the trio kick off with a discussion about online energy vs energy IRL. Next, they dive into a problem commonly hidden in the fine print of some relationships: how do you address a shift in your friendship when one of you is no lo...

As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, this week’s emails focus on how you view yourself playing a role in your relationships. First, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who’s a few months into being single again. She started off feeling single and free, but day by day, loneliness has crept in and made her feel like she’s not meant to be single even though she’s not ready for a relat...

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and this week, Jared and Jordana hear from an emailer confused about where she stands with a guy she’s dating. He went out with coworkers and invited her to join, but because she’s in the middle of a move and has a busy week coming up, she chose to stay home. First, he’s understanding, and suddenly, he’s calling it all off. So, what just happened? Do people in...

This week, Jared and Jordana are recording from home and they kick off with the joys and goals of being moderately effective, from daily living to dating. Then, they dive into hurdles in your dating life and those around you. Our first emailer noticed her dating life tends to die around the 3rd or 4th date, and Jared is able to share hesitations he’s had with getting into somewhat serious territor...

J&J are back with a Sunday Special. This week, our email is about a friendship that spans nearly a decade, beginning at law school and still going strong between two busy lawyers in different towns. Our emailer is a queer woman whose interest in her friend has intensified recently, but is lust worth risking her friendship? Her friend is a straight man with a history of dating women that don’t look...

Jared and Jordana are discussing the stages of relationships this week, from starting out to starting families, and what that means for your dating life. Before jumping into advice, Jared’s date gets postponed for an indisputable reason, so he and Jordana discuss the best excuses to back out on short notice. Next, our first email is about the talk before “The Talk,” the stop in between casual dati...

Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re kicking off with a chat about the subtle yet surreal reminders of being all grown up. Jordana is finding these more as she settles into suburban life, and Jared is prepping for a royal stint in Europe. Then, they share a listener email about being in limbo with a busy lawyer early on. Has he lost interest, or is he just busy? Jordana un...

This week, J&J are diving into the hurdles holding back your situationship from evolving into a relationship. Our first listener found a spark in a former high school classmate, but she’s fresh out of a long term relationship. Will time bring them together or fizzle out the chance of a flame? The Awkward Sex Encounter is a moment more wholesome than horrifying. Our next listener admits she may hav...

In this Sunday Special, J&J hear from a male listener who’s grown confused and frustrated with being branded as a “good guy” from dates that have dumped him. He’s divorced, in his mid-thirties and ready to find love but wonders what about him is “too much of a good thing.” Should he change who he is, or hold back from his dates? Jared has had this problem in the past, and Jordana understands the s...

This week’s episode is full of common dating faux pas and how to steer clear, from the matches that only text but don’t really talk to guys unwittingly becoming the subject of an invasive TikTok trend. Jared and Jordana give great advice on easy mistakes to make and necessary boundaries to have with new matches. Plus, brace yourself–this week’s Awkward Sex Encounter is a spring break classic. J&J...

Picture this: you match with someone cute on an app, have great conversations and agree to go on a date… but on the day of, they cancel. Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener decipher what went wrong before the first date that never was. Did he foresee a disconnect, or did she misinterpret a message? J&J break down the text exchange and talk nav...

J&J break down Jordana’s recent move to – gasp – the suburbs! The first emailer is weighing whether the potential hurdles of different religious backgrounds is worth falling further in love, or if her current happiness isn’t worth the future risk. Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter will change the way you look at lube. Then, J&J reassure a listener who confessed their love but didn’t get the respo...

Jared and Jordana are joined by a surprise guest on this week’s Sunday Special. Julia, a Betches team member and friend (you may know her as Adam Pally's fake fan), gives the run down on a guy Jordana set her up with and where they stand now. Why would he reach out again just to change his mind after she made it clear she wanted a relationship? Where do his actions cross the line when it comes to...

On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana cover dating advice we’ve all needed through the stages of starting out to getting serious. The first emailer has first date jitters so intense, the solution is borderline self-sabotage. The Awkward Sexual Encounter served up secondhand embarrassment when they broke the rules of a one-night-stand. Our next emailer is ready to take their relationship to the...

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener about how much your resume matters on the dating apps. Is judging someone by their job title or alma mater shallow or valid? Later, Jesse Metcalfe joins the pod to talk about his new movie On A Wing And A Prayer and break down his dating history. J, J, and J answer an email about a guy...

This week’s episode is the “mean with purpose” special, starting with a story about a recent unhinged DM Jared received. The first emailer asks if her insecurity is making her a bad girlfriend after her boyfriend told her he was going to help a friend’s friend make an “Only Fans-ish” website. If he’s not getting paid, what does he even get out of this favor? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an elab...

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about whether or not bachelor and bachelorette parties are on their way out. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana their opinions on a Reddit thread asking men “What mistakes do single women who want a serious relationship make?” Are any of these mistakes valid? Or are these posters bitter guys who just got dumped? P...