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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new...

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Latest episode

Jul 10, 2026

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Episodes

Does Swiping Count As Cheating? Ft. Adam Pally 19.03.2023

J&J are back with another Sunday Spesh and this week they’re joined by comedian and actor Adam Pally. They start with a chat about his new movie Who Invited Charlie? and the story about how he met his wife. Then they dive into an email from a guy who claims he found the one but can’t stop swiping on the apps. Is there any justification for this behavior? Can he still redeem himself in this relatio...

Why Are Situationship Breakups So Painful? 15.03.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared starts with a story about being on his phone at the bar. The first emailer asks how she can slow down the pace of dating. How can she get out of the cycle of going from first date to “Willy Wonka grandparents” with the guys she’s dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes back to haunt the emailer years later. Later, a listener asks why situationships breakups are so...

Why You Should Have A Roster Ft. Violet Benson 12.03.2023

J&J are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they’re joined by podcaster and meme queen Violet Benson. They start with a conversation about why Violet doesn’t sleep with anyone unless they’re in a relationship and how she frames that conversation to keep the ball in her court. Later, an emailer writes in to ask what to do after snooping on her boyfriend’s phone and finding suspi...

The Problem With #DatingTok 08.03.2023

J&J are coming in hot this week with a lot to unpack. First, they break down the recent Vanderpump Rules cheating scandal and what people’s reactions to it say about them. Then they dive into a recent New York Times article all about #DatingTok. How is the virality of these bad date videos affecting the power balance in dating? And how is what Jared and Jordana do on the podcast any different? The...

SOS: How To Make First Dates Feel Less Like Interviews 05.03.2023

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they get their first SOS call from a male listener. Danny joins the pod to ask how he can make first dates feel more flirty and less like an interview. Is a kiss necessary to bring the romantic vibes? How much planning is too much planning? Plus, Jared and Jordana give him some questions to use on his next date. Learn more about your ad choic...

Breadcrumbing, Cookie-Jarring, & Cobwebbing: Dating In 2023 01.03.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker scenario from Jared’s own dating life. Then, they get into a recent New York Times article about modern dating terms. J&J dive into the definitions and admit which ones they’ve done themselves. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost and found condom. Later, a listener writes in asking if she was love bombed after...

Is It “Limerence” Or True Love? (Oversharing Sneak Peak) 28.02.2023

Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/limerence Does love at first sight really exist? And what’s the difference between love and limerence? On this excerpt of the latest Oversharing podcast, Jordana and her sister Dr. Naomi Bernstein have a conversation about...

So Jared, Why Do Men Say Things They Don’t Mean? 26.02.2023

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and Jared is in the hot seat this week answering an email about why men say things they don’t mean. But first, they analyze the “bangers” of Les Mis through the lens of modern dating. Then, they dive into the email from a listener about a guy who said all the right things only to ghost a few weeks later. What went wrong? And why do men allude to future pla...

Lightning Round: Do Men Hate Situationships As Much As Women? 22.02.2023

Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round Episode, and this week they start by discussing the highs and lows of Jared’s 38th year and revisiting the infamous clip that made his birthday The Worst Day Of The Year. Then they jump right into your questions submitted via our Instagram story with topics ranging from how men feel about situationships to talking about STIs before a hookup t...

SOS: Husband Or F*ck Off 19.02.2023

J&J are back with another SOS call from a U Up? listener on this week’s Sunday Special. Nicole joins Jared and Jordana to decide whether she should prioritize her new relationship or her career. They talk through the pros of taking the dream job and moving away vs staying in her current job and with her boyfriend of 6 months. Will she end up resenting him if she doesn’t take this opportunity? Shou...

How Much Can You Embellish On Your Dating App Profile? 15.02.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s Dad’s birthday party plans and how everyone goes a little crazy this time of year. The first emailer writes in about a guy who put a fake story on his dating app profile. He doubled down on the lie during their date but later called to admit that he stole the story from a friend. Should she go out with him again? T...

Valentine's Day Dates: The Archive Dive 14.02.2023

As a special gift this Valentine's Day, J&J are diving into the archives and revisiting our Valentine's Day episodes past. In these throwback clips, Jared and Jordana talk through their Valentine's Day plans from 2019, 2020, and 2021 and give advice on navigating Valentine's Day at different stages of a relationship. Plus, they break down how to spice things up in the bedroom on Vday without feeli...

Nothing Happens When You Least Expect It Ft. Jay Shetty 12.02.2023

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Jay Shetty to talk about his new book “8 Rules Of Love” and his journey from monk to best-selling author and podcaster. Then, they answer an email from a listener wondering which side of dating TikTok to listen to. Should she treat dating like a job to find a relationship or will it happen when she least expect...

Was Your DTR Talk Too Vague? 08.02.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a chat about Valentine’s Day and how weird it is at different stages of a relationship. The first email comes from a listener in situationship limbo. How can you get to the next step of a relationship if neither of you have time to really hang out? When are relationships supposed to go from “me” to “we”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a s...

Do You Need To Be Single To Work On Yourself? 05.02.2023

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about not drinking on dates. The emailer writes in about a breakup with a younger guy. Things were progressing well until a few months in when he revealed he was scared to get into a serious relationship and needed time alone to work on himself. Is this a legit excuse? Jared and Jordana break down what she should’...

What Counts As Cheating? 01.02.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their birthdays, and Jared recaps his brother’s engagement. The first emailer asks if it takes longer to “click” with someone when you’re in your 30s. Is it actually harder to settle as you get older? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was a hookah bar hookup. Late...

SOS: Blindsided By A Breakup 29.01.2023

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindsided by a breakup after a solid start to her new relationship, and then 2 days later, he tried to take the breakup back. Was the excuse he gave the real reason for the breakup? Jared explains the spiral he probably went through, and they advise her on wha...

Is Ambition A Valid Reason For A Breakup? 25.01.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who say they want someone who “doesn’t take life too seriously” on the dating apps. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is a deadbeat or if she’s being too hard on him. Are lifestyle differences a deal breaker? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rep...

Why Can't I Commit To A Fifth Date? (Jared's Oversharing Therapy Session) 24.01.2023

Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/jared In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her Jared on for a dating therapy session with her sister, Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, a...

The Problem With Being Comfy 22.01.2023

We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista. She keeps saying they should hang out, but when he tries to make plans, she flakes. Why even bring it up in the first place? Plus, J&J talk about the problem with being a people pleaser in dating. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betche...

How To Revive A Dating App Match 18.01.2023

J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana’s upcoming girls trip. The first emailer asks how she can revive some of her old dating app matches since her chat archives are full of guys with potential. Is it desperate to message someone on the apps months after the conversation ended? The Awkward Se...

Don’t Fall For A Selfish Apology 15.01.2023

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great dates with a client before getting a text saying he wasn’t in the right mindset to date. She accepted the break up, so why did he reach out again a few weeks later? How much does his relationship history factor into this behavior? Plus, Jordana explain...

How Much Does Sexual Chemistry Matter? 11.01.2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boca. The first emailer asks if she should let her guy best friend out of the friend zone. They’ve been going on dates and expressed romantic interest, but she just can’t imagine having sex with him. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprising discov...

Playing It Cool Is Overrated 08.01.2023

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to set boundaries with a friend she tried to date but ultimately decided wasn’t the match. She was really upset by their breakup, but she’s trying to play it cool which ended in them drunkenly making out (shocker). How can she set a boundary with this guy w...

How To Be More Charming 04.01.2023

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes in asking if “cute if you’re into it, creepy if you aren’t” is valid in all situations after she saw this explanation all over the comments section of a woman’s TikTok about a bad date. Is it really men thinking about it this way or just men on the inter...

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