U-Haul and Unpack - Break Free from Toxic Relationships, Emotional Abuse, and Trauma Bonds to Rebuild Your Identity

Send us Fan Mail Jealousy, Broken Boundaries & The Truth About Opening a Relationship. Can opening a relationship fix what's already broken? Or does it simply expose problems that were already there? In this episode, Lauren and Vicky explore jealousy, trust, broken agreements, and the emotional realities that couples may face when considering or navigating open relationships. Drawing from...

Send us Fan Mail Emotional Affairs, Hidden Intimacy & The Slippery Slope Nobody Notices What happens when a friendship, coworker relationship, or online connection slowly becomes more emotionally intimate than your relationship? Most emotional affairs don't begin with an intention to cheat. They begin with connection, validation, and feeling understood. In this episode, Lauren and Vicky u...

Send us Fan Mail The Small Habits That Build Connection, Intimacy & Lasting Love  Looking for ways to stay connected in a long-term relationship? In this episode, Lauren and Vicky share healthy relationship habits that strengthen emotional intimacy, improve connection, and help couples stay close long after the honeymoon phase ends. After weeks of unpacking toxic relationships, boundaries, emo...

Send us Fan Mail You’re not ‘too much’, BUT unresolved fear can quietly turn needs into control. In this episode, Lauren and Vicky unpack the uncomfortable but important difference between healthy needs and controlling behavior in relationships. Because sometimes what looks like “protection” is actually fear trying to regain control. They break down how unresolved betrayal, anxiety, emotional dysr...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Lauren and Vicky call out one of the most common (and uncomfortable) patterns in healing: believing you’re setting boundaries when you’re actually testing people. They break down how passive expectations, unspoken needs, and silent resentment keep you stuck in the same cycles, especially in relationships where you’re hoping someone will finally show up differently...

Send us Fan Mail Understanding narcissistic traits, patterns, and how awareness alone doesn’t change your experience. You’re able to clearly name the behavior, understand the pattern, and even explain exactly what’s happening… but nothing actually changes. In this episode, we unpack what it means to recognize narcissistic traits in real life, and why awareness alone doesn’t protect you from stayin...

Send us Fan Mail Understanding the difference between anxiety, avoidance, and how we interpret discomfort in our day-to-day lives. Anxiety can be blurred line, where what feels like overwhelm is actually the tension of something we’ve been avoiding. In this episode, we unpack how anxiety doesn’t always come from uncertainty, but can show up when we already know what needs to happen and aren’t read...

Send us Fan Mail Understanding the difference between chemistry, compatibility, and nervous system familiarity. People can chase dynamics that feel like home, even when they hurt. At some point, relationships can cross a quiet line. This is where chemistry feels like connection, but what you’re actually experiencing is familiarity. In this episode, we unpack why we’re often drawn to people who fee...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 11 of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , you'll learn how venting, comfort, and previous progress can keep you stuck. At some point, therapy can cross a quiet line ... where growth turns into comfort, and sessions become weekly venting instead of real change. In this episode, we talk about that line, how easy it is to...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 10 of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we talk all things understanding emotional support, emotional labor, and accountability in healthy relationships. At some point, relationships can cross a quiet line, where support turns into emotional labor, and partners start feeling responsible for each other’s emotions. In this e...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we get into leaving toxic relationships and friendships without carrying shame. In episode 9, we get honest about the relationships we carried throughout the year. The people we trusted, welcomed into our home, celebrated with, and how those connections quietly shaped our relations...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we talk all things surviving holiday stress, family chaos, and expectations without losing your joy. The holidays can bring joy… and a whole lot of bullsht.  In this Bullsht & Banter episode, we’re taking a lighter, messier, more unfiltered look at holiday stress to decompress,...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , you see how to stop choosing someone’s potential and start seeing people for who they actually are. They're not everything you were hoping they'd be because you’re fixated with the version of them you built in your head. Your own patterns influence who you allow in and ho...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we tell you how to recognize emotional red flags, set real boundaries with family, and protect both yourself and your relationship. Sometimes “keeping the peace” with family means completely losing your own.  And when you’re in a committed relationship, their drama doesn’t just tou...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we show you how to let go of blame, take accountability, and finally heal from toxic relationships, betrayal, and self-sabotage. We’ve all been hurt. We’ve all had someone do us wrong. But holding onto the victim card doesn’t keep you safe...it just keeps you stuck. In episode 5, w...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we uncover how to break free from toxic family expectations, stop carrying generational guilt, and finally choose peace. Family loyalty sounds noble, until it becomes a prison. In episode 4, we’re calling out the one thing nobody wants to admit out loud: just because someone raised...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we dive into how to recognize toxic friendships, set boundaries, and reclaim your energy. No literally.. We’re talking about those “friends” you’ve been carrying around for decades who were never actually in your corner.  Not all friends are really your friends. In this episode of...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we are taking a raw look at cheating, betrayal, and uncovering the stories we tell ourselves. In Episode 2, we put it all on the table. The cracks were there long before the affair, and now it’s time to ask the hard questions : Where were you? What were you thinking? Who were you b...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of U-Haul and Unpack: Friendships, Betrayal, and Healing After Toxic Relationships , we are exploring affairs, relationship recovery, and self-discovery after betrayal. In our very first episode, we dive headfirst into the question that cracked everything open: " Who the fck did I marry, and who the fck was I when I said yes?" We’re a lesbian couple recov...