Try It On: Return to Yourself

I was watching a show last night. A character studying to become a therapist was told — “you need to figure out when it happened.” And I sat with that for a second. Because here’s what I know: it’s never about when it happened. You can know exactly when it happened — the age, the room, the sentence someone said to you — and still be people pleasing your way through your entire life. Because the kn...

They say feeling is healing. But nobody actually teaches you how to feel. In this talk I share where wounds come from, why we keep carrying them even when we want to let go, and what it actually looks like to feel something in the body — not just think about it. What we cover: → Where wounds come from — and why it’s often the quiet moments, not the dramatic ones → Why we perpetuate familiar wounds...

I’m not waiting for good things to come. Good, better, best — it’s already in motion. My only job is to stay regulated enough to let it land. But for a long time, I couldn’t. Not because the good wasn’t coming. Because shame was taking up the space where it was supposed to land. I got divorced. And the shame of that — for me — wasn’t just about the marriage ending. It was older than that. I swore...

When was the last time you ate lunch without your phone? Went to the bathroom without scrolling? Sat in a room — just sat — without reaching for stimulation? We are a culture that cannot stop doing. And somewhere along the way we started believing that doing is the same thing as being safe. It’s not. In this talk I share something I’ve been sitting with — my own pattern with my business, this beli...

Familiar feels safe. Even when safe and good are not the same thing. Most of us have been choosing familiar our entire lives — in our relationships, our dynamics, our patterns — not because we are broken, but because the nervous system always reaches for what it knows. What was absorbed before we had any say in what normal was. In this talk I share what familiar actually is, why it keeps recreatin...

There are only two movements in any relationship. Toward. Or away. And your nervous system decides which one — before your heart gets a vote. In this talk I share what I finally understood after years of moving away in my first marriage — trying to fix, to please, to fight to be seen — and why none of it worked. Because I was doing all of it from a dysregulated nervous system. I was the common den...

Even I Fall Apart — What Sunday Taught Me About Doing This Work When It’s Actually Hard Description / Preview Text: This past Sunday broke me open a little. Something came up with my daughter. My partner and I spiraled. And I spent most of the day watching myself want to blame, shut down, and fight every impulse that goes against who I know myself to be. This talk is about that day. Not a breakthr...

What would your life look like without the wounds? I used to ask myself that. And then I realized — that woman does not exist. She never did. Because the wounds are not what happened to you. They are what made you. And the moment you stop trying to get rid of them and start asking what they are showing you — everything changes. In today’s talk I go into what it actually looks like to stop running...

You have read the books. Done the courses. Said the affirmations. And somehow — the same patterns keep showing up. The same relationship dynamic. The same body struggle. The same ceiling you cannot seem to break through. Here is what nobody has told you clearly enough. You are not recreating these patterns because you are broken or because you haven’t tried hard enough. You are recreating them bec...

You’ve done the vision board. Said the affirmations. Wanted it so badly it hurt. And yet here you are. Same loop. Same patterns. Same ceiling. You are not manifesting wrong. You are manifesting from exactly where your nervous system lives. And that is the piece nobody is talking about. In today’s talk we get into why you keep recreating the same life no matter how much you want something different...

We talk a lot about why space matters. Today we’re talking about how. The actual daily practices that keep me regulated — so that when life happens, and it will, I have space to choose instead of react. In today’s talk we go through four things I do every single day to build and maintain nervous system regulation. Not as a luxury. Not when I have hours. As a consistent, simple, daily practice that...

Every relationship you are in is showing you something. Not about them. About you. Your most intimate relationships — the ones that bring the most joy and the most pain — are your greatest mirrors. Showing you exactly where a wound is still open. Exactly where your nervous system still doesn’t feel safe. Exactly where you are still collapsing into old patterns instead of staying sovereign. In toda...

This one might make your ego uncomfortable. Good. Stay with it. This week someone filled out feedback on my workshop and wrote that she would put the work into practice — except when it comes to politics. And I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. Because that exception — that one carved-out space where the ego gets to stay in charge — is exactly where the work is needed most. In today’s t...

You’ve read the books. You understand the science. You might even teach it. And then something happens. And you collapse. You react. You spiral. You find yourself right back in the same loop you thought you’d left behind. And you wonder — what is wrong with me? Nothing. Because this is not an intellectual problem. Your reactions don’t come from your mind. They come from a belief system that was bu...

Your ego is not your enemy. But it has been your driver. And most of us don’t even know it’s at the wheel. In today’s talk we go deep into the five ways your ego is quietly running your life — from the beliefs it hardened into facts, to the patterns it keeps looping, to the intuition it has been blocking all along. We also talk about the thing nobody wants to say out loud: You can read every book....

It is time to let that go. Not as a concept. Not as something you think about. As something you actually do. In today’s talk we go deep into letting go — why you’re holding on, what it’s really costing you, and why the narrative that keeps replaying is not protecting you. It is hurting you. Here’s what I know. Everything you think is someone else’s fault is a reflection of a wound that is yours to...

Today I’m sharing my story. Not because it’s special. But because it’s proof. Proof that it doesn’t matter how deep the pain is. How long you’ve been in it. How much has been taken from you. You can shift. You can change. You can choose something different. I grew up as the middle child of very young parents. My father left. I learned people pleasing before I knew what it was called. I helped rais...

What if the love you’ve been giving — and the love you’ve been struggling to receive — is rooted in fear? Not because you don’t care enough. But because of everything you were taught love was supposed to be. You complete me. You’re the missing piece. I would give up everything for you. We put it on cards. We make movies about it. We call it romance. But underneath all of it — it is fear dressed up...

What you’ve been calling intuition is often fear. And that changes everything. When your nervous system is dysregulated — triggered, reactive, in survival — what feels like your gut knowing is actually fear speaking. Fear grips. Fear spirals. Fear needs an answer right now. Fear attaches to outcome. And we have been making decisions from that place and calling it trusting ourselves. This is why we...

Nothing outside changed. Everything inside did. In today’s talk we’re going deep into space and state — how the life you’re living has been built from unconscious beliefs, reactions, and patterns you never chose. And how creating space within yourself is where everything begins to shift. We talk about: The signs your nervous system is moving toward reaction — before it takes over. Simple, immediat...

We spend so much energy fighting our lives. Trying to change the outside while the inside stays the same. Blaming people. Blaming circumstances. Treating the symptom and never the root. And in that resistance — we keep creating the exact life we don’t want. In today’s talk, we’re going deep into surrender. Not as weakness. Not as giving up. But as one of the most powerful tools available to you —...

Your relationships are your greatest teacher — if you let them be. In this episode of Try It On , we’re talking about why the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships — and why that’s not a coincidence. Your triggers, your reactions, your cycles — they’re not random. They’re showing you exactly where healing is still needed within you. We cover: * Why relationships reflect your internal...

Why do you keep reacting… even when you know better? In this talk, we explore what happens when your nervous system is in a constant state of dysregulation — and how that affects your reactions, decisions, and ability to access intuition. Most people think they need to change their life. But the real shift happens when you learn how to regulate your state. ✨ You don’t need to change your life. Yo...

Why does change feel temporary… even when you’re doing the work? In this talk, we break down the truth behind “you are your most persistent state” — and how your nervous system and identity shape what you experience in your life. Most people try to change through mindset alone, but real transformation happens when your system can hold a new state. ✨ You don’t become what you want. You become what...

Why does everything feel triggering sometimes? In this talk, we explore what happens when your nervous system is stuck in fight or flight — and how that state makes everything feel like a threat. Most people think the problem is outside of them, but the real shift happens when you understand what’s happening within. When you move from a reactive (sympathetic) state into a regulated, coherent state...