Traumatically Speaking

Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, abandonment, attachment wounds, and mental health. Episode 27 of Traumatically Speaking, Love Me, Leave Me, Repeat, was inspired by a question from Chaos Cousin Nia about what it is actually like to date with abandonment wounds. Sloan takes the lead as she and Lex unpack the ways early experiences shape adult relationships and why love can feel both deeply desir...

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Trigger warnings: breakup grief, suicidal ideation, attachment wounds, and mental health struggles. Biz Nasty: https://traumatically-speaking-co.myshopify.com/ Before you dive into this episode, don't forget to check out our Father's Day Collection featuring our fan-favorite "Daddy Is a State of Mind" designs. We know you don't have a dad, so embrace your inner Daddy. The col...

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Reminder to shop our PRIDE Collection before it closes June 19th: Use code TUESDAY for 10% off your entire order. Trigger warnings: toxic dating experiences, emotional discomfort, and secondhand embarrassment. Episode 23 of Traumatically Speaking, First Dates From Hell Part 2, proves that somehow… it gets worse. Sloan shares a date with a woman who happened to be an EMT and confidently counted her...

Trigger warnings: toxic dating experiences, emotional discomfort, and secondhand embarrassment. Episode 22 of Traumatically Speaking, First Dates From Hell Part 1, brings some much needed chaotic energy in honor of Pride Month as Sloan and Lex share some of the worst dates they have ever been on. Sloan takes listeners through a coffee date that quickly turned into a verbal takedown, where she was...

Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, family dysfunction, and emotional neglect. This episode of Traumatically Speaking is a full Trauma Dump, where Sloan and Lex read stories submitted by the Chaos Cousins that range from chaotic to heartbreaking to completely unbelievable. With their usual mix of dark humor and honesty, they react in real time while holding space for the reality behind each story....

Trigger warnings: sexual assault, abuse, and discussion of violence. Episode 20 of Traumatically Speaking, 62 Million Men Part 2, continues a conversation that started with a courtroom and expanded into something far more disturbing. What began with the case of Dominique Pelicot and Gisèle Pelicot, a woman who was drugged and assaulted for years without her knowledge while her husband invited othe...

Trigger warnings: sexual assault, abuse, and discussion of violence. Episode 19 of Traumatically Speaking, 62 Million Men Part 1 rerun, is a re recording of an episode that Sloan felt could not stay up in its original form. After recognizing that key facts were misstated, important context was missing, and the conversation did not do justice to survivors, Sloan and Lex made the decision to revisit...

Episode 19: T.T.TK.U.U.A.N. #3 What’s up, Chaos Cousins—welcome home, bitches (Lex said it, not Sloan 💅). This week is pure silly goose chaos to cleanse your emotional palate, and somehow it still spirals. Sloan brings part two of her full-blown identity crisis where—brace yourselves—she went on dates with MEN???? Yes. Plural. On purpose. For science. For therapy. For chaos. Lex, meanwhile, deliv...

Trigger warnings: sexual assault, childhood trauma, and animal death. Episode 17 of Traumatically Speaking brings back The Things That Keep Us Up At Night, where the late night thoughts get a little darker and a lot more honest. In this episode, Sloan and Lex move through a mix of stories that are uncomfortable, unexpected, and hard to shake. They talk about a bummer lamb, read a traumatic submiss...

Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, family secrets, emotional neglect, and dysfunctional family dynamics. Episode 16 of Traumatically Speaking brings it back to the Chaos Cousins as we read a fresh batch of trauma dumps that somehow manage to be equal parts absurd, heartbreaking, and just a little too relatable. This episode has everything, including a ninth birthday party with a broccoli theme th...

Trigger warnings: childhood trauma, parenting, OCD, and mental health. Episode 14 of Traumatically Speaking flips the script as Sloan steps into the interviewer seat and puts Lex in the hot seat for a conversation about parenting, healing, and what it actually looks like to break cycles in real time. This episode centers on Lex’s experience as a parent and the intentional choices she makes every d...

Trigger warnings: chronic illness, medical gaslighting, reproductive health, and discussion of systemic barriers to care. Episode 13 of Traumatically Speaking continues the conversation as Sloan and Lex dive into part two of their endometriosis series, picking up where things left off and getting even more real about what happens after you start searching for answers. Sloan finishes sharing her st...

Trigger warnings: chronic illness, medical gaslighting, and discussion of reproductive health. Episode 12 of Traumatically Speaking shifts the chaos into the medical system as Sloan and Lex talk about something that has shaped both of their lives: endometriosis. In honor of Endometriosis Awareness Month, this is part one of a conversation about what it’s like living with a condition that affects m...

Trigger warnings:  suicide, child abuse, molestation, kidnapping, and extreme neglect. Episode 11 of  Traumatically Speaking  is not for the faint of heart, because this week our Chaos Cousins came in swinging with stories that prove family dysfunction can escalate from messy to criminal real fast. In this episode we share Debbie’s unbelievable story of being locked in a chicken coop as a child, k...

In this very emotionally stable installment of  Traumatically Speaking , Episode 10: “Live, Laugh, Leave Early,” we gather ‘round the casket (metaphorically… mostly) to read funeral trauma stories sent in by our beloved Chaos Cousins—because nothing builds community quite like processing grief with a sharp sense of humor and impeccable side-eye. This episode has everything: a Step Witch so diaboli...

In this episode we’re running through the questions we get all the time — about where we’re from, our family dynamics, being twins, sibling arguments, relationships, and whether humor is a coping mechanism or a personality trait. There are strong opinions. There are vague explanations. There are answers that raise more questions. Welcome to The FAQs We Give . Want a chance to have your story share...

This week’s episode started with a simple question on TikTok: “Drop your hamster stories.” The comments did not disappoint. In Hamster Tales, we read through listener submissions that range from mildly chaotic to deeply concerning — tiny cages, dramatic escapes, suspicious deaths, and the kind of childhood negligence that only makes sense in hindsight. It’s unhinged, it’s nostalgic, and it’s proof...

In this episode of Traumatically Speaking , we read some of the worst (and weirdly most relatable) things your parents said to you straight from our social media comments. The backhanded compliments. The comparisons. The “I’m just being honest” speeches. The lines that stuck with you way longer than they should have. We react in real time — laughing, cringing, and occasionally staring into the aby...

This episode is exactly what it sounds like. Episode 7 is a compilation of short listener stories centered around one shared theme: shitty moms. From a mother who thought a lit match was an acceptable teaching tool, to one who guilted her kid into funding a Def Leppard concert, to the quiet grief of going no contact, to a mom deep in her ho phase outsourcing childcare via food stamps — these stori...

This episode is a little different. In  The Things That Keep Us Up at Night , we step away from trauma work and into the quieter chaos of overthinking. Lex shares a story about an interview where she accidentally exceeded expectations, while Sloan recounts an identity crisis that almost led to a Megan-worthy phone call. There are no deep dives, just honest stories, nervous laughter, and the things...

Being twins is often romanticized. This episode is not that. In  The Trauma of Being Twins , we talk about how growing up as twins impacted our family roles and emotional survival. We break down how scapegoat and lost child dynamics formed, how they followed us into adulthood, and why untangling them has been necessary for healing. Dark humor included. Matching trauma not required. Want a chance t...

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of child abuse, domestic violence, and divorce. In this episode of  Traumatically Speaking , Sloan shares her experience growing up as a Parentified Child and how being forced into emotional adulthood too early shaped the way she connected with people later in life. She talks about feeling disconnected from her peers while carrying adult worries a...

In this episode of  Traumatically Speaking , we talk about one of the most invalidating responses you can hear after sharing that you are no contact with your parents. “But they did their best.” We unpack why that phrase minimizes real harm, shuts down honest conversation, and places the responsibility for healing back onto the child instead of where it belongs. Through our own stories, we validat...