Trauma, Tacos & True Crime

Why did so many of us end up crying in the bathroom growing up? This episode talks about the role of the one who learned to hold everything together for now and fall apart later, alone. The one who became “fine” during the chaos… and emotional only after the day was over. We talk about delayed emotions, crying quietly, emotional survival, and why some people don’t even realize how overwhelmed they...

This episode talks about the role of the child who learned to stay quiet, process things internally and handle emotions alone. Case reference: Phoebe Handsjuk Sources referenced include case coverage related to Phoebe Handsjuk. Written/Researched/Edited by: La Dama Del Desmadre

Was your house the one that looked fine… even when it wasn’t? This episode breaks down the role of the one who learned how to perform—how to smile, act normal, and keep things looking okay, even though something didn't feel right.. We talk about what happens when appearances matter more than the truth, and how that turns into people pleasing and emotional hiding as an adult, and why being “easy” i...

No te dejó…dejó de escogerte. Si tienes que insistir…ya sabes la respuesta. No soy tu psicóloga…ni te estoy diagnosticando…no te me estreses. Chisme Con Cerebro, Sin Filtro. Escrito, investigado y dicho por mi:   La Dama del Desmadre

No estás confundida…nomas te estás haciendo la ciega. Si algo no te parece desde el principio…no es casualidad. Esto es CHISME CON CEREBRO: Sin Filtro. Escrito, investigado y dicho por: La Dama del Desmadre

Esto no es chisme cualquiera … Esto es Chisme Con Cerebro - SIN FILTRO. Historias reales, decisiones cuestionables, y las cosas que hacemos, así, tal cual y como es. Si ya escuchas  Trauma, Tacos & True Crime , esto es el otro lado… donde se habla claro. Nuevos episodios todos los Viernes Yo soy La Dama del Desmadre… y aquí no se viene a quedar bien.

Some stories don’t leave you. Not because of what happened, but because of what they make you feel after. In this first episode of Season 2, I talk about the Laci Peterson case, and some childhood memories that don’t fully make sense until later, and how some “rooms” stay with us longer than we expect. This isn’t about the shock. It’s about what stays after. Not judging. Just keeping it real. Sour...

He looked fine. That was the problem. This episode talks about the Chris Benoit case — what happened, what led up to it, and the patterns people ignore until it’s too late. Because nothing like this comes out of nowhere you just weren’t looking for it. Sources for this episode include reporting from ABC News, CNN, ESPN, and Sports Illustrated, along with publicly available case records and medical...

Fulford posed as a financial advisor to professional athletes, gaining trust through confidence, familiarity, and perceived expertise. She used that trust to control access to finances and misappropriate millions of dollars over several years. Federal court records and sentencing documents related to Peggy Fulford and from reporting from major U.S. news outlets covering the case This episode does...

Airplanes are basically a flying group project with strangers — tight seats, no escape, and everyone’s nervous system packed into one metal tube. In this episode,I break down viral plane meltdowns, air rage, and why stress, anxiety, alcohol, and feeling trapped can push people past their limits. We talk about the psychology behind public blowups, the reality of unruly passenger incidents, and why...

This episode references the widely reported case of Margaret Mary Ray and her obsession with David Letterman. Details are based on publicly available news coverage and court records. The psychological commentary and personal story are my own. Writer/Editor/Researcher: La Dama Del Desmadre Storyteller: La Dama Del Desmadre

Today’s episode came from one of those days where the patterns were everywhere. Why does it sometimes feel like women are the ones doing the emotional math? Reading the books. Working on triggers. Regulating. Healing. "Auditing the relationship". Meanwhile some men are like, “I feel fine.” Just a pattern conversation. Editor/Writer: La Dama Del Desmadre

Sources & Research Notes: This episode gets its information from publicly available reporting on rental fraud trends (FTC & FBI IC3 data), landlord-tenant law standards in the U.S., and psychological research on coercive control, entitlement behavior, and boundary erosion (Evan Stark; The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout; Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft).

Florida’s public records laws (often called “Sunshine Laws”) make arrest reports and police information more immediately accessible to the public and media than in many other states, contributing to the volume and visibility of these stories. Context for this episode was informed by: Publicly available arrest records News reporting from Florida-based and national media outlets Research and reporti...

We all learned about the nervous system in school…  but let’s be honest, none of us really knew what the hell that meant in real life. In this episode, we’re talking about what actually happens in your body when you feel anxious, irritated, overstimulated, or just completely fried… and why “just breathe” can feel like the most useless advice in this world. This isn’t therapy talk or textbook scien...

The Craigslist Killer & the Aftermath We All Live With This episode isn’t about shock value, it’s about what stays in our brains after the headline. Using the Craigslist Killer case as context, I talk about intuition, silence, politeness, and the everyday ways people ignore their gut just to keep things “cool.” We get into the psychological aftermath, and how the same nervous system responses...

There’s no headline in this episode. No body. No timeline. Just the part everyone skips — and later regrets. This episode is about perception . About how quickly our minds fill in the blanks. About how trauma can turn moments into full-blown stories that feel absolutely true — even when they aren't. After a routine moment made me spiral into assumptions, certainty, and a whole imagined betrayal, I...

The Tinder Swindler: Red Flags, Fake Love & Choosing Yourself Before we start — yes, you'll notice my voice changes - I was getting over an illness so sorry!! Also, you might hear kids, background noise, or life happening. This is a house, not a Netflix studio. And no, this is not medical advice. This is real life, reflection, and keeping it real. Everybody relax. In this episode of I talk...

This case isn’t about strangers or random violence. It’s about what happens when trust is misplaced — and the person expected to protect becomes the source of harm. Louise Portón was in a caregiving role, a position built on access, responsibility, and assumed safety. What followed wasn’t just a crime — it was a betrayal that forces us to confront an uncomfortable truth: danger doesn’t always come...

The Girl in the Elevator: Elisa Lam, Mental Storms & Mexican Hot Chocolate Now available with Spotify Transcript This episode of Trauma, Tacos & True Crime is not about ghosts, conspiracies, or internet theories... it’s about a real young woman whose story was turned into entertainment instead of compassion. Elisa Lam was 21 years old, traveling alone, and living with bipolar disorder. Aft...

If you’ve ever loaned someone a container and never saw it again… welcome. Today I’m venting about the lost Tupperware epidemic, why it triggers something deep in my body, and how being a mom of five means I don’t have time to replace the good ones. Funny, petty, and way too real. Writer/StoryTeller : La Dama Del Desmadre Producer/Editor: La Dama Del Desmadre

Content warning: domestic violence, murder, child victims, pregnancy loss, emotional/graphic topics. Hola hola, locas y locos — it’s La Dama del Desmadre from Trauma, Tacos & True Crime. Today we’re in Frederick, Colorado (August 2018) for the Watts case — a story that looked “picture perfect” online… and turned out to be a whole DAMN MASK. The kind where everybody wants the highlight reel, bu...

Episode 1: Jennifer Kesse — Her Absence Was Loud Jennifer Kesse was 24 years old. Independent, organizada, and building her life in Orlando. New condo. New routine. New chapter. Then on the morning of January 24, 2006, she left for work… And she never arrived. In this episode, we walk through the timeline that raised alarms fast, the car that showed up like it was trying to disappear in plain sigh...

California born, Nevada-raised, half Mexican, half Nicaraguan, Mother of 5. This isn't about the murder or the crime, it's about the emotional wreckage left behind. We talk trauma, survival, inner child healing, and the damage -with dark humor and real life reflection. Because healing is messy....and so are we. New episodes start December 31.