Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr is a certified trauma recovery coach and the creator of The Art of Onward, a platform through which she guides clients to healing and rebuilding their lives after trauma by using the exact strategies that saved her own life. As a coach and trauma survivor, Jewelle focuses on inspiring others in their journeys to true healing and wholeness. In addition to her work as a...

My conversation last week with Tony Bonnici left me thinking deeply about what keeping your word really means, especially for trauma hiders. So many thoughts came up about what it is to break the cycle of manipulators and shadowy liars. And I discovered that the yellow brick road to freedom isn’t built with yellow bricks at all. It’s built with gold bricks. And each brick takes you closer to the t...

Tony Bonnici is an entrepreneur and the Founder of Zen Men and The Dojo Integrated Leadership. He has spent the last three decades in entrepreneurship, creating seven successful businesses based in California and Hawaii. Tony has learned to blend ancient wisdom, Zen, and entrepreneurship to generate millions in revenue and to help others succeed in all areas of their lives. In his book, The Dojo:...

If you’re anything like me—which I’m guessing you are because you’re here on the Trauma Hiders Club—you likely have experienced one or more of the following phrases that could be harmful to people who experienced trauma: “Time heals all wounds!” “I’ve been there, too.” “Everything happens for a reason,” or, perhaps the bestseller, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!” In this episode, I disc...

Scott Simon is a happiness entrepreneur and the Founder of the Scare Your Soul movement. A sought-after speaker, Scott co-founded Thrive, a “happiness incubator” for which he delivered a TEDx Talk in 2013 before he launched Scare Your Soul in 2016. He is a meditation leader and high-performance life coach who focuses on creating flourishing lives after major changes. Scott received his Bachelor of...

Limiting decisions or beliefs are called such because they’re not really something we’re born with— they’re something we decide or believe in, sometimes consciously and sometimes not. But, however they come to us, they must be unearthed, named, and worked through. After all, these limiting decisions or beliefs, especially when left unchecked, run our lives and prevent us from becoming who we wish...

Toku McCree is an executive coach. Formerly a monk, Toku lived in a Zen monastery where he vowed to liberate all beings from suffering. Today, as an executive coach, Toku has built a business to do just that. He founded Unexecutive.com—a platform that works to create enlightened leaders to solve the world’s most pressing problems—and has worked with many brilliant minds, from Zen Habits’ Leo Babau...

Despite its name, self-sabotage isn’t out to sabotage us at all—it exists to help keep us safe from potential danger or harm. It’s a protective mechanism created by our psyches to keep us safe, and what’s safe for our psyche is often what’s familiar. So, when we try to change our lives, our psyche triggers the alarm bells inside us, reverting us to our status quo and labeling it as self-sabotage....

It’s confession time in the Trauma Hiders Club. One of the thoughts that held me back from healing my unprocessed trauma was the fear that I might end up divorced. I was scared that I might fall apart—shattered and broken—because all my trauma would fly around like the dementors in the Harry Potter books, sucking away all my happiness to leave me a soulless, unloving, and unlovable shell. Who woul...

Allison Crow is a life and self-leadership coach for authentic, ambitious women. She has been teaching and coaching since the mid-90s and started coaching full-time in 2007 with Keller Williams Realty, where she established and carried out mentorship and coaching programs for new and existing agents. Today, Allison helps her clients work with thoughts, emotions, and behaviors through her coaching...

If you’ve been listening to the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast for a while, you’ve likely heard the term “emotional armor” on several episodes with multiple guests. As adults, we’ve learned to keep our guards up—to protect ourselves from criticism and judgment. So we don full metal armor to cover our tender selves—sometimes without even thinking about it. I know this first hand because I’ve worn the a...

Dr. Erin Baker is a Doctor of Social Psychology, recovering big tech employee, trauma-informed coach, and occasional podcaster. Before becoming a self-leadership and business coach, Erin previously led the User Experience Research team at Facebook and was part of bringing Facebook Stories to 2 billion people. They were also the Director of User Experience Research & Design at Microsoft Yammer....

I’ve been wrestling with the concept of parental protection lately. You see, when I look back at how I was protected as a child, it appears to me like a confusing spirograph of control, fear, and demands. I wonder if “protection” is something that I imagined or actually experienced. Now, as a parent, I reflect on my role as a protector and realize that I’m a mixture of my parents—and the inner war...

Toby Goodman is an author, coach, a sick-ass drummer who has traveled the world playing for a Rolling Stone, a Bee Gee, a Spice Girl, and TV talent show winners (and losers). In addition to his work as CEO of Podcast Network Solutions, Toby is the host of the Podcast Business Coach podcast and the creator of The Profitable Pod Method, a course that helps professionals use podcasting to scale their...

I’ve been working on my personal development for the vast majority of my life. I’ve also invested significantly in training, certification programs, and my own coaches. Over the last seven years or so, the deeper I have worked on myself, the deeper the work I offer my clients has become. While working on personal development has created some fundamental changes in my life and the lives of my clien...

Jaimes McNeal is a researcher, executive coach, and speaker. He is the President and Owner of JDM Coaching 360, a personal, professional, and organizational development company. Jaimes is a Ph. D. candidate for Business Psychology at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, where he also completed his Master of Arts in Industrial and Organizational Psychology. In addition to his work as an e...

I went to a women’s retreat recently. This is huge, considering I avoid women’s retreats: them being specifically for women triggers several parts of me. But by going to this camp cultivation experience— masterfully created and facilitated by my friend and fellow coach, Allison Crow—in Dripping Springs, Texas, I learned so much about my avoidance and how I relate with women. In this episode, I sha...

Joe Ryan is the creator and host of It's Not You; It’s Your Trauma, a podcast that tackles trauma, PTSD, abuse, anxiety, and recovery. During his lifelong path of overcoming trauma and shame, Joe has committed to paving the road for others. As a coach, Joe helps people heal and conquer their traumatic pasts through his one-on-one services. In addition to hosting his show and working as a trauma co...

Around a year ago, before the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast launched, I felt like I was in between two worlds. The first world was one of fear; the other world was freedom. The in-between was a clammy, sweaty, dry-mouthed, going-through-the-motion, emotionally-disconnected space—basically, my system’s happy place. I thought, at that time, that one world was an inside game and the other an external af...

Andrea Ashley is the host and producer of the Adult Child Podcast, the leading and fastest-growing podcast on the impact of growing up in an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. A CPA by profession, Andrea worked in accounting and financial firms before launching her podcast. She has worked in CFGI’s Business and Talent Acquisition team and was a senior consultant for Armanino, as well as an audit...

I’ve heard it said that the only trip that you regret is the one that you don’t take. Now, if you’re anything like me, powerful quotes like that get balled up, pushed through the pumper of emotions, and come out on the other side shaped like a big colorful mess of “Oh fuck. There you are, regret.” And in the age of the global pandemic and collective trauma, it takes a lot to choose between regret...

Heather Doyle Fraser is a publisher and author, as well as the Founder of the Compassionate Mind Collaborative and its parent company, Beyond Challenge, LLC. As a coach and consultant, Heather utilizes compassionate mind skills and strategies to help clients share their voice, whether they are in the boardroom, navigating a career change, launching a business, or developing a book. She is the auth...

I recently had a revelation that one of my biggest fears in life is being misunderstood. As a teeny tiny child—the youngest of three born in three years—I was often told to stop being such a baby. I was called an actress—specifically Sarah Bernhardt—because apparently, I was the drama. What I didn’t know then that I know now is that my parents regularly shutting me down was the fertilizer that hel...

Will Rezin is a somatic coach and trainer and trauma integration specialist who guides individuals on the journey of waking up to their aliveness. He is the Co-founder of Trauma and Somatics, a program that trains trauma-informed coaches and facilitators. As a coach, Will has served a wide range of clients, from Fortune 500 brand developers, app developers, and Emmy award-winning producers to TED...

Imagine you’re in a conversation, and you’re asked how you feel about your success. Do you reply with “I think I can do more”? How about when you’re asked how you feel about your relationship with your father? Do you say, “I think he’s an honorable man”? Do you notice the pattern here? Each time you’re asked about how you feel, you respond by sharing what you think. In this episode, I discuss why...