Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

I was never one to dream about being a bride or planning a wedding—perhaps I was too busy navigating my life as a trauma hider. However, I did know a few things: I knew who I wanted to be in love, and knew with whom I wanted to be in love. I wanted to be real, honest, vulnerable, and raw, and I wanted my person to be with all of me, even if I didn’t want to deal with all of me. I married the guy w...

Jon Katz is an online personal coach based in New York City. He is the creator of NYC Foodways Coaching, which helps people transform their minds and bodies by using the same personal development program that saved his life when he was considering suicide at age 34. Jon’s program, based on the principle of replacing negative thought and behavior patterns with positive ones, is tailored for people...

“Once upon a time,” Roald Dahl’s classic children’s book Matilda started, “there was a little girl who was trapped.”   I wasn’t a child when Matilda came out. But a few years later, I had children, and when my children watched the movie version on VHS, I sat with them. I didn’t watch with them. Those opening lines caught me—I couldn’t watch. But when I recently rewatched Matilda on Netflix—just me...

Andrea Ashley is the host and producer of the Adult Child Podcast, the leading and fastest-growing podcast on the impact of growing up in an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. A CPA by profession, Andrea worked in accounting and financial firms before launching her podcast. She has worked in CFGI’s Business and Talent Acquisition team and was a senior consultant for Armanino, as well as an audit...

Up to this point, I kept my coaching practice somewhat separate from the Trauma Hiders Club podcast. My coaching practice has always been full, flourishing, and thriving with exponential growth, but ever since my mom died, I’ve been looking at it. What struck me was the myriad of ways I had kept so many people out while offering exclusive, high-ticket engagement, VIP experiences, and made-up rules...

I’m going to save you a lot of time and needless worry and let you in on a secret that nobody tells you until you become a member of the Dead Family Member Secret Society. The timesaving, worry-saving, and (possibly) money-saving secret is—grief is love. Grief is love’s confusion. Grieving is loving. Now, before you roll your eyes or boo at me, I want you to hear me out. In this episode, I discuss...

I have chosen peace and quiet. I lived in two worlds for most of my life. One was a world where I let others see what I wanted them to see, and the other was a world where I kept people from the broken, damaged, unlovable me. And, in those two different worlds, I wasn’t aware that I was struggling with quiet, stillness, and peace. While I craved stillness and peace, the dark quiet of the night had...

A friend recently thanked me for sharing my grief experience on Facebook and Instagram. She told me that she was terrified of the inevitable loss of her currently healthy, thriving mother. But what I learned about loss—and this is something I learned only after my mother’s funeral—is that there’s nothing to fear. And while I can’t say I’m on the other side of grief—because I’m doubtful there’s an...

Let me tell you something: when I set out to do this project, I never imagined that this podcast—with the goal of normalizing conversations around trauma—would be fun or interesting after 25 episodes. And yet, here we are at the 100th episode of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast, continuing to grow and flourish. While I could boast about how the number of listeners or messages shared has grown over t...

As a child, I learned from Sunday school that it was my responsibility to be a mother. To prepare for that game, I studied my own mother: a brilliant, independent, and courageous woman I admired. With her as my role model, I learned everything from connection and heartbreak to sending kids to overnight camp and the value of reading. As she trusted me to be a fierce warrior for her life and a compa...

Nancy Perlson is a trauma-informed licensed clinical social worker trained in somatically-based treatments and modalities. She is a long-time yoga practitioner and instructor certified through the Yoga Alliance as well as an active member of the International Association of Yoga Therapists. In 2010, Nancy created Connecting Through Yoga, a yoga bereavement support program. She has served on the Bo...

Joe Ryan is the creator and host of It's Not You; It’s Your Trauma, a podcast that tackles trauma, PTSD, abuse, anxiety, and recovery. During his lifelong path of overcoming trauma and shame, Joe has committed to paving the road for others. As a coach, Joe helps people heal and conquer their traumatic pasts through his one-on-one services. In addition to hosting his show and working as a trauma co...

Earlier this year, I did inner child work with my extraordinary, hilarious, and generous coach, Nate Postlethwait. It was deep, dark, and confronting as much as it was uplifting, light, and joyful. And, at the end of our journey to meet the child within me, I wrote a letter to my younger self--that younger me, that fierce, 10-year-old warrior who took charge and fought. In this episode, I share th...

Catherine Hammond is a transformational coach and author. Her book, hope(less): The Truth about Hope and Where to Find It, serves as a memoir, manifesto, manual, and guidebook for people going through the ups and downs of life. An award-winning estate planning attorney, Catherine founded the full-service estate planning firm Hammond Law Group PC in 2005 to serve the needs of her community. She rec...

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been told as a child how you take up too much space. You’ve been told—backhandedly or directly—that you are simply too much. And you somehow believed them. You thought you needed to be less—less loud, spacious, emotional, demanding, expressive, smart, hilarious, and beautiful—and did just that. But it’s time to give the temper-downers a hard and hearty F.U. In th...

Tony Bonnici is the founder of Zen Men and Dojo Integrated Leadership. He is the author of The Dojo: The Ancient Wisdom of Integrative Leadership for the Modern Entrepreneur, which teaches readers how to be integrated leaders in their relationships, health, and spirituality. Through decades of experience in business, Tony has blended ancient wisdom, Zen, and entrepreneurship to generate millions i...

As much as we want to begin the new year with a bright, shiny, clean slate, the shit we carried, hid, and buried—and the symptoms that showed up because of them—may still follow us. This doesn’t mean that 2023 will be a rehash of 2022. It means that the challenges of last year don’t want to be put on hold. And that’s okay; it’s part of being human. But this year offers us new ways of dealing with...

Patti Hall is a non-fiction writer, sought-after ghostwriter, publishing project manager, and rare disease advocate. She is a memoir-writing coach who works with heart-centered leaders, entrepreneurs, and writers dedicated to serving. In her book, Loving Large: A Mother’s Rare Disease Memoir, Patti chronicles how she navigated her life as she supported her son, who was diagnosed with gigantism. Pa...

When I think about what I’d like to create in the new year, my mind thinks about growth, challenges, and commitment. My heart, however, is liable to be confused and push back. It wasn’t until recently that I realized that the person I want to be the most is the person I was as a child: the young me who was funny, glittery, sparkly, smart, curious, bold, engaging, and creative—the young Karen who f...

Bryan Post is a speaker, author, and one of America’s leading child behavior and adoption experts. He is the creator of the Stress Model, a dynamic theoretical model of human behavior. Through the Stress Model, Bryan has developed Family-Centered Regulatory Parenting and Regulatory Therapy, which have both been taught at the university level and are changing the lives of adults, parents, and famil...

Reverting to my wounded, inner child whenever I’m home for the holidays—and all the fabulousness and absolute shittiness that brings—is often a go-to for me. Old reactions get kicked up and resentments bubble up to the surface, time and time again. But I know it’s not helpful for me, or anyone else, for beating myself up for feeling or being this way. If I’m reacting from a place of my past wounds...

Allison Crow M.Ed. is an author and the founder of Soul-Full Living, a coaching practice that helps clients work through thoughts, emotions, and behaviors using an approach based on Internal Family Systems. In addition to her work as a coach, Allison is the creator and host of the podcast, the Better Life Better Work Show, where she facilitates conversations on authentic leadership and developing...

Jewelle (Colwell Boldt) Zehr is a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach and Certified Regenerating Images in Memory Facilitator. A trauma survivor herself, Jewelle created The Art of Onward, a platform where she guides clients to healing and rebuilding their lives after trauma by using the exact strategies that saved her own life. She studied at the Life Mastery Institute and is a member of the Energy M...

Going home for the holidays is a blend of “Ooh, that sounds cozy!” and “Ugh, that’s a nightmare filled with bad thermostat settings and uncomfortable furniture.” The fact that I’ve lived outside my parents’ home for more than 30 years doesn’t matter—the minute I walk back through the doors, I revert to my wounded inner child, equipped with the same endless loop of stories and resentments and ready...

We were all children once upon a time. But, as we grow up, we never really lose those sparkly, hopeful, energized, fun, and funny versions of ourselves—they are still with us today. For many members of the Trauma Hiders Club, our inner children are in pain and hiding, waiting to be held and supported. They are waiting to be known and acknowledged. If you’re one of those people, know that it’s neve...