Trauma Agora

Dating, money, equality… and the dreaded bill at the end of dinner. In Part 2 of our modern dating series, we're asking a question that somehow still starts arguments online: Should we be splitting the bill on every date now? If relationships are becoming more equal, why do so many people still expect men to pay? And if someone prefers traditional roles… is that a contradiction or just personal ch...

Should men pay on the first date? Dating Advice, Modern Relationships, Feminism & Gender Roles Explained.   It's one of the most controversial questions in modern dating—and the answer depends a lot on where you grew up.   In Part 1 of this conversation, we explore how culture shapes our expectations around dating, relationships, and what it means to feel valued by a partner.   From Russian da...

Manosphere, masculinity, social media, neurodivergence, relationships, and mental health—Jake unpacks what it takes to leave it behind. In this episode of Trauma Agora, we unpack how social media rabbit holes pull people deeper into extreme thinking, why neurodivergence can make those communities feel especially validating, and what starts to shift when authenticity replaces performance. Because o...

Reacting to the iconic Barbie monologue by America Ferrera — unpacking pressure, beauty standards, mental load, and Red Pill culture. In this bonus episode of Trauma Agora, we make Jake (former Red Pill / Manosphere era) watch the iconic Barbie monologue for the first time… and unpack what it actually means. Because on the surface? It’s just a speech. But underneath? It’s everything women have bee...

Manosphere, self-improvement, masculinity, feminism, depression, purpose... we’re going a bit deeper with this one.   In this episode of Trauma Agora, we move past reacting and actually sit down with someone who’s been in it.   Jake (our very own “recovered Red Piller” 😭) talks us through how he ended up in the Manosphere in the first place – and honestly, it’s not as extreme as you might expect....

Manosphere, masculinity, dating, wealth, misogyny, and social media — yeah… we’re unpacking all of it.   In this episode of Trauma Agora, we react to the new Inside The Manosphere documentary by Louis Theroux — and honestly? We’re equal parts laughing, raging, and deeply concerned.   This week we’re asking: Is this exposing the Manosphere… or accidentally making it look cool?   Because between the...

Welcome back to Trauma Agora, where three semi-functioning adults attempt to make sense of modern life without starting a full-blown existential crisis. This week we’re tackling a massive question: Why does it feel like everyone online is living in a completely different reality? We dive into the psychology behind algorithm bubbles, social media bias, and why the same news story can show up on one...

News anxiety. Media bias. Doomscrolling. Propaganda. Privilege. Social media activism. Mental health in the 24-hour chaos machine.   The news keeps you informed. But does it inform you… or just stress you out before 9am?   In this episode of Trauma Agora, we spiral (responsibly) through the 24-hour news cycle and ask a very simple question: are we actually built to process this much global catastr...

They say that nice guys always finish last. But is that true? In this cheeky episode of Trauma Agora, we take the concept of the 'performative nice guy' and put it under a microscope. From teenage rejection trauma to driving us to delete Bumble, this one spirals just as you expect. Jake’s villain origin story, love-bombing and what it's actually like to date a bad boy (not Jake clearly), this one...

In this episode, we talk writing a will in your 20s & 30s, UK intestacy laws, estate planning, grief, legacy & why young people need a will.   ⚠️ Trigger Warning: In this episode we discuss grief, loss and death. Please take care while listening. We sat down with the incredible Sophia Maslin, the trailblazing barrister and CEO of Morby, to talk about mortality, legacy, grief, and why writi...

Friendship breakups. Why do they hurt so much? And why does no one ever warn you about them? In this episode of Trauma Agora, we get into the very real pain of losing friends as adults. The slow fades, the awkward silences, the sudden cut-offs, and the friendships that just quietly stop making sense. It starts with a bit of chaos (as always), then turns into an honest conversation about outgrowing...

Can’t focus anymore? Exhausted but overstimulated? Let’s talk adult ADHD, TikTok brain, burnout, and why your attention span isn’t the problem. Welcome to Trauma Agora, a mental health podcast where we talk honestly about neurodiversity, and why so many people are experiencing neurodivergent burnout in a world built around productivity culture and dopamine addiction. In this episode, Emily and Jak...

Trauma, family dynamics, and holiday stress collide in our 2025 Festival Special of Trauma Agora, as we talk about how to set boundaries and the nightmare that is driving home for Christmas.   Think awkward dinners, passive-aggressive siblings, reflecting on the year's losses, family hierarchy shifts, and the emotional exhaustion of trying to be “normal” while everyone else loses their sh*t.   We...

Purpose, identity, comparison, career pressure, and the quarter-life crisis; why finding direction feels harder than assembling IKEA furniture. We're diving headfirst into purpose; why it matters, why everyone is confused about it, and why your quarter-life crisis isn't a glitch… It’s a feature. Welcome back to Trauma Agora, the only podcast where three semi-functional adults unpack life’s existen...

Welcome back to Trauma Agora, where three semi-functioning adults unpack the psychological chaos of modern dating so you don’t have to. In Part Two on attachment theory, we dive even deeper into why you date who you date, and why your nervous system keeps choosing familiar dysfunction over actual compatibility (uh-oh). Trigger warning: We do mention themes around traumatic births, anxiety attacks...

Welcome to the Agora!  ✨ Our first ever episode! ✨ We’re kicking off Trauma Agora by diving headfirst into attachment theory, aka why we love the way we do, text the way we do, and sometimes completely self-sabotage (oops). Can your attachment style actually change, or are we all just a little bit anxious and avoidant forever?  Is it true that, statistically, everyone on Hinge needs therapy? (We...

Welcome to the Agora! Trauma Agora is almost here! Join Nina, Jake and Emily as they tackle all the struggles of being in your 20's & 30's, through the form of self help discussions, unpacking philosophy and good old fashioned DMC's. The vibes are gonna be high. They have no idea, neither do you. Let's just try and figure it out together, shall we?