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Send us Fan Mail Joy explores what the risks are of assuming that people will all be "good." They discuss the potential "harms." Together, Joy and Diana discuss when they  want to share, and how they navigate their lives. They share some ideas of how to "test the waters" around them, and how they look for "winks." They include how they look for those "w...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Joy and Diana explore considerations in disclosing their children's transgender identity and in which communities and situations they feel safe to do so.  Diana and Joy also reflect on their struggle in engaging authentically with individuals and the community around them, since in most cases they aren't disclosing their identities as parents of transgen...

Send us Fan Mail Diana shares her experience taking Dinah to the Gender clinic to establish care. Diana and Joy discuss how some things have changed and the challenges of attaining care.  For clarity, no medical intervention is being offered or requested for Dinah at this time. It is only to establish care and support.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d...

Send us Fan Mail Joy and Diana reflect on a post from a parent about the effect on their family of discussing anti-transgender bills. They discuss the recent changes in various states over the past weeks. They end with hope for the future from an article from Time that you may find here. ( https://time.com/6258586/utah-transgender-bill-essay/?utm_medium=email&utm_source=sfmc&utm_campaign=n...

Send us Fan Mail Hugh (Small Town Dad) joins us for Episode 45.  He and Joy reflect on: 1) their process of reviewing school records, 2) seeking to understand how school board resolutions drive policy change, and 3) sports policy in their school district.  Listen in as new insights arise and decisions are made after meeting with the School District’s Assistant Superintendent.  If you’re taking som...

Send us Fan Mail Diana talks with her friend Kirby, who shares her journey of her child's transition. They discuss transition as well as navigating society's perceptions of gender diversity and neurodiversity.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can rea...

Send us Fan Mail Join us for updates as Joy shares the steps she and Hugh are taking to navigate the anticipated Parental Transparency school district policy.  Joy and Diana share gratitude for all the “Mr. Rogers” helpers out there - we encourage (and celebrate) your allyship and encourage listeners to thank those in your community who speak and act in support of gender nonconforming youth.     ...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 42,  Joy shares the new resolution passed in her school district. She discusses the potential impact on her family. As Joy opens up about her emotional journey through their changing landscape, she discusses her family's options. She also walks through Hugh and her plan on how they are approaching this resolution that may become policy.  If you’re taking something...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode 41 we reflect on the universal parental desire to keep our children safe, and both Joy and Diana explore additional considerations for people of trans experience (especially as teens mature into dating and sexual exploration).  Listen in to explore questions such as: When is the 'right time' to disclose one's transgender identity to a romantic partner?  ...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Diana and Joy give updates on what has occurred over the past year. Episodes referenced in the order mentioned are: Episode 29: Have Courage Will Travel Episode 23: A (Testosterone) Path Less Talked About Episode 12: Gender-Affirming Estrogen Therapy Episode 38: Permission to Play (Sports) Episode 32: Stepping Out Episode 18: Siblings and Boundaries Diana and Joy...

Send us Fan Mail Join us in episode 39 to reflect on the importance of self-awareness and self-care during stressful times.  Diana shares a lesson learned about knowing one's limits, and she encourages us to bring awareness to our individual capacity for handling stress.  She and Joy also explore boundary setting, preparing for difficult situations, and navigating anticipated challenges. If y...

Send us Fan Mail Joy explores the implications of Samantha's desire to play on a competitive volleyball team. She shares what she has learned about USA Volleyball’s gender competition guidelines and how she is navigating the system while trying to maintain privacy. If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 37, Diana and Joy explore how their children's gender journey has enhanced their lives, including a reflection of gratitude for the lessons learned.  November 20th is Transgender Day of remembrance, which is observed to memorialize those who have lost their lives as a result of transphobia.  In this episode, we honor those lost by celebrating the beauty that has ar...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 36, Joy and Diana explore their increasing sense of fear, as mid-term elections near.  In many places around the US, there are laws being considered that would eliminate access to transition-related health care and other laws that consider supporting a child's transition to their true self to be child abuse.    Watch: 1. The Problem with Jon Stewart: The War Over G...

Send us Fan Mail Diana & Joy reflect on their learning and insights from the podcast with Chris Hale.  Join us as we share additional insights, including Chris’s perspective on his transition and Clark’s struggle with being misgendered at school.   If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d subscribe and/or take a moment to provide us a review; the more liste...

Send us Fan Mail Diana talks to her good friend, Chris Hale. They share with Diana their journey to understanding their identity as a non-binary person. Chris gives parents advice to consider the things that you say, and meet your child where they are.  If you are interested in hearing Chris’s podcast, You Need A Coach B*tch, click here. If you want to learn more about Chris’ coaching practice, go...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 33, Diana shares a conversation theme she’s hearing from parents - specifically, a concern that youth are identifying as non-binary and transgender to be trendy. Joy and Diana explore the dangerous implications of parents/guardians questioning their children’s identity, while recognizing it’s in our human nature to question and seek explanations for things we struggle t...

Send us Fan Mail Diana shares a new discovery after talking to Clark. She and Joy explore how he got there, and what it means to Diana. If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d subscribe and/or  take a moment to  provide us a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As always, feel free to reach out to us at transparentl...

Send us Fan Mail From challenging gender norms (e.g., boys don't cry) to exploring gender inclusive language, join Joy and Diana as they explore the opportunity for greater awareness and language shifts to create a better world.  Listen in to hear about mistakes they've made in assuming gender pronouns and misgendering individuals, and how they are working diligently to practice a langua...

Send us Fan Mail Hear how Joy and Diana have navigated health care offices to help them affirm their children. They discuss their experiences before and after a legal name change. They also share some obstacles they have faced along the way. If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d subscribe and/or take a moment to provide us a review; the more listeners and re...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 29, Diana and Joy explore their preparations for and experiences with transgender travel. Listen as Diana prepares for Clark’s journey to Israel, and as both Diana and Joy reflect on learnings and approaches, including getting through TSA (Transportation Security Administration), navigating legal and preferred names, considering carry letters and safe folders, updating...

Send us Fan Mail This is the second of the two-part series in celebration of Father’s Day. Joy and Diana reflect on the essential and supportive role their husbands have played in the lives of their kids, and interview their husbands to allow these two men an opportunity to share their story, experience, and wisdom with listeners.  In part 2, Diana interviews her husband,  Arthur to explore his jo...

Send us Fan Mail Joy and Diana kick off a two-part series in celebration of Father’s Day; they reflect on the essential and supportive role their husbands have played in the lives of their kids, and interview their husbands to allow these two men an opportunity to share their story, experience, and wisdom with listeners.  In part 1, Joy interviews her husband Hugh to explore his journey and unders...

Send us Fan Mail Join Diana and Joy in gratitude and celebration - one year of podcasting, and many years of pride celebration ahead!  This episode reflects on a few pioneers who have inspired us, and ends with a note of hope and love, dedicated to any and all children who may not be surrounded by the support of their loved ones.    If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate...

Send us Fan Mail Diana answers listeners' questions about the testosterone journey episodes. Joy discusses where Samantha is on her path to start estrogen. Diana and Joy discuss the requirements to start cross-sex hormones and their concerns.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d subscribe and/or take a moment to  provide us a review; the more listener...