Transparently Speaking

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Joy and Diana discuss the unexpected cancellation of a conference for families with transgender and non-binary children. Five days before it was set to occur, the conference was called off for security reasons.  They explore the implications of this disruption, the emotional and physical safety concerns it raised, and the broader societal context impacting transge...

Send us Fan Mail Diana shares a specific challenge she's facing as she discovers an organization she enjoys working with is not currently open to conversation around gender identity.  Join us in Episode #80 as Diana and Joy explore how values drive boundaries and influence the ways in which we choose to engage.    If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d t...

Send us Fan Mail Join Diana and Joy as they discuss the ongoing journey of supporting Samantha, a transgender athlete, in youth sports. This episode explores the importance of maintaining Samantha's privacy while ensuring her right to play. Hear their insights and correspondence with regional authorities to navigate these evolving policies. If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode #78 we welcome a new voice and storyline to share another family's journey as they support their non-binary child.  Joy introduces her friend Sophie, whose child recently named their pronouns as "they/ them."    If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and r...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Diana shares a recent incident involving Clark with an organization they previously had to educate to ensure Clark’s equal rights. This new interaction sheds light on the deeper impact last year's events had on Clark and reveals that his wounds are still far from healed. Tune in to learn more about their ongoing journey in advocacy. If you want a reminder of...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode #76, Joy and Diana reflect on how gender identity (and nondisclosure of gender identity) has influenced their thinking about who, when and how their kids might spend an overnight with others.  Join us to hear a broader reflection on sexuality and how we navigate the topic for our cisgender kids, too! If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it i...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Joy and Diana discuss how their approach to managing summer activities has evolved since their children first transitioned. They explore the challenges and strategies related to their children using gendered facilities, such as bathrooms and locker rooms, and share their experiences navigating summer camps. Additionally, they reflect on how their decisions regardi...

Send us Fan Mail Join us in episode #74 to kickoff and celebrate pride month!  Joy and Diana share another letter of hope and love,  dedicated to any and all who might benefit from being seen and supported.    If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and supp...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Diana and Joy continue their discussion from last time, focusing on the book about a transgender boy that was shared in Dinah's class. It's an episode you won't want to miss, full of laughter and hope. Diana also shares a letter she wrote to the parents, which is a valuable resource. Tune in to hear Diana and Joy talk about navigating this "big...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode 72, Diana shares the details of a school-based scenario that’s arisen, and how she’s preparing for the possibility of Dyna disclosing his transgender identity.  Join Joy and Diana as they explore what’s different this time (vs. with Clark & Samantha), and listen to their reflection on how gender identity disclosure may help or hinder success (e.g., in sports or musi...

Send us Fan Mail Diana gives an update on preparing Clark to leave the house and go to school next year. Listen as things get real for Diana, as she realizes her feelings as she considers saying goodbye to her oldest child.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can...

Send us Fan Mail Join Diana and Joy as they share what's been holding them back from having conversations with their trans youth about intimacy and safe sex, and learn what they are taking away as opportunities for further conversation.   If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the...

Send us Fan Mail Diana talks about Clark's next steps after graduation and her feelings about them. Joy helps Diana explore what is coming up for her and provides perspective.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As always, feel free to...

Send us Fan Mail Diana and Joy share their experience in discovering and navigating the news of Nex Benedict’s tragic bullying and death in Oklahoma.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As always, feel free to reach out to us at transparent...

Send us Fan Mail Join Joy and Diana for an update on the discussion with school district administration, as Joy pursues Samantha's eligibility to participate in the sport she loves.  Listen to learn about an Endocrinologist's perspective on sex vs. gender, ongoing considerations for maintaining privacy in non-disclosure, and Diana's advice about how to set the tone in making request...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast episode (#66), Joy is getting ready for a meeting with her child's school district to discuss sports participation. The focus shifts to the importance of trust in the administration to safeguard her child's identity during this process. This prompts a broader conversation between Joy and Diana about the trust parents place in others, specifically in not d...

Send us Fan Mail Joy, after many years, has returned to attending a support group. This leads to Diana and Joy reflecting on their experiences attending various support groups in Episode 65. They discuss the advantages and disadvantages of attending support groups.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more lis...

Send us Fan Mail Join us in this episode to hear more about Diana and Clark's trip to Mexico in October.  This episode is also a reflection and celebration of key learnings from 2023.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As always, feel...

Send us Fan Mail Diana and Joy discuss their holiday traditions and reflect on what the first years post-transition were like. They share their advice and lessons learned.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As always, feel free to reach ou...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Diana and Joy explore assumptions, fears, and challenges in giving, receiving, and asking for support.  The concept of support is in the context of anti-trans legislation that has been passed or proposed in many states.  Joy and Diana articulate the impacts of proposed anti-trans legislation, even when not likely to be passed into law, and name the burden carried...

Send us Fan Mail In episode 61, Joy and Diana talk about their experiences with how they approached family gatherings. They discuss everything from the tone of their presentation to setting boundaries.  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more people we can reach and support. As...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode 60, Diana and Joy reflect on the latest round of legislative bills being proposed in their state; one, named the “Help Not Harm Act,” is legislation similar to that which has been passed in 20 states.  Also proposed is regulation around transgender participation in sports.  Join to hear about Joy's reflection as Samantha continues to participate in competitive voll...

Send us Fan Mail Diana and Joy explore the concept of "Gender reveals" and their history in deciding whether or not to find out (before birth) what their children would be assigned at birth. They explore what the possible assignment meant to them and Diana also shares context around the historical economics of "finding out" the assignment prior to birth. If you’re taking someth...

Send us Fan Mail In Episode 58, Diana and Joy share stories and their family journeys of names, including how names were selected for their gender non-conforming  children (to better reflect their identities).  They also explore how emotion arises in relation to the meanings associated with names, including the challenge of disclosure and safety when a name feels misaligned with gender expression....

Send us Fan Mail Diana and Joy start this episode discussing Diana's pre-school year meeting with Dinah's teachers. They explore being asked questions as well as finding people to answer their own questions. Who is an expert?  If you’re taking something away from our podcast, we’d appreciate it if you’d take a moment to provide us with a review; the more listeners and reviews, the more p...