Touching Grass

0:00 how feeling ugly set me free 1:44 the problem with beauty-based confidence 3:14 not caring about looks is freeing 5:13 obsession with beauty prevents living 5:43 beauty as a form of control 7:33 beauty as a form of power 8:19 feeling ugly is empowering 9:30 your body as a vehicle for experience 10:12 self-love shouldn’t be tied to looks 11:12 removing the weight of words The beauty industry t...

0:00 Introduction 1:40 unbothered vs performance 2:53 nothing is about you 3:50 shifting your mindset 5:13 unbothered isn’t not caring 6:52 sitting in discomfort 8:38 it’s okay to not be liked 11:05 everything is a projection of preference 13:14 learning to regulate 14:04 arriving to unbothered Everyone wants to be unbothered. To stop overthinking texts. To stop taking rejection personally. To sto...

0:00 introduction 1:47 why the world feels extreme 2:51 how controversy helped me 5:02 reality tv example 5:45 belief through repetition 7:51 cancel culture doesn't work 9:32 why politics feel extreme 11:32 the need for balance 13:46 staying informed vs amplification 15:12 your attention is power The internet is constantly complaining about extreme people. The influencers with outrageous opini...

0:00 introduction 1:40 why it feels empowering 3:01 the contradicting message 3:43 why you actually feel safe 8:03 femininity in nature 11:39 ballet as an example 13:02 taking back control 14:22 the dependency on men 17:09 final thoughts Being in your feminine energy. Finding a man who lets you relax. Finally leaving survival mode behind. It's one of the most popular ideas on the internet righ...

This week on Touching Grass, we’re talking about beans… but not really. From “BeanTok” to avocado toast, this episode dives into how certain foods, styles, slang, and trends suddenly become “cool” once they’re adopted by the mainstream, while the communities who created them are still judged, stereotyped, or erased. As a Latina, I wanted to explore the deeper layers behind trends: Who gets to deci...

Turning 25 as a single woman on the internet apparently means I’m “expired.”So in this episode of Touching Grass, I decided to talk about it. Not just the ridiculous online discourse around women aging, dating, and “market value,” but the real lessons about love, relationships, heartbreak, situationships, timing, and self-worth that I’ve learned over the past 25 years. This is probably the most pe...

There’s a fear a lot of us carry but rarely say out loud. The fear of being seen as a failure. In this episode of Touching Grass, I open up about what it feels like to be in a pause in life that doesn’t look like progress from the outside, especially when you’ve spent years moving from goal to goal, identity to identity, and suddenly find yourself in a chapter that feels uncertain, invisible, and...

The internet is obsessed with being “nonchalant.” Don’t care too much. Don’t try too hard. Don’t text first. Don’t be cringe. But in this episode of Touching Grass, we break down why the online obsession with looking cool, detached, and emotionally unavailable is actually rooted in insecurity; and how the fear of being judged is stopping people from becoming who they want to be. Because the truth...

The internet loves to talk about boundaries.“Protect your peace.”“Cut people off.”“Match energy.”But what happens when those ideas go too far? In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down how social media has turned boundaries into extremes and how that shift is making us more isolated, more judgmental, and less connected than ever. Because while everyone is craving deeper friendships and a se...

Quitting your 9–5. Traveling the world. Slow mornings, financial freedom, and a life that feels like your own. It’s one of the most appealing ideas on the internet right now. And honestly… I get it. In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down the rise of anti–9-to-5 culture, the dream of escaping corporate life, and why the version of “freedom” being sold online isn’t as simple, or as attaina...

Most of what you’re watching on social media isn’t just content. It’s marketing. In this episode of Touching Grass, we break down how the line between entertainment and advertising has disappeared, and how the attention economy, influencer marketing, and personal branding have reshaped what you see online. Social media platforms are designed to keep you watching. The longer you stay, the more valu...

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that if something doesn’t last… it didn’t matter. That if a relationship ends, it was a waste of time. That if it didn’t lead to “forever,” it somehow failed. But when did life become something we’re only allowed to invest in if there’s a guaranteed outcome? What if nothing that made you feel deeply was ever a waste? In this episode we talk about the p...

The way we understand ourselves has always been shaped by nature vs nurture. But what happens when “nurture” is no longer just your family, your friends, or your environment? What happens when it’s your algorithm? In this episode, we break down how social media is no longer just influencing what we like, it’s quietly shaping our identities, values, and definitions of success. From aesthetic trends...

In this episode of Touching Grass, we’re unpacking the manosphere from a completely different angle, not just what it says, but why it exists and who it actually benefits. Because the truth is the gender war isn’t organic, it’s incentivized. The manosphere positions itself as the “red pill,” a way for men to escape the system. But what if it’s actually just another version of the same system? One...

Romanticizing your life didn’t start as regression. It started as a way to appreciate the small moments. Morning coffee, slow walks, cooking dinner, finding beauty in everyday routines. The idea was simple: life doesn’t have to be extraordinary to feel meaningful. But somewhere along the way, the message changed. In this episode, we break down how viral internet trends around “soft life,” trad wiv...

The internet didn’t suddenly become louder. It became profitable. At some point,  attention stopped being a metric and became the product . And once our attention became the profit, everything online had to become more extreme to capture it. In this episode, we break down  how the evolution of social media created the attention economy , and how algorithms are quietly shaping what we believe about...

Being the one who leaves isn’t always brave and exciting. Sometimes, it’s lonely. In this episode, I’m talking about the side of moving away that no one really prepares you for; not just how friendships change after you leave, but how they start changing before you’ve even gone. The slow shifts. The anticipatory grief. The subtle pulling away that can make you feel left behind in your own life. We...

Sometimes we expect that the biggest most exciting moments in our lives are supposed to change us. In a world that romanticizes transformation, travel, and life altering experiences, we expect every beautiful opportunity to come with a revelation. In this episode, we explore the quiet disappointment of expecting transformation and not getting it. I share what it felt like to stand in front of Igua...

At some point, slowing down stops feeling intentional and starts feeling like failure. In a world obsessed with productivity, speed, and constant self-improvement, a pause can feel like you’re falling behind. In this episode, we explore why creative slumps, lack of motivation, and seasons of stillness feel so uncomfortable, and why we’re so quick to label them as failure. I share what it felt like...

At some point, leaving a chapter of your life behind stops feeling like growth and starts feeling like loss. In this episode, we explore the emotional complexity of moving back home after having transformative years; a time where friendships, experiences, and the person you were created a life you now must grieve. We reflect on the dissonance of returning to a hometown that no longer feels like ho...

At some point, hosting stops being about connection and starts feeling like a performance. In this episode, we explore how modern hosting, shaped by aesthetics, social media, and unspoken expectations, can feel draining instead of joyful. We also reflect on cultural differences in hosting, where simpler, more casual gatherings can build stronger, more regular community. Plus, we discuss how social...

Valentine’s Day can feel loud. The internet tells us what love is supposed to look like: the posts, the pressure, the grand gestures, the performance. But real love is usually quieter than that. This episode isn’t about hating Valentine’s Day or big gestures. It’s about the difference between being shown off and being understood. We talk about: Asking someone to be your valentine and if it matters...

Why does everything women love eventually get labeled “basic,” “cringe,” or embarrassing? From Taylor Swift to Pilates and pumpkin spice lattes, this episode explores how women’s interests are constantly mocked in ways men’s never are; and why that judgment runs deeper than internet jokes. In this episode, we unpack: Why women’s hobbies are devalued once they become popular How the “I’m not like o...

Starting over in your 20s often means starting without a support system. New city, new people, unfamiliar routines, and a loneliness no one really prepares you for. In this episode, we talk honestly about making friends as an adult, navigating rejection, and building a support system from scratch when you’re no longer a kid making friends on the playground. Drawing from personal experiences of mov...

Your body is more than its looks; it’s a vessel for your life. In a world that constantly compares and criticizes, especially online, Sofia challenges the idea that self-worth is tied to appearance and offers a fresh perspective: seeing our bodies as vessels for experience, not just aesthetics. In this episode of Touching Grass, she draws parallels between beauty, aging, and the natural world, sho...