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So I found some of my weekly reflection papers from human sexuality course from grad school. I did not review before reading. I’m glad I found these and I’ll be searching for more.

How to reflect on your past history of understanding your sexuality and gender identity.

Protecting sleep and energy.

Do you ever notice how creativity and creating art work is very fulfilling to the soul? Even if you aren’t good or skilled or knowledgeable we now more than ever have access at the least to online live streams of music, tutorials, free production software. And for other types of art there are digital software packages for sculpting, drawing, and 3D modeling. Get creative and pour some emotions int...

Time to unpack and study our social patterns. These change time to time. They can be altered by culture, lifestyle changes (graduating school, changing jobs), economic changes. And more! Try and identify the most recent day, week and if there are holes, barriers or unmet needs.

Back to the basics. Everything impacts something else. At your own preferred pace you can start to feel more on track. Identify the areas of the most struggle, for me I have them listed as sleep, wake, energy and mood. These are my major focuses lately. And I try and ground with spiritual practices and nourishment of deep breathing, food, nature, music, art/craft.

Welcome to the pride bootcamp series! So how does this work? Usually before summer (at least in Cali) we start hitting the gym in spring season to get that beach body tone, or at least slightly more confident in our bodies as we will be wearing less sweaters and more light weight clothing or tank tops and swim suits. Everybody wants to feel confident. A bootcamp usually whips a person into shape b...

These next tidbits we will discuss the new John Delony book. He asked many important helpful questions in his book and we will use this to help ourselves find balance. Here I review some initial questions and submit some of my own responses.

Weddings, funerals, memorials. Some formal events are very gendered with social rules for style choices. But what happens if you don’t fit into a box?

Here we discuss social anxiety and impacts of situations leading to anxiety.

Insecurities are generally apparent in relation to social settings. Check out this tidbits episode).

How to take a stress situation, especially one that is causing loss of sleep or inability to relax, and how to cope. Also here we delve into how to start feeling better and creating coping methods from scratch to tailor to a personal situation. Not one size fits all! Everyone can find out the method they are most comfortable to start using to feel better.

In part 2 we start further discussing how we can cope with stressors, methods such as using privacy to feel more protected. There are multiple options such as direct and open communication about a social stressor, or talking openly about reasons why we feel we can’t easily answer such as past experiences. Other people may place insecurities onto us leaving us feeling uncomfortable and distressed.

Communicating with Cis, Non-LGBT Friends (part 1/2, sharing about relationships, social complexities) here we talk in detail about scenarios underlying potential stressors that may arise when talking to people of different identities. Sometimes you want to be open and communicative and share about your life, especially with allies. But how do we address the complexities of our differences? They ma...

As I’m driving out from checking out of the hotel near Mountain High Resort, I start to record briefly some methods I’ve been implementing on my recent time off. Being off work I’ve been snowboarding and absorbing a change of scenery in the mountains. The sound quality is rough with a lot of feedback from the sound of the car on the road. I enjoy recording on the road as it gives me a couple hours...

Check out some personal experiences on the topic at hand. Maybe you can relate! Or maybe you have unique experiences of your own. Either way I hope this is helpful.

Some people out there may be new, questioning, or curious. Here are some discussions about that part of a person’s personal timeline. Stay tuned for part 2 packed with personal experiences, and check out the blog later on once I finish the post related to these topics. In the meantime check out the blog HERE for other topics. This is updated when I have time to blog about the supplemental material...

Attachment Styles impact relationships and feeling fulfilled and secure can improve quality when we understand any hang ups or strengths. CHECK OUT THE BLOG HERE FOR MORE RELEVANT SUPPLEMENTAL MATERIAL. https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/03/attachment-styles-and-desires-in.html

Let’s delve into insecure attachment styles. We can start by discussing Avoidant Attachment style.

Education, Job market, millennial trends, barriers and benefits to success and opportunities. Mostly my own personal experiences. Blog post: Click HERE ! https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/03/education-and-millennial-money.html

Knowing your sexuality and gender

Details about outing, forcing somebody out of the closet, invading privacy and confidentiality and toxicity.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

A short rant about stressors and goals

Substances, drugs, impacts. It can help to identify patterns of use. Why, when and where substances are used and in what situations as well as potential impacts (especially negative impacts- financial instability, physical pains, hangovers, fatigue, brain fog, emotional instability, anger, depression, anxiety, side effects, munchies, sleepiness, vomiting, chills, etc). If there are negative impact...