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(Sorry I thought I had published this on Wednesday). This topic has some overlap of other episodes but I was thinking this through from specific actual examples of my parents since in our household we don’t have much of a discussion.

Awesome sex positive content with good comedic delivery and a lot of diversity dynamics.

I finally got it! But today I tested negative and I feel fine. You may have noticed I’ve been less engaged lately. That’s why.

Post Black Pride after thoughts and the complex dynamics of race, ethnicity and LGBTQ+ spaces. Good for thought and personal experiences as well as complexities of questions.

The complexities of the ego and impacts on workplace comfort.

Substances Tidbits (how to tell if substances may be a problem and societal views about taboos). Here we talk about potential lifestyle stressors leading people to choose certain substances and societal views of what is acceptable and what is more taboo.

Work Relationships and Ego (processing speeds, productivity, taking time off, work-life balance). Often times we are conflicted between what we need for ourselves and what our work needs from us.

Black Pride (race and ethnicity, privilege, racism, prejudice). We can see challenges already with trying to define race and ethnicity. How we look versus how we are treated can be impacting and can lead to privilege, racism, prejudice, and everything in between. The LGBTQ+ community in addition to sexual and gender minorities also is made of racial and ethnic minorities. Here we discuss some of t...

Relationships and Internal Dynamics [self-esteem, perception, self-talk, & dating]. (This is a working title). For once I jump into the topic, and on a weekday morning! I may break this down into separate topics and I’m likely going to be writing on related topics on the blog (www.tomboyofficial.blogspot.com). The goal here is to discuss themes I experience or themes others tell me about in relati...

Some methods leading to better communication.

This book contains a lot of good tips and methods for self development.

So I found some of my weekly reflection papers from human sexuality course from grad school. I did not review before reading. I’m glad I found these and I’ll be searching for more.

How to reflect on your past history of understanding your sexuality and gender identity.

Protecting sleep and energy.

Do you ever notice how creativity and creating art work is very fulfilling to the soul? Even if you aren’t good or skilled or knowledgeable we now more than ever have access at the least to online live streams of music, tutorials, free production software. And for other types of art there are digital software packages for sculpting, drawing, and 3D modeling. Get creative and pour some emotions int...

Time to unpack and study our social patterns. These change time to time. They can be altered by culture, lifestyle changes (graduating school, changing jobs), economic changes. And more! Try and identify the most recent day, week and if there are holes, barriers or unmet needs.

Back to the basics. Everything impacts something else. At your own preferred pace you can start to feel more on track. Identify the areas of the most struggle, for me I have them listed as sleep, wake, energy and mood. These are my major focuses lately. And I try and ground with spiritual practices and nourishment of deep breathing, food, nature, music, art/craft.

Welcome to the pride bootcamp series! So how does this work? Usually before summer (at least in Cali) we start hitting the gym in spring season to get that beach body tone, or at least slightly more confident in our bodies as we will be wearing less sweaters and more light weight clothing or tank tops and swim suits. Everybody wants to feel confident. A bootcamp usually whips a person into shape b...

These next tidbits we will discuss the new John Delony book. He asked many important helpful questions in his book and we will use this to help ourselves find balance. Here I review some initial questions and submit some of my own responses.

Weddings, funerals, memorials. Some formal events are very gendered with social rules for style choices. But what happens if you don’t fit into a box?

Here we discuss social anxiety and impacts of situations leading to anxiety.

Insecurities are generally apparent in relation to social settings. Check out this tidbits episode).

How to take a stress situation, especially one that is causing loss of sleep or inability to relax, and how to cope. Also here we delve into how to start feeling better and creating coping methods from scratch to tailor to a personal situation. Not one size fits all! Everyone can find out the method they are most comfortable to start using to feel better.

In part 2 we start further discussing how we can cope with stressors, methods such as using privacy to feel more protected. There are multiple options such as direct and open communication about a social stressor, or talking openly about reasons why we feel we can’t easily answer such as past experiences. Other people may place insecurities onto us leaving us feeling uncomfortable and distressed.

Communicating with Cis, Non-LGBT Friends (part 1/2, sharing about relationships, social complexities) here we talk in detail about scenarios underlying potential stressors that may arise when talking to people of different identities. Sometimes you want to be open and communicative and share about your life, especially with allies. But how do we address the complexities of our differences? They ma...