To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

SYM1 and I are totally cut from the same cloth, in that we both love talking about our sexuality and welcoming others to talk about their sexuality. This discussion is broken up into 2 parts.  In these 2 episodes, I have a conversation with SYM1, Minneapolis-based music artist who uses sexuality and erotica in her art. We're going to hear about SYM1s sexual upbringing, but we're also going to talk...

Welcome back to Season 2 of To Hump A Pillow! My aim with this podcast is to enhance the language and conversation around sex to give partners, people, the community, the courage to speak up, ask questions, and discover pleasure. To choose pleasure, love and joy and opt out of suffering. I'm kicking off this season with something that I have found incredibly helpful and an agent for change. The Fo...

Who feels like they are curious and always ask WHY? Why though? I want to better understand. Well, this audio is BONUS footage, leftover from episode 18 and might offer some perspective. After listening to the bonus footage from episode 18, Sex & intimacy after chronic illness - with Chris Maxwell Rose, I've realized that sometimes asking why IS QUITE HARMFUL, because it brings me further away fro...

To be healthy and able-bodied is a blessing and the possibility of that changing MANY TIMES throughout the course of our lives is very realistic. Bodies change. Health events occur. To both us and to our loved ones, and thus, we experience different erotic seasons.  In this episode, I invite Chris Maxwell Rose to lead a discussion on the love and compassion we need to give ourselves when our healt...

This episode marks 1 year almost to the day since the end of my 8 year relationship. July 2nd would mark both our anniversary and also the day he moved out. 365 days have gone by since the breakup of the most significant relationship in my life. I knew I would do this episode and I'm really excited to share with you what I've learned about myself and how my view of the world has changed as a resul...

What does mean to make a space safer? What is a safe space? According to Shawna Potter, it's being aware of the presence and behavior you have in places where you work, gather, and play. In this episode, Shawna and I discuss street harassment and how to stop it as a victim and as a bystander, healthy flirting, what it means to a feminist, and how being "an independent woman" can hold you back from...

In Episode 6, we hear a woman's perspective on what it's like to experience a long-term triad, thrupples, and polyamory. Today, we get to hear from Mallory's partner, Jonah all about the man's perspective. We'll hear about his sexual upbringing, his take on power dynamics in a triad, and his experiences and thoughts on polyamory and thrupples. Listen to Episode #6: Bisexuality and thrupples: Explo...

When you enter parenthood for the first time, your duo relationship becomes a trio and everything is new. That's what our guest is going to be talking about today. In this episode, Dr. Natalie Rosen joins us from Hallifax to discuss how sex changes in partnerships with first time parents, taking a deep dive into her resource called; Post Baby Hanky Panky . She will also be telling us about her oth...

Do you have a close friend of the opposite sex, with whom you can speak intimately and informally? I do and boy, am I fortunate. This is a non-judgemental, playful, and open conversation between two people that have been really good friends for almost a decade. In this episode, I invite my dear friend, Tom, to the show. I'll be asking about his sexual experiences from adolescence, how his sex life...

This episode is for those who need help understanding transgender experiences. Maybe you are  intimidated by the LBGTQ jargon or feel like you can't keep up. Maybe you have kids that are experiencing gender dysphoria or gender fluidity. Maybe you are a person who feels like you've never REALLY FELT LIKE you've been yourself and are looking for answers. Wherever you're at, Episode 12, this episode,...

What the heck is prostate massage? Prostate milking? The male G-spot? In this episode, we're going to tell you all about it — how prostate massage can lead to powerful 'Super' orgasms. Our guest, Marlon is sharing his story about his sexual education upbringing, walks us through his curiosity with anal play, and in great detail shares with us his first-time experience of using a prostate massage....

Alice Little is the most successful licensed sex worker in the United States. She has been voted the #1 Companion of the Year at the world famous Moonlite Bunny Ranch legal brothel in Carson City, Nevada. She is also an intimacy and sexuality coach, an outspoken advocate for sex worker rights and vocal champion for an all-inclusive sex-positive society. In this episode, we get to know Alice person...

Are you having a baby soon? Your FIRST baby soon? Lots of women express "not knowing enough" or being "terrified of the pain" during their first childbirth — Vaginal tearing being at the top of that list. Perineal tears are tears that occur between the vaginal opening and your anus, and are very common, and heal quickly, however not many people get the full education and outlook on their options....

How do you initiate sex with your partner or partner(s)? Do you give them a look, do you send them a text, do you outright ask? Are you someone who always initiates sex? Never initiates sex?  In this episode, I'll be discussing research on initiating sex, why being rejected sexually is so devistating in a partnership, understanding why we initiate sex, communication styles around initiating sex, a...

This is Part 1 of a 2-Part series.  Part 1 is about (Episode 7) The messages we receive about sex when we're young and Part 2 is (Episode 8) Tips on initiating sex and dealing with rejection in relationships. Both of these episodes were born from a place of frustration with Ellen's own libido, sexual shame, self worth and vulnerability. They contain her experiences and tools used for growth in sex...

We all know that maintaining a relationship between 2 people is hard work, so what would it be like if there was a third? With the rise in polyamory and non-monogamy, we're seeing a shift away from traditional relationships and today we're talking about thrupples and bisexuality. In this episode, we sit down with a dear friend of mine, Mallory who has been in monogamous relationships her whole lif...

THE PENIS (AND ITS ERECTION) IS NOT THE CENTER OF THE SEXUAL UNIVERSE and we need to stop putting that kind of pressure on penises. In this episode we are discussing erectile dysfunction (also known as ED) with Sex Therapist, Joe Molinari — What is erectile dysfunction and why does it happen?  Joe has helped couples and inidivduals with all kinds of emoitional complications that can arise during s...

"The-birds-and-the-bees" — We all know the term, but not all of us got an opportunity to have that conversation. Maybe we talked to a friend. A cousin. A sibling. Some may have even had the stereotypical talk — the one where you sit and wince through an awkward lecture WITH your parent(s). Whatever the case, we seem to never revisit it, if there even was a conversation to revisit. Today, Ellen sit...

Show Description: While this is a podcast about sex-ed for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with their partners and children, it's also the turn of the year — a very relfective time for lots of people —  and in order to go forward, you gotta look back. This episode contains a look ahead at What I Want in 2020, separated into four categories: HEALTH SPIRIT CAREER RE...

In childhood sexual development, adults often want to know which behaviors are appropriate and indicate "healthy" childhood sexual development.  To answer that, we need to first understand that sexuality is much more than sex – it's our values, attitudes, feelings, interactions and behaviors. Sexuality is emotional, social, cultural, and physical.  Episode #2 of To Hump A Pillow features Eli Scriv...

The debut of To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon! During this first episode, Ellen sits down with Minneapolis-based muralist and hand-letterer extraordinaire, Jon King. They discuss his upbringing as part of a large family living in rural Wisconsin, how sex-education was addressed while being home schooled, and coming out as queer in his 20s and a brief discussion on being in the gender binary. Fina...

An introduction, episode #0. For parents who need help building language in how they talk about sex to their partners and children, 'To Hump A Pillow' offers communications and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the co...