To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

In this episode, Coach Ellen Melon does a deep dive on all-things boundaries — Her own experience with boundaries, the lineage of women before her and their lack of boundary-setting, finishing with a somatic boundary-mapping meditation that will help you better identify when a boundary has been crossed. If you are a codependent, people-pleaser, or someone with an anxious attachment style, this epi...

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Here's the thing about having kids — it changes everything. Your physical body, your mind, your hormones, your sex life, your sleeping life, what you eat, when you eat, and beyond. Many people don't talk about all the sucky parts of child-rearing because of fear that they are "doing it wrong" or will be deemed "bad parents" but what NOT TALKING ABOUT IT actually creates is mothers' beliefs that "t...

What happens to us in relationships when there is substance abuse? When we numb and cope with alcohol or drugs? How do we behave in intimate spaces with people we love? How is our sexuality impacted?  In this episode, David Marion is going to give us some male insight into his own sex life and way of "relationshipping" over the course of his substance abuse journey and recovery journey. David and...

Motherhood is hard. I don't even have kids and I know that. I have this amazing opportunity to speak with Kiri Honey, Life Coach for Moms whose mission is to inspire women to empower themselves to take the lead in their lives and relationships. To support them to take action that feels aligned and authentic to their wants and needs and on a practical level, help them focus on the key steps needed...

In Part 2 of 2, we talk about the modern day Melanie is dealing with from her journey — real time hardships and repair in her relationship with her husband, being a mom during her coming off of pharmaceutical drugs and her psychosis, and observations around how her family treats and observes her, as well as the changes she is making as a mom. Her story is bold, raw, messy and gorgeous. If you are...

There's a whole movement we're experiencing when it comes to religious shame and trauma. People are waking up, sick of being oppressed. The controlling nature of purity culture in religious communities has hurt women the most. In this episode Part 1 of 2, we hear a detailed story from Faith Deconstruction Coach, Melanie Cain about her religious upbringing. Trigger warning: This episode excplicitly...

Welcome back to Season 3! We are kicking off our first episode of the season with some real talk — like I know any other kind? ;) I'm going to share some findings around my experience with grief, loss, and being alone, aiming at giving you greater awareness into your own process, patterns, behaviors, fears — the uncomfortable stuff. This is the type of stuff we don't really want to look at because...

It's not safe for men to show emotions in this lifetime. We're working on it but it's still not safe. Safety is necessary for ANYONE at ANYTIME to be vulnerable. I've hosted men's groups and interviewed many men — the theme is always the same — "Quit crying or I'll give you something to cry about, don't be a pussy, man up, toughen up." Male conditioning in our culture is homophobic, dissmissive, a...

In this episode, I speak with Darien Washington, co-host of podcast Food for Worms about a lot of different stuff. We touch on his sexual upbringing – early sexual encounters, period sex, and porn usage. We talk about his work in in the music industry, managing a label during a pandemic. We also talk about childhood memories - being out past dark and getting in trouble. He shares with us his perso...

"How do I know if I'm a people-pleaser?" It's also known as the need to prove your worth. In this episode 2 people-pleasers join forces to talk about the ways in which people pleasing has showed up for throughout our lives. As Brene Brown says, "If our self worth is not high, we are quick to change we are." Aparna Sagaram, is an LMFT providing Mental Health Services since 2014, helping couples and...

You know the sensation you get when people discount your feelings? Like when you're noticing a feeling and someone says, "Just think about something good or happy." That's toxic positivity. Being positive has become a new normal for moral correctness and it's actually causing us harm. Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a posit...

How the heck do you make time for sensuality and intimacy in your long-term relationship? In this episode, we are going to get some amazing perspectives from an expert couple... Erwan and Alicia Davon, the best Extended Orgasm teachers in the world and arguably the most comprehensive relationship teachers in the world, have been together for almost 20 years. We're going to hear from them about the...

In this episode, we talk to Author, Provocateur, Agorist, and Freethinker, Khaliq Sim, about his sexual upbringing as a very religious virgin who loved to mack on girls, having a father who was the image of infidelity and objectifying women, his porn addiction, and his love for erotic poetry and spoken word. Khaliq Sim, (also known as Pablo Zambrano) grew up in NYC and just recently during the pan...

What is holistic kink? Conscious sex? Sexual fluidity? Energetics of sex? We're gonna find out. In this episode, adult performer and coach, Mr. Dex Parker gives us a lesson in what to means to be an authentic sexual being. We'll discuss his sexual upbringing, how he found himself in making adult content, and male conditioning — what society labels as "masculine" and the pressures that come with it...

How do you talk to your kids about sex? One conversation and done? Or start to lay bread crumbs from when they are young all the way to adolescence? Natajsa Visser has some great solutions and frameworks to help parents get some perspective on the topic. In this episode, we'll discuss how her parents talked to her about sex – growing up in a religious household – how to approach "the talk" targeti...

What influences someone to become a Female Dominatrix? What does it look like in the room with Female Dominatrix? How does this career influence your personal life? In this episode Goddess Aviva, NYC Lifestyle Female Dominatrix, will tell us all about her career in sex work for the past 6 years. We'll hear about her sexual upbringing (how was sex talked about in the home, at school, among peers),...

I've been dealing with Emotional Availability (well, the lack of it), for the first time in a relationship over the past 9 months, witnessing myself exhibiting behavior that makes me go, "I don't like who I'm becoming" and feeling an overall sense of disempowerment. This is a very personal podcast episode where I'll share some insights from my own intimate relationship and some patterns I've notic...

"When you own your breath, no one can steal your peace." I have to confess: I heard this a lot in my 20s and now that I'm in my 30s, I get it and see the value. As an Aquarius, an Air Sign, who has struggled with breathing her whole life, this episode educates you on the powerful tool we all have within us to calm ourselves down. Call it breathwork, call it meditation, call it mindfulness, call it...

Wild Raychel is going to tell us all about kink, feitsh, BDSM, and more. Rachel is on the path to becoming a sex & relationship coach specializing in kink & feitshes for people who are looking to get started in BDSM and don't know where to begin or are intimidated of the community. She has been experimenting in the kink scene since 2016 but has been tapped into her own sadomasochism and power exch...

In this episode, Rachel Overvoll shares her story of growing up in a religious cult and its oppression of female pleasure, her healing through BDSM, a real example of an erotic consent conversation, and shares her observations and experiences in non-monogamy vs monogamy. Rachel and I are peers in the Somatica Institute Relationship and Sex Coaching Program. She and I are cut from the same cloth in...

Sexual health is now considered as one of the four pillars of health: Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Sexual. In this episode, Dr. Susie Gronski and I discuss the 6 Sexual Health Principles: Consent, Non-Exploitation, Honesty, Shared Values, Protection, Pleasure. She is a physical therapist specializing in male pelvic floor dysfunction and pain for people with penises — Sexual health is very impor...

Leadership. Where is it? Who has it? Where has it gone? To be a leader you must be courageous — At least that's what our history books tell us. But what does courage mean? What does it look like? For me, I think it looks like leading with vulnerability and being able to hold myself accountable. In this episode, I discuss the art of holding people accountable, Brene Brown's Armoring Up Process, her...

SYM1 and I are totally cut from the same cloth, in that we both love talking about our sexuality and welcoming others to talk about their sexuality. This discussion is broken up into 2 parts.  In these 2 episodes, I have a conversation with SYM1, Minneapolis-based music artist who uses sexuality and erotica in her art. We're going to hear about SYM1s sexual upbringing, but we're also going to talk...