To Be Single or Not to Be

Why is surrender so difficult...even when we say we trust God? In this episode, we unpack the tension between control and faith. We explore the deeper issue beneath our need to manage outcomes, predict timelines, and force clarity - and why letting go can feel more threatening than staying in control. Where did that need for control come from? Is it fear? Past disappointment? A desire to protect o...

What happens when honoring yourself starts to feel like disappointing everyone else? In this episode, I explore the tension between authenticity and accommodation - especially for millennials who were often taught to keep the peace, stay quiet, and move on instead of talking things through. We unpack how silence became a coping mechanism, why self-sacrifice was mistaken for love, and how those hab...

What happens when the version of you that once worked… no longer fits? In the season premiere of To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast, Shaana opens Season 5 with an honest solo conversation about stepping out of performance and into alignment. This episode explores the difference between living a curated life and unconsciously performing one - and how reaching your 40's can bring clarity around e...

In this special and final episode of the Runnin' it Back Series, we take a deep dive into the state of relationships in 2024. It's a real, raw, and VERY necessary conversation that every woman seeking healthy and happy love needs to hear! Put those headphones on, get comfortable, and buckle up for a helluva meaningful ride that I promise you will be worth it! Shop the Shaanah Montanna Jour...

On this episode we take a deep dive into the role that family plays in your dating life when you think it does not! It's essential for you to ask yourself questions like, who raised that man, what kind of upbringing did he have, was he taught to respect and value women, does he hate his family? Too many times we sign up for a relationship with a man before knowing their background and sometime...

On this episode we take a deep dive into the conversations around market value so we can lay it to rest! Market value is more than skin and pockets deep. Yet, it still lies in the hands of the beholder. Your value begins and ends in you and within you. So, how marketable are you and are you sure you have the right "things" on the market? Let's talk about! FULL visual episode availabl...

On this episode we take a deep dive into the areas you need to make sure you fully tap into before you decide to commit to a new relationship! These are items that call for us to step out of the laziness that has led us to bad partner selection in the past and will force us to put in the work to determine if they are a good partner for us on the front end so we won't regret it on the back end...

On this episode we take a deep dive into what friendship really means and looks like in the digital age of premature dismissals. If they are really your friend and someone you say you care about, then watch this episode to continue moving forth in grace and accordingly! Platonic friendships deserve the same grace, time, attention, and energy that we give romantic partnerships. So, let's acknow...

On this episode we revisit my views on what it really means to be independent and is there a such thing as too independent in a society that say women want to be masculine anyway! It's much deeper than taking out the trash when a man is in close proximity. Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! If would like to support & buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee...

On this episode we revisit my views on cheating, how you define what cheating is to you personally, the hand social media plays in cheating present day, and how you navigate it if it happens to you (whether you should leave or stay). Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB...

On this episode we revisit my views on timelines in relationships and dating and why they are not as necessary as I once thought. It's more so about what you are doing with the time you are giving over how much time has gone by! Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB...

On this episode we revisit my views and the truth about GENERATIONAL CURSES! They are more than only building financial wealth. There are actually FEELINGS involved, too! Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB p...

On this episode we revisit my views the HARD truth about breakups, why they happen, what you can possibly do to prevent them, and how to navigate them if you run into their murky waters! Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaana...

On this episode we revisit my views on non-negotiables because it's time for us to discuss WHY do we even have them if we are not going to ever stick beside 'em? Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBS...

On this episode we revisit my views on the financial perspective of a relationship! Should women go half, should they never consider it, or is it still up for debate? Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONT...

On this episode we revisit my views on why women really want a husband! Is it for love, is it for money, or is it for reasons that have nothing to do with that at all! Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! If would like to buy me a coffee, please visit ⁠https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB⁠ To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit ⁠p...

This is the season finale of the To Be Single or Not To Be podcast and we are so excited to be here! This episode is exclusively on YouTube and is one you do not want to miss! We sit down with the Creator and Host of the podcast for a one night only special where she "TELLS ALL" about aspects of her relationship life! She dives into what love looks like, what makes her feel safe, what would be her...

On this episode, we take another dive into a conversation around labels and the necessity of them since it seems many people are unclear about this said thing! Whether a label is to make sure all parties know they are in a relationship or to clarify that you are not in one, they are needed across the board! This allows you to avoid confusion, heartache, and some pain when the tables don't turn how...

On this episode, we take a deep dive into the sometimes overlooked value of sisterhood! In this day and age of social media relationship goals, women being focused on getting the ring by any means necessary, and some people never having the experience of what genuine sisterhood looks like, it was mandatory that we had this conversation as a beautiful reminder of the power sisterhood holds! Join us...

On this episode, we take a deep dive into what non monogamous and polyamorous relationships truly look like, inside and out! Many people will say those who choose this lifestyle are just greedy or afraid of commitment and there may be some truth to that. However, after this episode gives you insight to what the lifestyles are really like, what life looks like in one of these partnerships, and how...

On this episode we take a deep dive into the feared and almighty meaning of the word, "ACCOUNTABILITY"! It is wild how one word has so much power; yet, so many people fear stepping into the action of what it really means consistently. On this episode, we have a seat at the table with Mr. Accountability himself to discuss why people struggle so much with this term, what it looks like to really hold...

On this episode, we take a dive into the sometimes harsh reality that relationship gridlock happens. However, it's all about what you do after that! Relationship gridlock is inevitable at some point in a relationship, but, that does not mean it has to last forever. Dive into this conversation as two therapists walk us through what relationship gridlock really looks and feels like, how you navigate...

On this episode, we take a deep dive into what breaking a toxic relationships looks like! In the world of Futures and Kevin Samuels #RIP, we have to determine where the largest problem lies, how this problem started, and why we cannot seem to move past it in this day and age! Toxicity relies on the people entangled within it to keep it going. So, on this episode, we help you understand the ACTION...

On this episode we take a deep dive into a necessary conversation around the facts of the matter when it comes to women and men healing and taking care of themselves in therapy and if we are doing it at the same rate! We are finally a generation of people who understands the importance and power of therapy. However, we must get all hands on deck in making sure our MEN are showing up the same as wo...

On this episode, we take a deep dive into the GREAT importance of getting into therapy while you are dating! For many years, the only time we would hear about therapy would be shortly before marriage and it was in the form of pre-marital counseling only! However, we now know that therapy should be an integral part of the development and growth of your relationship as soon as you are both committed...