To Be Her Now

What happens when life doesn't give you the option to say no? In the final episode of the three-part capacity series, Cara gets personal — sharing the season of change, grief, and relentless busyness that led to a complete physical shutdown in January 2021, and what it taught her about what it actually costs to keep overriding your body's signals. She talks about the non-negotiable yeses — caregiv...

Do you feel guilty every time you say no? You're not alone — and it's not an accident. In this episode, Cara explores why so many women struggle to set limits, where the people pleasing starts, and what it's actually costing you to keep saying yes when you mean no. She breaks down what guilt is really doing when it shows up around boundaries, why your worth is not located in other people's approva...

If you're constantly overwhelmed, overcommitted, and running on empty — this episode is for you. In part one of a three-part series, Cara explores why so many women are carrying more than their nervous systems were designed to hold, how to recognize the signs that you've exceeded your capacity, and what it actually looks like to honor your limits without guilt. Plus: why respecting someone else's...

In this episode, Cara explores what happens when we stop treating consistency as a performance standard and start treating it as a spiritual practice. Drawing from her own experience as a self-described queen of stopping and restarting, she offers a reframe that changes everything — every consistent choice is an act of devotion to the person God is calling you to be. At the heart of the episode is...

In this episode, Cara opens up about one of the most misunderstood and undertalked transitions in a woman's life — perimenopause. Drawing on her own experience navigating changing hormones, a body that stopped responding to what used to work, and the emotional rollercoaster of feeling alive with possibility while simultaneously feeling like a stranger in her own skin, Cara offers a reframe that ch...

We've all been there. One decision that sends us sideways, and suddenly a day becomes a week and a week starts to feel like evidence that we were never really going to change anyway. This episode is for that moment. The one where you're six days in and wondering how you got there. Cara gets honest about a week that started with a beautiful date night — and what unraveled after. She talks about the...

Have you ever felt a pull you couldn't explain — a quiet knowing that turned out to be exactly right? In this episode, Cara shares the season of her life that changed everything: a license plate bearing her name, a stag walking out of the dark, and saying "DIBS" to the woman who would become her wife. This is a living, breathing demonstration of what becomes possible when you stop overriding your...

After nearly two years of silence, To Be Her Now is back — and this episode is the honest story of why I stepped away, what I went through, and what I learned from actually living the principles I'd been teaching. I'm talking about the Europe trip that woke me up, the doctor who finally saw me, healing Hashimoto's from the inside out, going back to school, and what it finally took for consistency...

Eight ideas to combat the Sunday Scaries so you can focus on enjoying your weekend!

How can we be more intentional about how we start and end our day?

A few bits and pieces of joy in my life, currently.

Brainstorm of things to do that don't require electronics ... hopefully this helps expand your own list!

How do you take your biggest dreams, and make them possible? Let's talk about it ...

Let's explore what it feels like to be in your authenticity and how that feeds your purpose. Please note that the definition of authentic sited in this episode came from merriam-webster.com .

We're talking about giving what you long to receive, and standing in your authentic power.

A few big and small ways to gain new perspectives.

Experience a guided visualization to gain clarity on who you see yourself becoming.

So often, we spend more time planning our vacations than we do planning our lives. Today we introduce the concept of what it means To Be Her Now. Then, we'll explore a framework for owning where your life is now, and choosing who we want to become.