Time To Talk TFMR

Alannah Ross, from We Seek Care, joins me in today's episode talking about returning to work after having a TFMR. Alannah had an abortion nine years ago and found she struggled both physically, mentally and emotionally afterwards. Feeling unsupported in her own recovery, she set about setting up We Seek Care , a platform focussed on aftercare. Originally, Alannah thought Seek would support in...

Welcome to today's episode: TFMR for a T21 (Down Syndrome) diagnosis with Emma Parsons.  Emma had her TFMR in 2009. After having her 20 week anatomy scan,  she was informed there was a high chance her son, Isaac, had T21. This was later confirmed by further genetic testing. Emma talks to us about her decision making process, how she felt quite lonely, the effect on her mental health and how h...

Welcome to today's episode: TFMR Fathers. I'm so grateful that four dads were willing to come and speak with us. I also had an awesome guest co-host this episode, consultant neonatologist Nick Embleton. Our four dads are: Alex, Ethan, Sam and John All are base here in the UK and all went through termination due to foetal anomaly. They were all amazingly open and honest about their experi...

Hello, and welcome to today's episode. I’m joined by Julianne Boutaleb of Parenthood in Mind. Julianne is a Chartered perinatal psychologist, with over 20 years in the NHS and private practise. We’re discussing trying to conceive after TFMR – but also stopping TTC after TFMR. This is a really good follow on episode from our Sex and Intimacy after TFMR that was released a few weeks ago. Julian...

Hello and welcome! In today's episode I'm speaking with Suzie Heaney. Suzie is a midwife and holds a Phd from Queen's University Belfast. She carried out research (called The Bluebell Study) looking into the healthcare needs of women and families going through TFMR (specifically termination for fetal anomaly) in Northern Ireland and Ireland.  We know that the laws surrounding termin...

In today's episode, I'm speaking with Karen Burgess from Petal's Baby Loss Counselling Charity and Sally Kelly, a specialist midwife in bereavement care, about returning to sex and/or intimacy after a TFMR. It's such an important topic...and we just don't talk about it - me included! We talk about how to connect with each other again - because the trauma and grief explodes...

Hello, and welcome to the start of season 7! Today I'm speaking with Tracy Gilmore-Nimoy. Tracy is a psychotherapist based in California, USA. She had her own 3rd trimester TFMR three years ago. The difficult labour ended up seeing Tracy haemorrhage, the resulting physical trauma of interventions to save her life has meant she's been left with Asherman's Syndrome (scarring of the ut...

Hello and welcome to our last episode of 2022. I'm speaking with Suzie Jay Goldsmith, photographer, mentor, author and mum. Suzie had two TFMRs , and after her second one, she decided to write a book exploring how creativity can help us navigate our grieving process and ease trauma. The Rallying Cry is part autobiography, part research and part workbook. Christmas is a difficult time of year...

In today's episode I'm talking with two women, Rachel and Georgia, about their TFMRs for maternal health reasons. Rachel had a TFMR due to preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome and Georgia experienced an 'eccentric' pregnancy and Asherman's Syndrome which put her at serious risk of uterine abruption. This year, we featured TFMR for maternal health reasons during baby loss awaren...

Hello! In today's episode, we're talking with Dagmar Tapon, a genetic counsellor and Jane Fisher, Director of Antenatal Results and Choices, about genetic counselling. We talk about the technical stuff, like the difference between genes and chromosomes, the limits to testing, options for future pregnancies, the emotional and mental load that both testing and coping can bring...and much m...

Hello, and welcome to today's episode. Our guest is Mara Clarke. Mara is an abortion activist, mum and disabled woman. She founded Abortion Support Network which supports those who need to travel for an abortion from across Europe. We discuss Channel 4's documentary titled Disability and Abortion: The Hardest Choice, aired at the end of the summer. Does ending a pregnancy due to detected...

Hello! And welcome to Season 6! Today's episode is all about how our friends can support us through TFMR and beyond. We're really grateful to Jess and Atiya for coming on and discussing their experience so openly.  This is a really moving episode about how friendship can be such a powerful support for those facing this terrible loss. Get in touch and let us know what you think. Social me...

Today we're speaking with Lucy Livesey again, all about well-being, including mindfulness meditation, for those going through baby loss. Lucy is a mental health nurse, hypnobirthing instructor, mindfulness teacher. She and her husband Rick lost their daughter, Ellie, in a TFMR a few years ago. After her experience, she went on to develop the Ellie's Gift App as a resource for others to h...

In today's episode we hear from Janelle Ramsey. Janelle is a befriender for SANDS Leeds and runs a support group for parents who, for them, their baby who died is there last child.  This could either be because a decision has been made to stop trying for children (or more living children), or the decision has been made for them due to medical negligence, for example.  Janelle is a TFMR parent...

Welcome, hello and thank you for listening. We've brought this episode together very quickly and I'm grateful to all of our guests for jumping on to this with me at short notice. My guests are: Jane Armstrong @TFMRsocialworker (Instagram) based in Texas Melanie Zamenhof @mzamenhof (Instagram) based in New York Claire Cullen @TFMR_Ireland based in Ireland We are talking about our stories,...

Hello! And welcome to today's episode. I'm speaking with Buff about her TFMR last year. We open the episode with Buff reading one of her poems that she wrote after Forest died. Creative writing, journal writing, spoken word and poetry are all ways that Buff has used to support herself through this. Our last episode, we spoke to Rasmus, Buff's husband. Here, we hear Buff's persp...

Hello, and welcome to today's episode! I'm speaking with Rasmus about his experience of TFMR as a dad. Father's are often neglected in the TFMR conversations, and the wider baby loss topics, so I am so grateful to Rasmus for coming to chat with me. Rasmus speaks with so much eloquence and emotion about his son, Forest. He is honest and raw, and I am sure many of you, like me, will a...

Well this is exciting! Welcome to our first ever podcast recording with a live audience! This even was brought to you in conjunction with Antenatal Results and Choices. And what a fantastic event it was! We loved meeting some of our listeners in real life and getting to know some of them a little better. Our panel of experts, Dr Brenda Kelly Consultant Obstetrician, Jane Fisher Director of ARC and...

Hello and welcome to our final episode of Season Four! That went fast! Don't worry though, we'll be back soon with Season Five before you know it and we have some great episodes planned for you. Today's episode is about how TFMR impacts someone's religious faith. Chelsey was raised with Catholicism taking a central focus in her life and most of her family are active members of...

In today's episode we hear from Ja'Nai Wilkes describe her journey with hyperemesis gravidarum. Often described as severe sickness, HG can be a debilitating illness. Ja'Nai has been effected by HG in all of her pregnancies. She managed to make it through her first two pregnancies and give birth to two healthy babies, but when she got pregnant for a 3rd time, she knew things were goi...

Today, we're chatting with both Jane Fisher from Antenatal Results and Choices and Professor Caroline Lafarge from the University of West London. Caroline is a Professor of Psychology with an interest in maternal health. After going through her own termination, Caroline decided to focus her masters and Phd in psychology in this area of research. She has undertaken many research projects to lo...

Hello! Welcome to today's episode. It is Pregnancy After Loss Awareness month and so we are pleased to bring you Susan's story. Susan tells us about her experiences of a third trimester TFMR and pregnancy after loss. These are two subjects we know many of you have been waiting to hear more about. Most TFMRs happen in the second trimester, usually after the anomaly scan at approximately 2...

This episode is supported by Antenatal Results and Choices. For more information on how they support women and couples click here or call them on 0207 713 7486. We've added a Patron account to the podcast. We'd be so grateful if you'd consider supporting the podcast with a monthly donation. Pledges start at only $1 per month. Head to our Podbean page and click on the 'Become a...

Welcome back! We're excited to announce that Antenatal Results & Choices is now a proud supporter of the Time To Talk TFMR podcast! ARC is the only UK, nationwide charity, offering non-directive, individualised information and support to parents who are making decisions around antenatal screening and diagnostic testing. They also provide specialized bereavement care for those who experien...

Here it is, season 3 finale! And it's a great episode.  Dr Julie Bindeman joins us from Maryland, USA. She is the co-founder of Integrative Therapy of Greater Washington and she specialises in reproductive and maternal mental health. Julie has had two TFMRs herself and she is especially interested in the phenomenon of Post Traumatic Growth. In order to talk about PTG, we had to talk about tra...