Till The Wheels Fall Off

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn’t taken action yet. The one who’s tired of lying to everyone, especially himself. Matt gets brutally honest about what it really takes to change...not just to get sober, but to become the kind of man you can respect. The kind of man you promised you'd be. He dives...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this powerful follow-up to our recent episode on family dynamics, we go deeper into what it’s like to grow up in a dysfunctional family system and what it takes to break free. We talk about emotionally immature parents, the painful dynamics of enmeshment, and the subtle but lasting damage of emotional neglect. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,”...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this deeply honest Mindset Monday episode, Matt speaks directly to the men who find themselves stuck in the messy middle of knowing they need to change but not knowing how. Whether it’s addiction, emotional immaturity, broken trust, or just being a shell of the man you hoped to be—saying “I don’t know” might be real, but it’s not where the journey ends. Matt...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We don’t talk enough about how hard the “normal” stuff can feel when you’re coming out of survival mode. In this episode, I’m diving into the power of micro-wins; why they matter, why we dismiss them, and how they help retrain your brain and rebuild your sense of safety. This one’s for anyone who feels stuck, unseen, or like they’re not doing enough. You are. L...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode dives into one of the hardest issues couples face in recovery: toxic family dynamics. Is your spouse enabled by their family, are they kept under control or in the family system because of wealth? This one's for you. We’re talking about the emotional chaos that comes when one partner sees the dysfunction and the other doesn’t. We cover enmeshm...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this audio newsletter (or maybe Mindset Mondays - still not sure here...working title), Matt tackles one of the most misunderstood and misused ideas in recovery: Step 9’s infamous “except when to do so would injure them or others” clause. Too often, this line becomes a get-out-of-accountability-free card used to avoid hard conversations, hide the truth, and...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this honest follow-up to Wheelie Rehab , Paige shares where she’s at in her nervous system reset—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. From slow mornings and ASMR background vibes to decluttering closets and skipping caffeine, she’s rebuilding structure to save herself from burnout. But this episode is about more than routines; it’s about recla...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Sobriety changes everything. Not just for the person getting sober, but for the relationship too. In this episode, Matt and Paige talk about what really happens when the chaos ends, the roles shift, and the people in the relationship start to realize they're not who they used to be. Some relationships were built on survival, not stability. And once sobriet...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This one’s for the guys who never ask, and for the partners who wish they would. I answered 12 of the most honest, uncomfortable, and important questions I get asked (usually in DMs) from men trying to figure out who the hell they are, how to change, and how to make things right. We’re talking shame, trust, accountability, marriage, relapse, what Paige actually...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This week’s Paige’s Perspective isn’t polished; it’s personal. I’m in the middle of a full-blown nervous system reset because burnout caught up with me, and pushing through stopped working. I talk about overwhelm, guilt, hustle culture, and why I’ve traded productivity for consistency, structure, naps, and sun. If you’ve ever felt like your system is shot and y...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we talk with a guest who opens up about the quiet, painful, and often invisible process of leaving a long-term relationship with someone struggling with addiction. This is not a story of one big moment. It’s about years of internal conflict, emotional detachment, financial planning, and facing the truth that love alone wasn't going to fix...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about something most healing journeys overlook— validation . You’ve probably heard things like “just trust yourself” or “you don’t need anyone else’s opinion.” But what if you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, blamed, and lied to by someone you loved? What if you spent years questioning your own reality? Here’s t...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This might be one of our most important conversations yet. In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off , Matt and Paige take a deeper look at how patriarchy still influences recovery, relationships, and the systems that claim to support healing. We break down how women are often expected to stay silent, show grace, and be endlessly patient, even in situations t...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Feeling like life keeps piling on? Like you’re stuck in survival mode? In this short and honest episode, Paige offers a gentle reset for your nervous system and your spirit. If you’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, or just done, this is your reminder: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. You’re in a season—and seasons change. No fixing. No fluff. Just truth,...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off , we're not giving advice from the other side of healing. We're talking to you from inside the mess. Lately, the stress has been loud. We're forgetful, irritable, snapping at people we love, crying for no reason, and second-guessing everything we've already worked so hard to overcome. We thought we...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Most men don’t stay quiet because they have nothing to say, they stay quiet because they’ve been trained to believe it’s safer that way. In this episode, Matt breaks down the some of the reasons he and other men struggle to open up: fear of being judged, minimized pain, past betrayals, and the belief that emotions make you weak. He shares how to start speaking...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! What happens when you find out the truth years later—when the person you trusted most finally admits they lied? This episode is about the invisible aftermath of long-term betrayal. Paige walks through how repeated lies, not just addiction, reshape your brain, destroy self-trust, and make you question your reality. She explores the delayed grief that hits when y...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! If you’ve heard this from a partner or found yourself asking it, this episode breaks down exactly why rebuilding trust isn’t a single moment. It’s a layered process that takes time, consistency, and real change. In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off , Matt and Paige walk you through the four essential layers of trust that had to be rebuilt after addiction...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Trust gets asked about all the time. “How do I trust them again?”   But that question is usually hiding something deeper, like “How do I stop feeling anxious?” or “How do I get back to normal?” In this audio newsletter, Matt talks about why that question might be the wrong place to start. This episode touches on the neuroscience and evolutionary basis of trust...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective , Paige gets real about something many of us are doing in the name of healing: self-monitoring everything —our sleep, food, steps, moods, routines. What starts as a tool for awareness can quickly turn into another form of anxiety and self-doubt, especially for those recovering from relational trauma. Paige shares her perso...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Why don’t they just leave? In this raw and powerful episode, Matt and Paige break down the complex psychological tactics that manipulators use to keep their partners stuck—DARVO, gaslighting, love bombing, guilt-tripping, isolation, and more. Inspired by recent high-profile stories, they connect the dots between emot...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Self-care isn’t always candles and calm. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective , Paige breaks down what real self-care actually looks like—and calls out the way many people use self-care as a cover for avoidance. From the difference between self-care and self-indulgence to the six key categories (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, environmental, and socia...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addic...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! You’ve rewritten the message in your notes app a dozen times. You’ve softened your tone, used “I” statements, stayed calm, and begged them to meet you halfway—but nothing changes. In this episode, Paige breaks down the hard truth: most of you don’t have a communication problem. You have a respect problem. A values problem. A partner who’s not ready—or willing—t...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off , Matt and Paige take on one of the most controversial topics in the recovery world - the disease model of addiction. Is it a disease? Yes. But is it an excuse? Absolutely not. They break down the origins of the disease model, where it helps, where it massively fails, and how it’s been weaponized to avoid accountabili...