This Isn't That

Love to hear from you! Text me! After a month away, I'm finally back and ready to tell the truth. I ignored every red flag, convinced myself things could be different, and learned a hard lesson about heartbreak, accountability, and trusting my intuition. This episode is raw, honest, funny, and a reminder that sometimes choosing yourself is the hardest but most important decision you'll e...

Love to hear from you! Text me! There comes a moment… quiet, unexpected… where everything clicks. Not because someone finally chose you.  Not because you got closure.  But because you looked at yourself and realized: “Wait… I’m the prize. Why am I out here auditioning?” In this episode of This Isn’t That , I’m getting real (and a little funny) about the shift that changed how I move, love, and sho...

Love to hear from you! Text me! This one right here? Whew… it’s a STORY. In this episode of This Isn’t That , I’m taking y’all through one of the most unexpected, uncomfortable, and lowkey transformative seasons of my life. From a breakup that was a long time coming… to packing my entire life into my car with no real plan… to spending three weeks in a hotel trying to keep it together (and keep my...

Love to hear from you! Text me! I took myself on a date… and baby, I did NOT come to play. No plus one.  No distractions.  Just me, my thoughts, a perfectly cooked steak, buttery lobster, and a drink that hit a little too smooth. But this wasn’t just dinner… this was a whole moment. Somewhere between the first sip and the last bite, I realized something real:  I’ve been waiting on other people to...

Love to hear from you! Text me! Ever looked up in a relationship and thought... "Wait... when did I stop being me?" In today's episode of This Isn't That, I'm getting real (and a little too honest) about the time I slowly started changing myself to fit what I thought a man wanted. From switching up my personality, to dressing different, to literally second-guessing everyth...

Love to hear from you! Text me! I’m not even gonna lie… this episode almost didn’t happen. Because I was this close to crashing out. You know that feeling? When your emotions are loud, your thoughts are louder, and all you want to do is text them one last time just to feel something back? Yeah… that. In this episode, I’m letting it all out—the confusion, the anger, the hurt, and the part nobody re...

Love to hear from you! Text me! This episode starts with an apology. Not the dramatic kind. The honest kind. In this episode of This Isn’t That , I’m breaking the silence and telling the truth about where I’ve been, why I went quiet, and what it means to take responsibility without self-shaming. From resetting expectations to showing up imperfectly, this is a real-time reset, not a polished comeba...

Love to hear from you! Text me! The calendar flipped, but you don’t need to. We’re pushing back on the “new year, new me” pressure and choosing a gentler, more honest shift: same life, new boundaries. Instead of chasing a total reboot, we’re focusing on small, repeatable choices that protect energy, reduce guilt, and make room for the kind of growth that actually lasts. We unpack why January hype...

Love to hear from you! Text me! In this raw and ridiculously real episode, Alyssa B. takes us behind the bathroom door-arms sore mid-retwist, Apple Music on shuffle, and a full-on breakdown brewing in the mirror. From the tangled mess of healing while in a relationship to flashbacks of Rashad-level nonsense, she packs what it means to date when your heart's still under renovation. With humor,...

Love to hear from you! Text me! Whew. Where do I even start? Your girl has been MIA, but not without reason. In this reintroduction episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on life lately—because babyyyyy, the ghetto has been active. From burnout to breakthroughs, from “I quit” moments to “I’m built for this” realizations, we’re unpacking it all . This isn’t a comeback—it’s a realignment. Press play...