This is Becoming - with Marisa and Ruth

What if the hardest part of our relationships is not what actually happens, but the story we tell ourselves about it? In this season finale of This Is Becoming, we unpack the internal narratives we so quickly write when we feel hurt, overlooked, or misunderstood. From unanswered texts to awkward conversations, our minds are constantly filling in the gaps, often with stories rooted in insecurity ra...

In this episode, Ruth and Marisa unpack the fear of man and the sneaky ways it shows up in everyday life. It rarely looks like “fear” at first. It often disguises itself as being considerate, avoiding awkwardness, staying quiet to keep the peace, or calling silence “honor.” But underneath, it can be a craving for approval and a reluctance to be uncomfortable. Together, they talk honestly about how...

What if the story you are telling yourself is not true? In this solo episode, Marisa invites you into an honest and deeply personal conversation about the thoughts we carry, the narratives we rehearse, and the quiet inner dialogue that shapes how we see ourselves and how we show up in the world. Through her own story, Marisa shares how painful words spoken in formative years can turn into deeply r...

In this episode, Ruth and I sit down with my friend Ashley, who is visiting from Canada, and we talk about the kind of friendship that actually forms you. Ashley shares her redemption story, the power of a praying mom, and how God can rebuild a life that felt completely off the rails. We also get honest about the fear of being left, the healing that happens in safe friendships, and what it looks l...

Not everything you think about yourself is the truth. The good news is - you're not alone in believing lies about yourself. The BETTER news is - there's a way out! In today's conversation, Ruth and Marisa share the lies they've identified that they believe about themselves AND what they are doing to break the cycle of belief. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL...

What happens when your dream life becomes a nightmare? And how does one gain the perspective that even in the hardest seasons, she is becoming someone she are proud of? Today, Rachel Elo shares her story and how through every season she has been evolving and transforming into a woman worth celebrating. If you are in a challenging season of life, this conversation will inspire you and infuse you wi...

If you have ever wrestled with why you are here or wondered whether you are actually walking in the will of God, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Marisa and Ruth break down a big, often intimidating topic in a way that feels simple, steady, and full of hope. They talk through practical ways to recognize God’s call on your life and share real stories from their own journeys, inc...

Ruth and Marisa are back with part two of their Get To Know Us series, finishing their 20 questions and going even deeper on real life behind the mic. From weight training vs Pilates, perimenopause sleep and morning routines, to parenting littles and adult kids, long-haul marriage, hearing God, and leaving comfort to pastor a church in Albuquerque NM, this episode is honest, funny, and faith fille...

From the one random thing both women always carry to how Ruth and Marisa ended up in Albuquerque NM, this episode is all about getting to know your hosts. In part one of a two part series, they ask each other twenty questions and share honest answers about life, marriage, parenting, personal style, faith, and the moments that shaped them. If you love conversations about growth, identity, relations...

If you have ever felt the tension between who you used to be and who you are becoming, this first episode will feel like home. Marisa and Ruth open up a real and honest conversation about identity, confidence, healing, and the lifelong process of growing into the woman God designed you to be. Together, they talk about the quiet inner work that often begins long before anything changes on the outsi...