Third Degree Mind

When the stress of life hits us hard, sometimes we have to hit that reset button and escape some of the realities of life, which can be challenging sometimes. Everyone has to escape their reality and stress but sometimes that's easier said than done. How do we escape our mundane or repetitive routine, and hit that "reset" button"? If we want to impact people and grow our influence, we have to take...

We Are Defined By Our Choices. Own the choices you made in your past, and OVERCOME the consequences, good or bad. Choices you make today will form who you become in the future. And you only get one life, one shot, one ultimate chance. Make the choices today that will create the person you want to be tomorrow. 5 years from now. 10 years from now. 50 years from now.

Last time we talked about Insecurities and how they will destroy you. Today's main topic follows that theme with another thing that will destroy you: REGRET. Love who you are today, and smile. Regardless of what kind of pain your past may be filled with, love yourself. Good, bad, or indifferent. All those collective experiences through the years are what make YOU. It’s what makes you unique. It’s...

All of us have insecurities, usually from our past experiences. If you've been cheated on before, you have a harder time trusting someone new, and might think they're cheating on you, even when they're not. That insecurity has the power to destroy, if you let it. We have to find a way to recognize it, and keep it in check, or you'll never be happy. In order to be happy, you have to be willing to s...

For Christmas this year, Santa brought me some intensely scary emotions, a few turbulent relationships, and of course, no solution. Listen to this brief 15 minute update on the basics of the mess I found myself in, and if you have any solutions, contact me on the Facebook page (Third Degree Mind), or email borderline750@gmail.com Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year!

Yup, you read that right, I'm skipping Christmas. Sometimes, situations that we're put in cause us to go into a sense of "emotion overload" that sometimes require some unwinding time, and a "soft reset." We're also discussing impulsive behaviors, and specifically WHY some people feel the need to make impulsive "on the fly" decisions. If you know someone like this, rather than judging their impulsi...

Way back in February, we had an episode titled "True Happiness" - it was the second episode put out by Third Degree Mind. Finally, 10 months later, here is a sequel in that series. How is true happiness achieved? You may be surprised to learn that SADNESS actually plays a very critical role to achieving true happiness.

Life filled with toxicity? Take out the trash. Emotions are contagious, you need to recognize that toxic people have a negative affect on YOUR happiness. Want to be happy? Remove those who aren't.

Sometimes our world experiences a mass tragedy. Be a friend. Don't give unsolicited advice, just listen. Be what THEY need. Everyone has demons. If you need someone, find someone. People will listen. Sometimes, just talking and venting can make us feel a thousand times better. If someone is venting to you, be that friend. Don't push them aside and tell them to "go talk to someone." They're talking...

Life is a collection of experiences, both good and bad, and those experiences shape who we are. There are no "mistakes" as you learn from each of those experiences. A mistake means you should not have done something: but everything we do, every decision we make, is part of who you are, and provides priceless life lessons. We're also going to start talking about some phobias, anxieties, and other t...

Trauma and stress affects everyone differently. How we handle it and grow from it affects the type of person we will become. This week's episode features an interview with Amy, who has a story of a trauma she experienced as a child, and how it continued to affect her as a young adult, and even today. What she experienced as a child taught her valuable life skills and gave her a unique perspective...

Are you in a bad situation? Having a rough day? A rough week? Maybe longer? Life throws all kinds of bad things at us, every day brings with it some new challenges. That's true for all of us. How you handle those situations, is up to you. You are in control of your own emotional responsess to difficulties. Some people own & overcome them, some people whine about them. Which type of person would yo...

Maintaining happiness and a balanced life is not unlike having your house professionally cleaned once in a while. Sometimes you need a little help. Sometimes you need to talk to someone. Whether it's a friend, family member, or an actual professional, it's OK to involve other people once in a while to help you with life's problems. But don't rely on these people, because they are really only short...

Distractions have the power to compromise our identity... but only if we let them. They compromise who we are, because we allow them to take over our mind. This week I talk about some distractions in my life, most notably social media. This is a big one for a lot of people. Rather than sit here and preach about removing social media and Facebook from your life entirely, I'd rather have you just fo...

Last week we talked about making sure you focus on yourself and your own identity. This midweek update builds on that concept and reminds you that one of the most important ways to focus on yourself is to remove or minimize distractions. Figure out where you are spending your time, what's demanding your attention, and then find ways to remove those distractions. Find time where you have no distrac...

Being single is tough. It's hard to be content with life when you're alone. We are relational beings, which means humans like relationships. We thrive on them. To be alone is contradictory to nature. And yet, so many people are dissatisfied with their current relationship status. Either they're alone and wish they had someone, or they do have someone, but they aren't fully satisfied with that rela...

We live in a highly digital world, one which sometimes controls our every move. We rely on our smart phones and social media, and sometimes we leave behind those who are important to us. We forget how to connect with real people, and we forget to show those people that we love them. And then, one day, they might be gone, and we're left feeling regret that we didn't spend enough time with them. Thi...

Have you experienced the loss of a loved one? Most of us have, at one point or another. This episode of Third Degree Mind addresses the topics of Grief & Loss, and living with that heartache. The loss of a loved one leaves us feeling helpless and alone, like a gaping hole in our chest, gripping your soul, threatening to consume you from the inside out. It's one of the most painful emotions we as h...

The episode released earlier today still has some audio issues... many of the same audio glitches that caused Third Degree Mind to go silent over the last 5 or so weeks. The partial good news is that the audio problems seem to resolve at about 20 minutes into the episode, so if you want to either deal with the audio in the beginning, or skip ahead to about 20 minutes, I believe the rest of the epi...

Are you second best in someone else's life? There are no consolation prizes. You need to live right now, in the present moment, without worrying about convincing someone else that you are worthy of their time and energy. Don't waste your life away. Don't be that one who wakes up one day, maybe 50 years from now, wishing you had done all these things in life, but didn't. Start your life NOW. Live i...

"If you run, I'll run faster. If you leave me, I'll leave first. I'll push you away, but don't ever leave me." Borderline Personality Disorder causes many odd behaviors and thoughts, one of them is this intense fear of abandonment. Beyond the simple fear of abandonment is a person who will take drastic measures to avoid feeling like they are being abandoned, even to the point of pushing away that...

Sonder: "The realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own." What a fascinating concept. The world does not stop when you have a bad day. And your bad day is just that, one day. The average person lives over 26,000 days... don't let one bad day ruin your life and potential. It's one day. It's YOUR day. And trust me, someone somewhere, is having a harder da...

"If you chase a unicorn, you might just catch a donkey with a plunger stuck on his face." Unicorns don't even exist! So why chase them?? And remember the other big quote this week... "Life's not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance in the rain." So please, go buy an umbrella, forget the lottery tickets, and let that unicorn go! 

It's Thursday, and it's time for another midweek update. Unfortunately this midweek update comes with bad news... at least for the listeners who are anxiously awaiting the next release (haha - the four of you). I'll be on vacation this upcoming weekend, so no release coming this weekend. The following week, we'll be continuing the conversation on family and upbrgining, and introducing another tang...

Everyone's personality is dependent on a number of things. Who you become in adulthood is greatly influenced by who you were as a child and teen. Your upbringing plays an important role on all of this. In order to "become who you were meant to be," you have to take an honest look at your past and examine what different things impacted who you became. Every personality trait comes from somewhere. I...