Things That Will Help

You are whole and perfect. In this episode, Buffy teases apart the idea of wholeness as a belief system and the ways wholeness does - or does not - create the foundation for our relationships. On the docket for these 30 minutes: Rilke, a date-less incubator, and a tale of two nightgowns. This is an episode for anyone who is, has ever been, will ever be in a relationship. It’s also for those who ha...

Buffy introduces the concept of “scurry” - like worrying, but more. It can be hard to slow down the scurry. In this episode, she talks about trusting people to take care of themselves to lessen your scurry. Expect tales of dueling dietary preferences and Papaw's extended stay. This episode is about boundaries, stillness, and discernment all in one. We think this will be orienting and clarifyi...

Today's episode is about feedback - but not in a professional setting. Today, Buffy talks about feedback from a personal place. She talks about the context, set-up, and the ways feedback is most effective. Today's stories are about rainbow carpet conversations, births, and approaching feedback with curiosity. The poem Buffy reads at the end is "The Proposal" by Mary Ann Broyles...

You will get feedback whether you ask for it or not. What happens when you get feedback - both solicited and unsolicited? Buffy talks about aaaaallllll of the ways we receive feedback, and gives some suggestions for how to receive it in a way that is healthy and tends to sensitivities. Next week in Part 2, giving feedback. Stay tuned! 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode h...

This episode starts with sushi and ends with woodworking. (Trust us.) Buffy tells stories of boot-quaking imposter syndrome, pink shorts, and going to great heights. The call is to step into your own you-ness, to get specific with things you need to conquer. You'll consider the hills you are currently climbing - are they for you, or are they a distraction? Tune in for for this weekly inquiry....

What is the tipping point when something turns from potion to poison? From helpful to harmful? In this episode, Buffy asks you to consider where in your life you are treading that line and how to reorient to what's in alignment for your life. This episode is about the line , ways we can find it, and how operating from this ethos can heighten your awareness of yourself and the world around you...

Disruption can bury or buoy us. Buffy talks about why it helps and the ways we can shape it so it becomes the fertile ground for transformation. She tells tales of profundity in the park and shares stories of disruption across the last year. Ask yourself: what have you done with the broken pieces of the pandemic? What has changed for you? This episode will have you considering the ways you are eme...

On the docket this week: apologies. Buffy tells stories about apologies: how we can hear them, how we can respond to them, and how they can close circles of healing. Buffy's advice is simple and practical and can easily be folded into your very rich, complex life. This episode is for you if you are in the swirl of it. Internally, externally, with yourself, or with people. 🌱 Listen to the epi...

Families require duct tape, glue, and creativity. And while it's not the entire episode, today, that's where we're going to start. This episode helps us remember that the people who make up our family structures are who they are, ultimately, no matter how we feel about it. Buffy tells stories about the side of the interstate, pear trees, the dentist, and more. 🌱 Find the accompanyi...

Let's get elemental. This is a podcast about air, fire, water, earth, and space: the five elements. Buffy tells stories of calla lilies and a night around a fire to illuminate the ways in which seeing the world through the lens of the elements can give us more access to harmony and self-awareness. Visit Guripriya Beth Sanchez and Farnosh Family's websites. 🌱 Find the accompanying playli...

Honey is the sweet nectar. Bones are the sacred boundaries. This episode is about how integrating them will help. Buffy spins stories of a moving day, national treasure Dolly Parton, and how our willingness to see each other as human helps us steadily hold both the honey and the bones. 🌱 Listen to Dolly Parton's America (and stat!) here . 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Find the accom...

The Lucky - aka, electrifying, spark-filled, pure magic  - exists. And we don't have to be on our best behavior for it to come to us. It's not about talent, it's not about doing well, it's not about being good - it's an undercurrent that exists no matter what. To help this story land in your body and your experience, Buffy tells stories of artists residencies, cartoon anim...

Not over there. Not somewhere else. Not then. Here. This episode asks you to focus entirely on the here. Can you name what you are sensing, even when the waves are crashing down with relentless rhythm? This podcast episode is a reminder that you are in the middle of navigating something Here.  What does it mean to have a "Sharp Pencil" day? What could you set down in order to arrive in j...

This episode is about decluttering your space and your life, and it's about so much more. Clarity is what you get when you declutter; it's what you're left with more of. And the space that's left, this is what helps. Buffy tells stories of the Depressing Rug, "We Might Use It One Day," and midnight missions to Goodwill to illuminate the beauty of reducing your life by...

"We calm down when we are witnessed. And then we can allow ourselves to be carried." Don't turn away from this week's episode about grief. Grief will help. If you're a longtime listener of this podcast, you know that grief is not a novel topic. In this episode, Buffy digs deeper into the devastating magic of grief; and how we can shape it into art, link it to a collective...

Five years ago, Buffy's mother - Vivian, also known as "Vivi" - moved from Alabama to Colorado, five minutes away from Buffy and her family. Vivi lives her wisdom, and this episode is entirely dedicated to the non-dogmatic, loving lessons she has delivered to Buffy over the years. This archive of wisdom is what mama Vivi swears by. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week&apos...

Take a moment to reflect on the pockets of your life where you're taking up space, nurturing your creativity, or calling in fertility. Can you feel the audacity of it? How much boldness it takes to create something that doesn't yet exist? This whole episode revolves around this idea - creating, even if it doesn't have a category or definition (yet.) Buffy tells tales of pink-loving...

Imagine this: you have a transcript of your internal dialogue, from the moment you wake up to the moment you lay your head on your pillow. What would the transcript say? What's the tone and the flavor? Would you share it with other people? Buffy shares the translation of the Sanskrit word mantrika as "little mothers," and in this episode, she talks about all of the ways our inner ta...

A few weeks ago, Alex asked Buffy to do an Ask Me Anything - and she indulged! and in this special episode, Buffy answers listener questions like, "How do I set and hold boundaries? What is the importance of women leading women?" And other listener-submitted questions.  We hope you enjoy this special episode, and can't say it enough: we love hearing from you. Your feedback, your que...

"What sticks to me is mine, and what doesn't stick to me was never mine to begin with." This episode is entirely devoted to the practice of letting things go without taking it personally. Clamping down on people, things, and ideas? It probably doesn't work the way you want it to. Buffy tells stories of failed party friends, people and homes changing forms, and what happens when...

This week's teaching of "generation" comes at the request of a student looking for ways to access more motivation in their lives. How can we break routines or create new, helpful habits? Buffy says: don't wait. Just begin. She emphasizes the amazing benefits of a daily, timed container (and if you've ever taken her class before, you know she means it). In this episode, you...

This episode dances around the themes of concealment and revelation; forgetting and remembering. Buffy talks about the concept of "Wintering" (by Katherine May), and why a good winter leads to a robust and vital summer. Contrast can help us remember who we are. Life has a rhythm - it doesn't stay dark and it doesn't stay light. There is usually a mixture, and when we can lean i...

Beauty marks make the world more real, beautiful, and alive. From a brisk cold winter day, to the perfect pen and paper, to strange four-year-old fascinations, this episode e will have you delighting in the small beautiful things in life. Don't forget - after listening, make your own list of beauty marks so you can open your eyes a little wider to what makes your ordinary world extraordinary....

What's your why? "Where you choose to put your focus is where your mind lives. You are the gatekeeper of your own happiness. Unlock your yes." -Tunde Oyeneyin Have you ever considered yourself the CEO of your own life? Peloton instructor and all-around badass Tunde Oyeneyin is the inspiration for this episode, and Buffy riffs on her framework of building a personal mission statement...

"If we don't get lost, then we can't really be found - we can't remember what it feels like to come back home if we never learn to really wander." When was the last time you were lost? Buffy moves us through stories of getting lost, distinguishing its different varieties in a way both poetic and practical. A healthy kind of getting lost feels like a lost that creates stren...