Things That Will Help

You can tell when you - or someone else - have lost their center. When you're moving from a place of pain, anger, or the like, you might feel unreachable. This episode is about the experience and practice from moving from a calm, centered space deep within you, even when the world outside is crumbling. Buffy includes practical advice and stories on redeemed goddesses, concerning lumps, and Mo...

Listeners of this podcast know that we at TTWH love a ritual. But what happens when our routines block us from seeing things in a fresh and new way? When our discipline becomes stagnant? Buffy tells tales of boxing, a slow cup of coffee in Japan, and parking at the Gayfers. Buffy asks: what are you doing? What do you want to create, and what do you need more of? We hope these episodes bring you he...

Has anybody ever said something to you, while you were in a time of need, that profoundly did not help? This episode is simply a practical "how-to" guide of what not to say to a loved one when they are sharing a hurt or tender part of themselves with you. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Become a supporter of the...

Let's talk about impact. Buffy answers a listener question about an irritating habit that's followed them along a string of partners. In response, Buffy talks about impact: how it's different than intention, requires communication, and why we must teach people how to love us well. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTW...

This episode starts with a story about two coffee-drinking’ sisters and traverses the intellectual and emotional landscape in search of the meaning of “home.” How will home help? Listen in for tips on how to access your own inner sense of belonging. The poem Buffy reads at the end is called “Please Come Home” by Jane Hooper. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 L...

Ghost stories ask us to remember. Today's episode serves as the second part of the week before last’s Ghost Stories episode. Tune in for tales of a haunted house, what the haunting catalyzed, and how to listen to what's being communicated. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Become a supporter of the podcast on Patre...

Today's episode is dedicated to the five lives lost suddenly and tragically in a mass shooting in Denver last week. CW: gun violence & death. Many people listening to this podcast have been and are currently being impacted by immediate tragedies, both global and local. Buffy talks about some ways we can navigate a fraught time and the painful reminders of the fragility and life. Donate to...

Hear us out: ghost stories help us get out of our own way. The ghost stories Buffy tells in this episode will have you considering the times in your own life when spirit was close enough to touch, taste, and see. How do you interact with the supernatural world and other-than-human forms? We invite you to consider the complete magic of supernatural communications, experiences, and messages. 🌱 Find...

Today's episode is about the beauty that is found in the margins - the kind of beauty that doesn't set out to be beautiful, but is anyway. Tune in for stories of a post office stranger, golden retriever companions, and borrowed books. There is a lot that is being asked of us individually and collectively right now. Don't forget to glance at the edges of your life this week to soak u...

“Being a steward of something is when we choose to be bigger than our own little galaxy.” In this episode, Buffy talks about the different ingredients that make up a recipe of authentic, generous stewardship. She tells stories of a tinkering grandaddy, a heroic funeral director, and a garbage collector, all in service to the idea that stewardship is a beautiful mix of patience, presence, and a des...

Welcome to Season 6 of Things That Will Help. In the kick-off episode, Buffy talks about the crooked way: all of the ways our paths wind that perhaps isn't so straightforward. What do we miss when we spend our precious energy wishing our life path were different? She tells stories of a single-handed sailor, the Brady Bunch, and a book of mistakes, all in service to an invitation to co-create...

Today's topic is a tender and much-requested and one: forgiveness. When is it time to forgive someone? What is anger's incubation period? Who is forgiveness for? Buffy dives headfirst into this topic - and, you'll be unsurprised to know that most of the answers lies within you. She tells stories about family forgiveness, forgiving your own self, and the deep inner work it takes to a...

How do we balance discipline and rituals with spontaneity and play? How do we arrive to a life where there is true balance? What is it that anchors you, to you? In this episode, Buffy shares stories of three wise women, daily rituals, all in service to illuminating ways to best support you AND deepen your sense of play? This episode is for everyone - whether you’re chained to a rigid schedule OR h...

Today, we’re talking about joy - the deep, cellular kind. Buffy defines it, talks about ways to access it (spoiler alert: it does not require your external conditions to be a certain way), and describes the essential place it has in our lives. Learn more about Tarana Burke and the Me Too Movement . Watch Amber Hikes’ Ted Talk . 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist...

“The true piece of art lives without the artist explaining it." This episode is dedicated entirely to the potent space we leave after we set a boundary, talking point, or decision. Buffy talks about the ways over-explanation has the potential to dilute our alignment and resolve. What if instead, we trusted ourselves and our boundaries? What if we trusted other people to be in their own perfec...

Having watched Beyonce's "Lemonade" is not a prerequisite for listening to this episode. But, we're sure if you haven't seen it yet, you'll be running to watch it after you listen. This is an episode about intergenerational restoration and healing and the ways we can use our pain to heal the pain of our ancestors. Buffy tells stories of infidelity, a working granny, a...

Writing is alchemical. It changes us, and it changes what we write about - especially if it's a piece of our story. In this episode, Buffy tells stories of dancing, love letters, mixtapes, and hand-written t-shirts as a way to support the claim that writing changes who we are and how we operate in the world.   Your homework this week: write yourself into being. (Bonus: Let us know how it goes...

Deep self-belief is the bedrock of our success. And in today's episode, Buffy talks about the two parts that come together to create self-belief: the inner part and the outer part. She tells stories of storage bags, social media, and self-belief. Expect practical tips on how to take up space and cultivate confidence in presenting what you believe to the world. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlis...

The edges of the day are cooling off. Can you feel it? The slight drop in temp is the inspiration for this week's episode, where Buffy talks about the Fall season and why it is such a potent time to implement rituals to get focused and clean house. This week's stories include new school supplies (can you smell the fresh pencils?!), five-year lists, and treasure hunting. Buffy shares what...

Your life is composed of big and little. The whole and the sum of its parts. The splash of paint and the full composition. In this episode, Buffy explains why both are so essential. She tells stories of canceled plans, trust falls, and dreams. This episode will help you see areas in your life where it might behoove you to zoom out, and areas where you could consider picking up your own paintbrush...

Prana: you've probably heard about it in a yoga class. But, if you haven't, welcome to the well of your energy, vitality, and inner nectar. In this episode, Buffy teases apart the idea of prana, why it might matter in your day-to-day, prana leaks, and practical ways to build it in and for yourself. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 Leave a tip in Ven...

And, we should clarify: going for your gold will help. And your gold is not the world's gold. Buffy tells stories of a canceled engagement, Simone Biles' unexpected "Happiest Moment," and the ways ritualized practice shapes us, all in service to making moves towards our true, embodied championship. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 Leave a...

Buffy starts off Season 5 with something we hope is useful to you right now: hope. Buffy shares about her experiences with depression, which she describes as a cave. She talks about how why, in the darkness of the cave, things like green juice and gratitude practices can't always touch the heart of depression. She shares stories of her father, foot massages, and Robin Williams to illuminate t...

If you were a library, what kind of stories would you contain? This is the basis for today's episode, inspired by Jason Reynolds' talk "Libraries Within Us." This is an episode about creativity - how, when we lean into the mallelable nature of life, we have an opportunity to break down what we think is concrete. Who are you when you let the stories of your life fall away? Buffy...

William Faulkner's advice to writers? Kill your darlings. This week's stories include Zinnia's, young people versus the United States government, and a funeral eulogy. What becomes available when you cut out what's dead? When you make space, what shows up? This episode is about that and more. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here . 🌱 Leave a tip in...