They Talk Sex

Elle and Valentine are friends and partners in life and the adult industry! We take your questions about dating, self care, sex and work. Thank you for a great four years talking sex and season 5 will return in the spring. 1:00 Guest IG @ xValentine_vonbettieX 5:00 find her Casa Diablo now! 7:00 dating another SW has baseline perks 10:00 dating issues for SWs 14:00 the work can be “bad” for some p...

How does intimacy relate to sex and self worth? Our guest has years of family and marriage therapy under her belt, and she runs the sex education program your host attended. Let’s talk intimacy, sex tips and and ideas between Elle and her mentor, Dr. Roz Dischiavo. 2:00 marriage and family therapist, sexual health program director 5:00 cell phones are messing  7:00 broken heart syndrome? Tako...

What can hands do? Let’s talk with pleasure expert and coach Jennifer Rahner about kink and communication. Learn some basic tips and some safety practices, plus creative ideas for self pleasure and partner play. 1:00 Dr. Ruth started it 4:00 a mid-life career switch  7:00 teaches non-monogamy, BDSM, masturbation and more 10:00 CNS vs ENM discussion 13:00 will the United States block Tryst? 16...

Let’s talk with a European brothel manager: Catherine de Noire works the overnight shift in one of the biggest venues in her part of the world, and hear the pros and cons of a legal system and how the workers navigate it. 2:00 working the night shift 6:00 how the club operates for the workers 9:00 no middle-management 12:00 no violent incidents in years 15:00 crossing borders to work 18:00 radical...

What's it like being a dominatrix to the devout AND to the de-constructing Mormons? Mx Novatrix serves and teaches in the SLC area of Utah, which is arguably the most sex-negative region in the United States. Let’s talk to them! 2:00 episode begin 5:00 Utah/Idaho mormons more intense than outside states 10:00 mass exodus from Church in some ways 15:00 Joseph Smith was a known con man 18:00 yes the...

Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art. 2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s  4:00 - why is it that these men want to c...

Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people. 3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC 7:00 se...

What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft. 3:00 - this episode can save lives 8:00 - se...

Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant.  Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage. 2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents 5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to tr...

Jack Parker has been doing sex work since just before he was an adult, and he’s now a writer and publisher of an anthology of stories from other trans-masculine sex workers. Let’s talk about how queerphobia makes unique spaces and options for some working guys in the arts and adult industries. 3:00 sex work before 18, before public 7:00 making $4 an hour? WHAT 10:00 not enough options for advertis...

If you’ve ever watched mainstream tv or movies with sex scenes in them, you can appreciate the people who make them look more realistic, while helping the performers be safest. Let’s talk with our guest Jamie Monahan, who works as an Intimacy Coordinator and Director. 3:00 #MeToo history 6:00 actors are taught to Say Yes 8:00 sexual alignment on film  11:00 there is a lack of lube in film&nbs...

Elizabeth Foreman works sober in New Orleans strip clubs these days. Here she shares her experience with sex work and sobriety which has given her insight, tactics and coping mechanisms while she continues to share her healing journey with others. 4:00 disclaimer - experiential and not academic 6:00 dancing instead of full-service 9:00 confusing laws around sw and trafficking  13:00 NOLA vs P...

Erica Smith is a sex educator specializing in purity culture trauma and recovery. Let’s talk about dealing with shame and some tips for better sexual health and lives. 4:00 a controversial event in 2000 7:00 working in abortion clinic, juvenile justice system 10:00 youth in sex work or experiencing trafficking 14:00 how purity culture relates to juvenile justice 17:00 the Army of God loves fake an...

Have you ever been made to feel like an object instead of a person? Do you objectify others? What does objectification mean, how can we take our power back, make the best of it, or get off on it? Let’s talk with Suzannah Weiss, author of “Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject” 2:00 See her live August 18th at Sanctuary club in Portland 6:00 growing breasts made people treat her differently ...

How can intentional psilocybin use help people heal from big life events, or create a better understanding of theirselves? Let’s talk with “trauma queen” expert and educator Jimanekia Eborn. 4:00 policing to psychology  7:00 numbing vs pushing through  15:00 what has changed for you? 17:00 tripping tips  20:00 how did shrooms impact you? 23:00 AD - FeministTrash.com discount code ST...

What’s it like to go to a clinic to receive an abortion? Our guest has been escorting patients for years and talks about the science of medical abortion, care tips and how to advocate for yourself when you need one. Meet the Executive Director of Nebraska Healthcare Resource, Shelley Mann. 3:00 patient to clinic escort to executive director  6:00 why people need abortions 8:00 known as the ab...

Naomi left the strict Amish at seventeen, and worked for twenty years in adult entertainment, and wrote an erotic memoir about that time. We talk about dating, parenting, boundaries and sex clubs. 1:00 raised as strict Amish, left at 17 4:00 literally pushed to audition by friends 10:00 financial advice from a coworker  14:00 the regret was having to hide it 18:00 online use 21:00 being OUT t...

Miss Mei is a political organizer in Miami Florida and talks sex work, explains what can help prevent trafficking and police abuse, and gives tips on how to look for bad-actor organizations. 3:00 - a friend got her work doing threesomes to begin SW 6:00 - they prefer in-person work 9:00 Slutwalk helped lead to #MeToo 12:00 reclaiming the word Whore 15:00 Amber Rose did not invent Slutwalk 19:00 wo...

Mike Stabile is a journalist and documentary filmmaker and ol’ gay activist who has written about and advocated for sex workers and sexual speech for twenty years. 2:00 - I was an anonymous hand once 6:00 - why Twitter is relevant to free speech and liberties 8:00 - Polari - slang speak of gay sailors and sw’s 10:00 gay porn film history and Chuck Holmes 15:00 - what is KOSA and why should we hate...

Born in India, neurodivergent, non monogamous, a New York sex therapist who loves sex-positive spaces, let’s talk healing with Nikita Fernandes MHC-LP and learn some healing tips for life and sex. 1:00 meet our guest 3:00 women’s gender studies classes were key to critical thinking  6:00 assimilation as a safety mechanism 9:00 tips for therapeutic movement  12:00 dance, hiking, kink, gym...

He’s telling his life story besides the two random events that led to him working in the xxx industry as a Bull in the cuckold scene. “Thrash: “Penetrating the Business” author talks about filming and life. 4:00 Brickhouse Magazine 6:00 the pros of accessible technology 9:00 @brickhousemag on Twitter 13:00 there’s levels to it 18:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off lube/condoms at MayerLabs.com 20:00 what i...

Pomma is a xxx content creator who tirelessly informs followers on news, legislation, harm reduction practices, and hazards related to online sex work and adult industry work. Let's talk! 4:00 what kind of work? 7:00 money is tight for many  10:00 socialized to be performative as youth 13:00 banned from social media ooops 16:00 FOSTA SESTA 19:00 facial recognition and TSA 22:00 will this get...

His nickname is The Dick Whisperer and he’s spent years perfecting his penis-injections services and science: Meet the founder of PhalloFill . Let’s talk about why some men want to augment theirselves and why you should always follow post-procedure advice! 3:00 - hair removal and penis augmentation 4:00 - the P shot began 7:00 porn, peer comparison, indirect teasing 11:00 how to talk to youth abou...

She’s a model, full contact fighter and martial arts instructor, genderfluid princess and more: lets meet Sybilla Bakzaza. 3:00 martial arts, baseball, football, sailing, relay racing, US NAVY 5:00 a commentary on Marine culture or US Navy 8:00 (devil dock is a penis joke) 9:00 cross-dressing as an entry 12:00 American assimilation  18:00 what can suck about gym environments 22:00 she has a t...

Let’s explore the history behind masturbation misinformation, pseudoscience and shaming, with clinical psychologist and author Dr Eric Sprankle. 3:00 how he got here 7:00 a vast conspiracy to teach education (elle has worked with PH tho) 10:00 history repeating on anti-porn  13:00 misinformation is the same  16:00 exploring negative online comments 20:00 be a man - destroy your lungs 23:...