There You Are

Celebrating Connection—Conviviality! Jess and Cathy talk about how rich it is to be involved with others,—having the connection to other peoples stories.  It is so fun to be able to celebrate the successes of others!  Jess did a cooking class with Quita Michel.  Ouita mentioned often the good things that food brings to people and used the term ‘conviviality’.  Ouita said that she feels that conviv...

Having the Right Tools in the Toolbox! Jess and Cathy continue talking about fear, and what can help us move out of it.  It is important to educate yourself and get as much information and skills that you can.  They are great tools in your toolbox to help you overcome fear. You get to move into the fear, and the more you take those steps, the easier it is to cast off the lines and move off the doc...

It’s All Good   The Power of Positivity!   Jess and Cathy talk about how important it is to look at the bright side of things—the glass is half full versus half empty.   Cathy is known for saying, “It’s all good”—in her conversations.  She thinks it’s from the “Life is Good” theme t-shirts.  Even if something goes wrong, it can turn out good, there is a remedy or solution. They give lots of exampl...

FEAR-Face Everything and Rise A listener requested we talk about fear.  We feel this when we think something bad is going to, or might happen.   Jess talks about where that that fear lives in our brain—in the Limbic region.  It does not speak a language there—it messages us with images or sensations.  Our brain wants a story and sometimes it confabulates something that could be false.  We can chan...

Cathy and Jess talk this morning about preparation.  Preparing correctly helps you live in the moment, knowing that you are ready—   Jess is taking her boat, The Relation Ship back to Canada at the end of June.  She has made sure the boat was “summerized”—the wheel bearings done on her trailer, and the brakes looked at.  Her truck just was serviced.   They keep lists of things that need to be done...

Reunions of our People and Places It’s Monday, June 1, Jess just had her 50th high school reunion festivities, and Cathy had a weekend Horse Trial at the Indiana Hoosier Horse Park.  They talk about the people, and the stories.  Cathy has been here in Kentucky for 48 years teaching and training. There is a beauty in knowing people for that many years.   Jess graduated from Sacred Heart Academy in...

   Being Brave comes in all ways Being brave comes in all forms—Cathy pushing her transmission temperature as she goes up a hill in West Virginia, to riding at upper levels around a cross country course.  It could be having that tough conversation, making changes in your life that you have never known before—   One thing about it, being brave is contagious.  When you are brave it helps all the peo...

Getting Tools for Life!   It is all about relationship.  Jess and Cathy are so grateful to have learned tools that help them.  We don’t know what we don’t know!  Early in their relationship, when Jess was getting her Masters of Social Work, she learned about the Getting the Love You Want work of Harville Hendrix.  She and Cathy went to a weekend workshop in the Maggie Valley of North Carolina.  It...

May 11, 2026  Staying Connected Jess and Cathy have shared their lives together for 32 years, and oftentimes they are not physically in the same space.  They have learned what they need to do in an intentional way to stay connected.  There are also the people in their lives, both personal and business that they make sure they have the times for.  What traditions and in what ways do you stay connec...

Endings Lead to New Beginnings Jess and Cathy discuss the circle of life—when one thing ends, a new beginning starts.  They reflect on their careers—how there are different phases.  Cathy grew into being an upper level competitor and that entailed going to Florida 8 weeks during the winter, renting a barn, being closer to her instructors that teach upper level competitors.  She taught less, she di...

The Good Stuff and the Hard Stuff—always best when we are connected. Jess and Cathy share their highs and lows from the past weekend.  The “Best Weekend of the Year”—the Kentucky Three-Day Event was this past weekend.  It is a five star event—bringing the best riders from the world. Cathy is involved with her expertise in course design, helping repair any footing and jumps that might get compromis...

Growing up the Same House my whole life Jess and Cathy continue talking about their childhoods.  Unlike Cathy moving around every 2-3 years, Jess grew up in the same house her whole life.  9114 Darley Drive.  She even remembers her phone number. No matter where you live, childhoods are full of all kinds of experiences growing up—cousins, neighborhood friends, family activities.  They shape who we...

Growing up Everywhere!  Perspective is Everything! Cathy claims that growing up with her Dad as a Navy pilot and moving every two or three years was a wonderful adventure!   In this episode, she recounts hopscotching different places in the country, including three years in Northern Ireland.   Her Mom got into training ponies as a little girl, and the stint in Ireland gave her certification teachi...

Jess and Cathy discuss showing up, doing your best, not matter how you feel!  How good connection is—in partnerships, doing things together whether it is just with your horse, or a whole basketball team—It is always a “We”, there is no “I” in Team.   Working together, giving something your all is how we show up!  Even when it is hard.    We appreciate you showing up and listening, please sign up,...

Welcome to Episode number 1!   Jess and Cathy want to welcome you, and say, There You Are!  And here we are! Our first episode.  We will share what we know, (you don’t know what you don’t know), and we don’t know everything for sure.  We are all learning, living and loving.  We have been in relationship for 32 years. We will be talking some about that—what work it has been.  We will be talking abo...