Therapy Is Expensive So Here We Are

Who are you when the life you built your identity around no longer exists? For many people, divorce isn’t just the end of a relationship, it’s the beginning of an identity crisis. Long after the paperwork is signed and the logistics are settled, another question remains: Who am I now? In this episode of Therapy Is Expensive So Here We Are, we continue our series on divorce, grief, and healing by e...

We often think divorce begins with paperwork. With lawyers. With court dates. With moving boxes. With someone finally saying, “I’m done.” But the truth is, most marriages don’t end in a courtroom. They end in silence. In this deeply reflective episode of Therapy Is Expensive So Here We Are, we explore a difficult but necessary reality: the death of a marriage almost always happens long before the...

(Blended Families × Boundaries × Spiritual Maturity) There’s a difference between creating peace and constantly avoiding conflict. But for many people, especially inside blended families, that line slowly becomes harder to recognize. In this episode, we explore the emotional cost of becoming the person who is always trying to keep everything stable. The one who absorbs tension quietly. The one who...

(Step parenting × Grace × Shadow Work) There’s an uncomfortable reality about blended families that many people are afraid to say out loud: Love doesn’t always arrive instantly. In this episode, we explore the emotional complexity of step parenting and what it means to intentionally love children you didn’t choose, in a family structure that often comes with grief, uncertainty, divided loyalties,...

(Step parenting × Emotional Leadership × Faith) There’s a kind of loneliness that doesn’t come from being physically alone. It comes from being the emotionally steady one. The one who stays calm during conflict. The one who absorbs tension before it spreads. The one who regulates themselves so everyone else can feel safe. And over time, that role can become incredibly heavy—especially inside blend...

Creativity is supposed to feel freeing. Like an outlet. Like a way to process the world, not escape from it. So what happens when the very thing that once gave you life… starts to feel heavy? In this episode, we explore the quiet, often unspoken reality of creative burnout, the moment when passion slowly turns into pressure, and expression begins to feel more like obligation than release. For many...

Blended families are often described with hopeful language, words like healing, second chances, and fresh starts. But what people don’t talk about enough is the complexity that comes with building a family that didn’t begin together. In this episode, we explore what it really means to parent without a script. Most of us grow up with a simple idea of how family is supposed to work. Two parents. Cle...

(Education Burnout × Faith × Leadership) There’s a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from education. Not just long hours. Not just heavy workloads. It’s the kind of tired that follows you home. The kind that makes Sunday evenings feel heavier than Monday mornings. The kind that doesn’t go away with a weekend off. And somewhere along the way, many of us were taught to interpret that exhaustion...

Growth is supposed to make your life better. More peaceful. More grounded. More whole. So why does it sometimes make relationships harder? In this episode, we talk about the quiet grief that comes with healing, the moment you realize that becoming healthier doesn’t always make you more likeable. Sometimes it does the opposite. It changes the dynamics. It shifts expectations. It exposes patterns th...

There’s a version of faith that looks peaceful on the outside, but functions like avoidance on the inside. It knows the language. It quotes the verses. It says “I’m healed,” “I’ve forgiven,” “I’m trusting God”, and yet nothing actually changes. In this episode, we talk about spiritual bypassing, the habit of using faith, prayer, or spiritual language to skip the hard, human work of healing. Not be...

There’s a phrase that floats around every conversation about healing, relationships, and empathy, “Holding space.” We say it like it’s simple. Like it’s something everyone just knows how to do. But if we’re honest… most of us don’t. In this episode, we dig into what it really means to hold space, for others, for our partners, for our kids, and maybe most importantly, for ourselves. Because holding...

We talk a lot about creative burnout like it’s just a productivity issue. Like all you need is a better workflow, a prettier planner, or one more self-help podcast to “get your spark back.” But what about when you’re not just burned out — you’re emotionally broke? When the well you create from has run dry, not because you’re lazy or uninspired, but because life has just taken too much from you lat...

We like to talk about boundaries like they’re free. Like they’re a mental health coupon you can clip out of a self-help book and hand to the people who drain you: “Sorry, I’m setting a boundary now.” But the truth? Boundaries cost something. They cost comfort. They cost relationships. They cost reputation, and sometimes peace — the kind of peace you get from keeping the waters calm at the expense...

You’re the strong one. The calm one. The one everyone texts when they’re unraveling at 2 AM. You hold space, offer clarity,and give language to feelings people didn’t even know they had. You’re the therapist friend. But… who checks in on you? In this episode, we talk about the hidden cost of being the emotional support system for everyone else, while quietly breaking down yourself. This is for tho...

🎙 Episode Title: The Cost of Healing (When You’re Broke and Tired) Podcast: Therapy is Expensive, So Here We Are What does healing look like when your bank account is low, your energy is gone, and your emotions are hanging by a thread? In this micro episode, we explore the quiet, unglamorous version of healing—the kind that doesn’t show up in highlight reels or Pinterest boards. This is the versio...

What does healing look like when you’re emotionally bankrupt and financially just… tired? When you’re barely making it through the week, let alone making it to therapy? This episode is about the version of healing no one glamorizes. The one that happens in between paycheck-to-paycheck survival and 2AM mental spirals. The one that doesn’t look like journaling in a linen robe with a matcha latte—but...

Let’s talk pageantry—the good, the bad, and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with it. Sure, pageants can help kids build confidence, public speaking skills, and grace under pressure, but they can also bring stress, self-doubt, and an unhealthy obsession with perfection. So, as parents, how do we make sure our kids come out of it stronger, not struggling? And how does all of this play into th...

Today, I’m joined by a very special guest—my niece! We’re sitting down to talk about mental health, how the importance of school has shifted over the years, and why those so-called “big” generation gaps don’t actually feel that big when we break it down. We’re diving into: 🧠 How mental health conversations have changed (or haven’t) between generations 📚 Whether school still holds the same weight...

In this episode, we dive into how education is evolving in the wake of the pandemic and the trends shaping the future of learning. We explore the reevaluation of traditional schooling, examining how hybrid and personalized approaches are reshaping the classroom experience. Next, we discuss the rise of asynchronous learning and its flexibility, empowering students to take control of their education...

Welcome back! It feels good to be back behind the mic and ready to take on a whole new topic about something that gets very little attention these days... Teaching and Mental Health... My name is Isaac Medina and you may have heard my old stuff as Negative Possibilities. However, I've since decided to change my whole trajectory and talk about something that is a little closer to home, my time as a...

I delve into the emotion of "Scanning"—that heightened state of vigilance where you find yourself constantly seeking signs of potential issues, validation, or change in your surroundings and relationships. After a divorce, scanning can become a habitual response to trauma, leaving you hyper-aware of social cues, financial stability, and personal safety. Tune in as we unpack this complex...

I focus on "Ambivalence and Resolving" after a divorce. Post-divorce, ambivalence often engulfs us—a mix of relief and regret, freedom and loneliness. We’ll explore why these conflicting feelings arise, drawing on personal stories. First, we'll unpack ambivalence, discussing its roots in the profound life changes and the mourning of lost futures. Then, we’ll move into the journey of...

"Covid and Coffee" is a special edition podcast exploring the challenges and triumphs of teaching online during the COVID-19 pandemic. This engaging series delves into the personal and professional lives of educators who adapted to remote instruction, balancing work and home life in an unprecedented global crisis. This episode features heartfelt anecdotal stories discussing the emotional...

Welcome to a special edition episode of "Covid and Coffee," where we delve into the emotional toll of the COVID-19 pandemic. This episode focuses on the widespread feelings of anxiety, loneliness, and grief experienced during these unprecedented times. We'll hear anecdotal stories of the brunt of isolation and uncertainty. Grab your coffee, and join us for an honest, heartfelt conver...

In this podcast episode, I delve into the transformative journey of starting over in various aspects of my life. I candidly discuss the challenges and joys of embarking on a new marriage, navigating the complexities of blending families, and reshaping my social circles. Sharing my experience of overcoming a devastating social media hack, I explore rebuilding trust and connections online. This epis...