Therapy for Humans

Episode 49: You Keep Using That Word... 07.04.2026 8:43 ↓

Gaslighting is one of the most overused words in the therapy lexicon right now — and that overuse is doing real damage. In this episode I break down what gaslighting actually means, why lumping it in with lying, defensiveness, and other bad behavior is costing you more than you think, and why getting the language right isn't about letting anyone off the hook. It's about making sure you&a...

Episode 48: What We Get Wrong About Self Esteem 26.03.2026 7:21 ↓

We've spent decades trying to build self-esteem. Turns out it might be the exhaust, not the engine. Today I make the case for accurate self-assessment over positive thinking — and why the goal isn't to feel better about yourself, it's to be someone you can respect.

Episode 47: Public Meltdowns And The Men Who Have Them 17.03.2026 19:44 ↓

Airports are a stress test for who you actually are when the veneer comes off. In this episode, three men fail that test — including me. A look at public meltdowns, emotional labor, and what it actually takes to change behavior that's been running on autopilot for decades.

Episode 46: Being Seen is Scary (and Necessary) 09.02.2026 14:05 ↓

What is it like to be fully seen, and why should we put ourselves through that?

Episode 45 What if Your Therapist Sucks? 03.12.2025 28:08 ↓

Today we will talk about how to critically evaluate the therapy that you were getting, and what to do about it if it's falling short.

Episode 44 Why Being seen is so hard, and so important 29.10.2025 11:38 ↓

Being seen means true and authentic vulnerability, it's not easy, but it is essential!

Episode 43 Why Apologies Fail, and what to do about it 21.10.2025 10:09 ↓

Basically, we suck at apologizing in our culture. Let's change that.

Episode 42 When Safety Becomes a Cage 15.10.2025 9:45 ↓

Let's talk about the way we keep ourselves confined, and how to break out.

Episode 41 The Stories we Tell Ourselves 02.10.2025 9:18 ↓

Let's check in about the narratives we have about ourselves. 

Episode 40 Silent Contracts 23.09.2025 8:44 ↓

Let's talk about those unspoken agreements that seem to run our lives from the shadows.

Episode 39: Therapy Myths 15.09.2025 14:01 ↓

Do you think you know what therapy is? Have a listen and see if you're right.

Episode 38, Fight for Those Friendships! 09.09.2025 9:27 ↓

Let's talk about why we don't fight for our friendships

Episode 37 Health and Wellness Overload 10.07.2025 11:13 ↓

Everything in moderation, even therapy. 

Positive Regard, It's not just for Baristas! 16.06.2025 13:01 ↓

Thank your partner. You'll thank me. 

Transitions 17.07.2024 11:22 ↓

Change is hard, but often worth the effort

Witnessing 22.05.2024 10:12 ↓

What does it mean to really listen?

Episode 33 — The Second Arrow 25.10.2021 12:21 ↓

A little PSA for you, plus the filters our brains place on our thoughts. 

Episode 32 — It's Not About You 27.04.2021 12:21 ↓

Finding other people attractive. Is your partner on the Autism Spectrum?

Episode 31 — Building a Box for the Stuff in Your Head 16.03.2021 12:05 ↓

I'm BACK! Let's build  a box for the shit in your head. I also talk about realistic expectations and goals for therapy, and we check in about how your pandemic is going.

Episode #30 01.07.2020 16:07 ↓

Break ups, therapy as a career path, and narcissistic parents

Episode #29 28.03.2020 15:43 ↓

How to talk to your kids about the Corona Virus, and tending to your inner child.

Episode #28 18.03.2020 15:42 ↓

The Corona Virus and how not to go bat shit crazy

Episode #27 25.11.2019 13:59 ↓

Recovery from abuse

Episode #26 22.10.2019 11:07 ↓

It's OK to be skeptical! 

Episode #25 18.09.2019 13:08 ↓

Division of labor, Apologies, and a little tip on grief