Therapy Brothers

"In an episode Tyler referred to a consummate love triangle. I'm wondering if it's possible for one person to feel that love without the other person feeling it?" "In 2017 after many 15+years of porn addiction and lies my marriage reached a breaking point. I became very sick from all the stress and in 2019 was diagnosed with MS brought on from all the stress in my life . My husband went to therapy...

"I was wondering if you could help me. My husband and I have been on the road of recovery for over a year now. We have really been progressing and we still have big hurdles which I know are normal but some of my hurdles I feel like I’m really struggling to grieve through. The disclosures that I am struggling to cope with are: that my husband has admitted to using my body as he has fantasized about...

"I understand that you started out working in psychiatry. In my family of origin we experienced several psychiatric traumas (brother diagnosed as schizophrenic, sister who experienced postpartum psychosis shortly after her husband passed away). I don’t think we really processed emotionally. I experienced what I would call depression and anxiety through my life, but was never diagnosed. I’ve always...

"Shut down! My husband had an affair, d-day was 14 months ago, and he is still in what I call shut down. We have the classic semi toxic codependant relationship, Im the anxious attached and he is the avoidant. The more he freezes and disassociate, the more my fight mode and anger rises, I call it my bulldozer... and you know how the rest of that dynamic goes! I have actually chosen to leave, becau...

My husband says he is working recovery. He even speaks recovery. But I am seeing no change in his habits or our daily life. Lots of talk and no action. We are both working recovery and our relationship has gotten significantly worse. Can it be that he is working and I don’t see it or are my gut feelings right? We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submi...

Everything In My Life Is Good. Why Do Things Seem So Hard? We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join us at our 3 Day "Rising Son" Men's Conference, September 23-25 2021 in Logan, Utah. This conference is for men who are ready to step into higher-level recovery. Sign up on our website: https://risingsonconference.com Br...

Q1: "We know that our significant other is not responsible for our happiness, our choices etc. What are some healthy things we are responsible for in a relationship?" Q2: "In what ways can you support an adult “child” who is unwilling to get the help he needs?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join us at our 3 Day...

"I can see the pattern of resentment and victimization that I have fallen into over my lifetime. The reality I am accepting is that I have developed patterns in my life where I have allowed others to lean too heavily on me to solve their problems. As an adult, I have kept about 50 lbs. of extra weight hanging around, which I believe is a metaphor for the burdens that I carry for others. Overeating...

Q1: "How do I show my spouse my change of heart if we are living separated at the moment? How do I stop thinking about worse case scenario that she will leave me before she is able to see real change?" Q2: "Is there a difference between being triggered and just being reminded of past events? For example, driving down a road or near a place where I know my husband acted out will remind me of the si...

How do you discern truth from confirmation bias? What are self-checks that one can rely on to hopefully see truth instead of just seeing things that go along with your personal narrative? We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join us at our 3 Day "Rising Son" Men's Conference, September 23-25 2021 in Logan, Utah. This c...

Brannon is flying solo this episode while he waits for his comrade to heal up from a bout with COVID. Brannon digs into the nature of trust and why it is so hard to rebuild, but more importantly, how to do it the right way.  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join us at our 3 Day "Rising Son" Men's Conference, Septem...

This podcast episode was actually recorded on Brannon's other podcast ("The Betrayed The Addicted The Expert"). It was a profound conversation and we wanted to highlight it again here to focus on masculinity, combatting shame, and what it means to be WHOLEHEARTED as well as the power of group therapy.  We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your q...

"My husband and I are not sure how to handle a family situation. My in-laws are good parents and grandparents. Physically, they are wonderful--they always have our backs and are there to lend a helping hand, they enjoy spending time with us, they are great with teaching our kids new skills, etc.  Emotional connection is a different story. First, there is the fact that they cannot go deep and have...

In this episode we break apart some of the most common tips and advice given to couples before marriage. Some of them are down right foolish but many are actually more harmful than good.. Have you heard any of these before, or better yet, have you ever tried to live by them!? We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join u...

"Hi, I started seeing this guy at the end of July and was seeing him for a month, nearly every week. The last time I saw him was on the 6th September, and we had so much fun. The last time I spoke to him was on the 9th September. I asked him out on a date, and he said he was busy on that day. I replied back but he read it and never replied. Haven’t heard from him since. I don’t know if I should le...

"How can I heal wounds inflicted by my father? When I was around 11 years old, I caught my dad looking at pornography. At the same time I was in the beginning stages of pornography use. In my young mind I looked at this as an opportunity to come clean to him about my struggles because I now knew that he struggled too. When I confronted him about it he denied everything. When I kept pressing he eve...

"Chivalrous Shaming!?!? Is it EVER okay to shame someone? Like when Joel Olsteen didn't offer his mega church for Hurricane Katrina victims, he was put on blast and then finally opened it up to them. Are there situations like that where it's acceptable to turn to shaming someone for what they should be doing that they aren't if it is for a greater good?" Starts at 15:14 "Am I screwed? Sounds rough...

After attending a funeral for a childhood friend, the Therapy Brothers share some poignant thoughts and decisions they've made throughout the years. The conversation gets heavy when they discuss openly a few regrets they've shouldered for years. Get ready to dig deep into your own choices as you consider this topic of life, relationships, regrets, and death alongside the Therapy Brothers.  We woul...

"My husband and I have been married for about 16 years. About 5 years ago some infidelities were discovered. We started going through the process of healing or what we thought was healing. We went through a repentance process with our church. We saw a family counselor a few times and over the course of the year we went through that process. At the end the people at church told us we were good and...

"Basically, how do you feel comfortable naked again after knowing your partner was into pornography? After he has made fun of your body cause he was so sick in the head he couldn't imagine a "normal" body as being ok. He has changed so much, but my mind is having a hard time accepting the fact he doesn't think like that anymore. I understand the whole victim thing and I'm sure 80% of it is that. B...

Ty answers 3 core questions about betrayal in a relationship. #1:  "Help for the betrayed! How to forgive the spouse who is working to change after disclosure, how to help the relationship heal as well as your hurt heart, how to know if spouse has told all the truth...etc." #2: "How do I tell if I am too independent, distant, or avoidant in my marriage? How can I tell if my spouse is too codepende...

Husband: "I've had a problem with pornography most of my growing up life... I thought that the problem would go away when I was married... I hid it for a while and then I found that I had to come clean to my wife. I didn't know what betrayal trauma was. The church leaders... don't know a lot about about betrayal and how that works on a on a spouse. And you know and there's just a lot of things the...

"Ever since I was a kid, I wanted a girlfriend. I always had stress about who I would marry one day. It's been on my mind since I was about 4. Growing up, middle school and high school were very difficult for me. I was behind everybody else. I was home schooled and social normality was foreign to me...I was very much immature and struggled with relationships my entire life and only recently came o...

"What if your honesty triggers their shame? How do you share honesty when they can't handle it?" "Like many couples health is always a big topic in my marriage. My husband has a past where he was shamed for his weight and I don’t want to contribute to that shame. However, I really want him to take better care of himself and be more active. What’s a good approach for me to bring this topic up with...

"I was raised conservative christian and now my views are very much not what they were, but my family still thinks they are the same. I struggle with guilt and am terrified to tell my family that I am no longer part of that church or following their teachings as it will really hurt them (they believe this is the only way to be saved). How can I find my way to my own spirituality? How can I tell th...