Therapy Brothers

Caller Question: "I just listened to your latest episode, and I was left with a question. My husband had a pretty in-depth emotional affair. To the point that he and this woman had fantasized about leaving their families and running away together. We have been in recovery for 8 months now and our marriage has seen amazing improvement in all areas. We are working really hard to be vulnerable and bo...

Caller Question: "My husband has acted out with men in the past, does that mean he is Gay? How can I move past the “ick” feeling that comes with that knowledge if I decide to stay in the relationship?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/event...

Caller Question: "My husband disclosed three months ago that he is a sex addict. Specifically pornography and masturbation. We are in the thick of the work, and I acknowledge it’s early still. Here’s where I’m stuck: while he never physically cheated on me, he admitted that a large aspect of his addiction was a sexual fantasy- he provided me with a list of 25 of my female friends and neighbors he...

Caller Question: "Hi. I am struggling with this concept. If my husband really wanted to change and stop looking at porn/ talking to women, wouldn't he? I see him working with his counselor and 12 step but the pattern remains. I keep giving him the benefit of the doubt in his recovery but then o get stuck in moving forward in mine." We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtal...

Caller Question: "I am in the process of filing for divorce. I feel it was the right decision, however now that I have been out of the situation that caused a nervous system overload, and as the hurt caused is starting to fade, I am more clearly able to see my role/issues/shortcomings I played a role in in the marriage (critical, expecting him to live up to my husband “manual”, layering shame on t...

Danielle's Question: " In sex addiction, can you and your partner's attachment style be mislabeled? I have several women that I know that think they are "avoidant" because they are rejecting their husband's external validation seeking through sex. Is addiction usually avoidant attachment?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and s...

Caller Question: "My husband just got back from your Rising Son conference and it’s feeling like he’s changing and becoming the man I’ve always known he could become. The problem is now that he’s taking his place in our family I am losing my place as the strong steady lead of our family. I honestly don’t know where I fit. So my question is 2 fold, 1: As he embraces his masculinity how do I embrace...

Caller Question: "What is the best way to handle a relapse, both for the person struggling with addiction and for their partner? What is the best way to move forward?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering T...

Caller David reached out to the Therapy Brothers to ask them about issues related to avoidance that stem from video games and pornography at a very early age. We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events Tyler Patrick | "The Wandering Therapist"...

Caller: "Hi! Betrayed partner here (porn addiction). I'm a new listener & I just listened to E58-is it ok to be attracted to more than 1 person. I have to say that coming from the betrayed partner's perspective, what was said & talking about the "3 second rule" is terrifying! For a lot of us, our partners could only have sex with us BECAUSE they had an image of someone else in their mind OR it was...

?I don't feel like i have a really clear question to ask, i've just been in limbo for 3 years. Knowing God will bring me and my spouse back together and it happening feel like two alien forces working against each other. As my counselor says, "i am the only one who can determine how long I can live this way."  After 3 years of separation, i would say he is still doing things for recovery, but he d...

Caller Question: "I loved the Podcast I listened to on Boundaries. So much great info, tools and principles discussed. I appreciated the podcast yesterday because of the difficulty I had with a group my wife got involved in that did a lot of the things you talked about and then some. I'm willing to bet they've destroyed more families that they have actually helped. They broke so much of my own tru...

Caller Question: "Does society manufacture Lust addicts through shame? i'm seeing more in myself and my fellows in SAL how damaging shame is to recovery. this mentality of "I'm a sexaholic, an addict" whilst i personally feel necessary in the start of recovery, is causing a lot of shame-train and relapse. I see shame still being this huge driving force that is impeding my growth (see my #2 questio...

Caller Question: "How can I be a Sex Addict and a Sexual Anorexic? In a recent podcast about increasing sex drive, sexual anorexia was mentioned, and I looked into it. As a sex addict it seems confusing that I would also be a sexual anorexic, but the criteria seems to fit. My wife and I were physical while dating, but as soon as we got married the desire for sexual intimacy disappeared. The pornog...

Scott & Melissa join from Canada. They allowed us to dig into some of the ups and downs of their journey in recovery. The hard parts including D-day, miscarriage, and feeling disconnected from God. The highlights including rebuilt trust, overcoming sexual anorexia, and Love. We had some beautiful moments filled with emotion. Thank you for sharing this with us Scott & Melissa. We would love to have...

Caller Question: How do I overcome residual lack of self confidence and catastrophizing after childhood bullying?  I still struggle with lack of confidence and fear of what life holds after childhood bullying. I have a hard time loving myself and believing that I deserve success because I still have residual beliefs that shape my self image and identity. I would love more insight on what I can do...

Caller Question: "What Does Healthy Masculinity Have To Do With Recovery?" Brannon and Tyler talk with guest Jon about his recovery and the different periods of growth that he's experienced and what the obstacles have been. Brannon and Tyler both know Jon and have had the chance to watch him develop into the man that he is today. We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkr...

The Therapy Brothers focus on the need for healthy boundaries and define a little more clearly what that is by playing out some real world scenarios from their therapy practices. Tyler even digs into some of his own recovery work with his wife and boundaries he got hung up on.   We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Joi...

Caller Question: "How Do I Increase My Sexual Desire While I'm Working My Recovery?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join us at our 3 Day "Rising Son" Men's Conference, September 23-25 2021 in Logan, Utah. This conference is for men who are ready to step into higher-level recovery. Sign up on our website: https://...

"How can I determine whether it's scrupulosity or if I am in denial again? A few years ago, I was diagnosed with scrupulosity. During my upbringing, my understanding of religion became very strict, and I acquired the perception that I needed to be perfect in order to be worthy and loved in the sight of God. I was led to believe that if I felt certain feelings that I was sinning. These feelings of...

"Masturbation. Ive heard both of your episodes on it. As well as one from sex for saints podcast. I dont deny theres a change in the church about masturbation and love the new movement you're a part of to speak up. Im hopping aboard to speak up publicly about how I'm a recovering sexaholic, working the SAL program, etc.  So far from what you guys have spoken about in regards to masturbation, i agr...

"I'm committed to addiction recovery, but I struggle with consistent effort on my dailies and I still have some infrequent relapses. I think what I'm lacking is self discipline. Are there any methods/practices for boosting self discipline or do I just need to make it happen?" We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join u...

"I typically love everything you guys have to say, but the part about modesty in your last episode was disappointing. We are trying to teach our kids (girls- it’s always just girls) to be who they are and love themselves, but then we tell them exactly what that should look like. We define modesty and tell them if they respect themselves they’ll cover up. We tell them they aren’t responsible for th...

"I have been listening to Brannon for about 3 years and he talks about radical acceptance. I am a betrayed wife who is stuck at this point. I have gotten a drip disclosure over a timeframe of 3 years and think I have accepted my husband's betrayal and then one day it hits me hard like it's new information all over again. It's been 7 months since the last piece of his adultery was disclosed. Would...

Tyler and Brannon chat with special guest, Joan, about the connection between life's purpose and our weight! We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and sign up! Join us at our 3 Day "Rising Son" Men's Conference, September 23-25 2021 in Logan, Utah. This conference is for men who are ready to step into higher-level recovery. Sign up...