The Zachary Stockill Podcast

In today’s video, I’m going to share two often overlooked recipes for healing from retroactive jealousy. So: why could your own retroactive jealousy community be valuable? Zachary Stockill: These two often overlooked aspects for healing from retroactive jealousy are community and accountability. People are often embarrassed when it comes to struggling with an issue like […] The post Retroactive Je...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about how to handle the advanced stages of overcoming retroactive jealousy when you encounter “bumps in the road.” So, how are you going to deal with a bad day with retroactive jealousy? Zachary Stockill: If you’ve started putting in the work, made the commitment, started putting in the […] The post Bad Day With Retroactive Jealousy? Listen to This… [VIDEO] appe...

In today’s video, I’m going to explore pornography in-depth and provide some food for thought when you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts and obsessive curiosity around your partner’s past relationships. So, should guys watch porn? Zachary Stockill: Should retroactive jealousy sufferers watch pornography? My answer is “No.” If you’re struggling with unwanted and often violent graphic […] The po...

In today’s video, I’m going to share one of my favourite ways to think about retroactive jealousy. So: how to start overcoming intrusive thoughts? Zachary Stockill: For a long time, I would label retroactive jealousy as the character “fat bastard” in the Austin Powers comedies, from Mike Myers’s comedies from the 90s… This helped me […] The post Overcoming Intrusive Thoughts: One Way To “Label” Th...

In today’s video, I’m going to prove to you that if you’re struggling with retroactive or obsessive jealousy, it’s actually a blessing in disguise. So, why retroactive jealousy is actually an opportunity? Zachary Stockill: The phrase “blessing in disguise” is thrown around a lot by people when someone’s going through a tough time. And frankly, […] The post Retroactive Jealousy is an Opportunity (Y...

In today’s video, I’m going to share why it’s usually a bad idea to ask your partner endless questions about their past. So, why is it important to be strategic about asking about your partner’s past? Zachary Stockill: If you’re a retroactive jealousy sufferer, there’s the impulse to ask your partner questions about their past. […] The post “Asking About My Partner’s Past:” What’s the Right Method...

In today’s video, I’m responding to a viewer who’s struggling to let go of the urge to control her partner. I’m going to suggest some alternative ways to look at the situation instead. So: how to let go of the desire to control your partner? Zachary Stockill: Have you ever felt the urge to control […] The post “Desire to Control My Partner:” How Do You Let it Go? [VIDEO] appeared first on Overcomi...

In today’s video, I’m going to share another 80/20 rule, and if you’re struggling with retroactive or obsessive jealousy, this is going to be useful for you. So: what is the overall framework for overcoming retroactive jealousy? Zachary Stockill: In a previous video, I spoke about an 80/20 rule. Anytime you have a problem in […] The post Framework for Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy: What Works? [...

In today’s video, I’m going to share a quote by Einstein that represents one of my all-time favorite universal solutions for retroactive jealousy. So: how to deal with retroactive jealousy fear? Zachary Stockill: My name is Zachary Stockill and since 2013, I’ve been helping men and women from all over the world, overcome retroactive jealousy, […] The post Retroactive Jealousy Fear: The #1 Step in...

In today’s video, I’m going to tell you my number one tip for how to know whether you’re struggling with irrational retroactive jealousy or a genuine clash of values in your partner’s past. So: how do you assess your partner’s past values? Zachary Stockill: One of the things that sometimes people seem to get wrong […] The post Partner’s Past Values: How to Assess Them? [VIDEO] appeared first on Ov...

In today’s video, I’d like to share the number one step you should take after you break up. So, what to do after a breakup? Zachary Stockill: I’m Zachary Stockill from retroactivejealousy.com. I’m also the author of the newly released The Breakup Recovery Workbook, as well as my new comprehensive, step-by-step, Breakup Recovery Blueprint Online […] The post What To Do After a Breakup: The #1 Step...

Yesterday, I hosted my second YouTube livestream where I took all kinds of interesting subscriber questions. Although the questions were mainly concerning retroactive jealousy, I also got to a couple of questions about breakups and relationships more generally. If you joined me, thanks! And if not, you can find the full video below: Click here […] The post Your Questions Answered: YouTube Livestre...

In today’s video, I’m going to offer a bit of tough love to anyone struggling with retroactive or obsessive jealousy. And share some insight as to what it’s been like to be the “retroactive jealousy guy” for over 8 years. Zachary Stockill: When we’re struggling with any kind of highly charged emotional problem in life, […] The post What I’ve Learned as the “Retroactive Jealousy Guy” for 8+ Years [...

In today’s video, I’m going to share five tips that will help you get better in touch with your intuition and gut. So: how should you handle your irrational jealousy? Zachary Stockill: If you were struggling with an issue like retroactive jealousy, like irrational jealousy, you might be really struggling with questions like, “Is my […] The post Irrational Jealousy or Intuition? 5 Tips to Know the...

In today’s video, I’m going to respond to a retroactive jealousy sufferer, who’s confused about her boyfriend’s past in hookup culture. She’s wondering if she should dive in and pursue a similar kind of lifestyle in the hope that this will cure retroactive jealousy. How to deal with your partner’s history of casual sex and […] The post Casual Sex and Retroactive Jealousy: Will More Sex Help? [VIDE...

In today’s video, we will learn why is it so important to have standards in your dating life, particularly for anyone struggling with retroactive jealousy. So what are your relationship standards? Zachary Stockill: Relationship standards are your criteria for anyone you invite into your life. There are different kinds of standards that most people have […] The post Relationship Standards: What The...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about “the cost of doing business,” and how this concept applies to things like obsessive jealousy, and retroactive jealousy. So how can this help when you are suffering from retroactive jealousy? Zachary Stockill: Every endeavor in life, anytime we pursue something worth having, there’s going to be some […] The post Suffering From Retroactive Jealousy? This Can...

In today’s video, I’m going to tell you what to do if you’re struggling with retroactive jealousy, obsessive jealousy, or any other kind of emotional/ psychological problem. So, how to cure retroactive jealousy? Zachary Stockill: I saw a video recently posted by a well-known dating coach named Dr. David Tian. I did an interview with […] The post How to Cure Retroactive Jealousy: Go Beyond “Just th...

In today’s video, I’m going to share a very unusual technique for dealing with any kind of unwanted intrusive thoughts. So how to escape intrusive thoughts? Zachary Stockill: I remember reading about a surgeon who was talking about the incredible power of keeping a to-do list when you’re in the middle of something like neurosurgery, […] The post Escape Intrusive Thoughts: A Weird (But Effective) T...

In today’s video, I’m responding to a viewer who is worried about her partner viewing pornography. How to handle retroactive jealousy and pornography? Zachary Stockill: I recorded a video recently related to retroactive jealousy and sex. And one of the viewers of that video posted an interesting question beneath that video. S writes… How do […] The post Retroactive Jealousy and Pornography: How to...

In today’s video, I’m going to share a superpower that you should cultivate that will help you avoid 99% of drama and chaos in your relationships. How to choose the right partner? Zachary Stockill: So, I have officially entered my mid-30s. And I have been enormously lucky in my relationship life. To this point, I’m […] The post How to Choose The Right Partner: The Most Important Step [VIDEO] appea...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about how to get started getting momentum when it comes to any kind of personal development project, and how to deal with resistance that you might have along the way. So, how to stay motivated when beating jealousy? Zachary Stockill: I have received some YouTube comments recently, and […] The post Staying Motivated Beating Jealousy: How To Get Started [VIDEO] a...

In today’s video, I’m going to answer an email from a retroactive jealousy sufferer, who’s worried their partner had sex in the house that he now shares with her. So, what are some methods for overcoming retroactive jealousy triggers? B asks… How do I stop thinking that my partner had sex with other people in […] The post Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy Triggers: Some Practical Tips [VIDEO] appear...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about what you should do if you broke up with your partner because of retroactive jealousy. Maybe you’re wondering what you should do now if you’re experiencing any kind of regrets or doubts about your decision. So, let’s learn how to get over retroactive jealousy. Zachary Stockill: A […] The post Get Over Retroactive Jealousy: Will Breaking Up Help? [VIDEO] app...

In today’s video, I’m going to talk about retroactive jealousy and sex. So, what is a good way to start thinking about retroactive jealousy and sex? Zachary Stockill: Being in this position, being the retroactive jealousy guy for so long, I get a lot of emails and feedback from retroactive jealousy sufferers. A question that […] The post Retroactive Jealousy and Sex: A Strange Way to Think About I...