The YOU Not Me Podcast

Summary In this episode, we explore how young people can launch well into adulthood by focusing on work ethic, growth, communication, financial management, and purpose. These pillars help build character, develop discipline, and find meaningful impact in work and life. Key Topics The importance of work ethic and reliabilityThe role of growth and humility in personal developmentEffective communicat...

Most people graduate high school — or even college — without the basics. Chris and Andrew break down the five life skills that actually determine whether you thrive or just survive as an adult: self-sufficiency, health, stress management, practical competence, and staying calm when everything goes sideways. This isn't motivational fluff. It's the stuff nobody taught you — and the stuff tha...

Summary In the second episode from this five-part series on launching well, Chris and Andrew explore the vital role of relationships in launching into adulthood successfully. They emphasize that true happiness and health are rooted in the quality of our connections, presence, and character, and offer practical insights on building meaningful relationships. Key Topics Harvard Study of Adult Develop...

Summary In the first episode of this five-part series on launching well, Chris and Andrew discuss the principles of character that are essential for transitioning into adulthood. Ownership, integrity, discipline, emotional strength, and identity beyond performance serve as five pillars that provide practical insight for personal growth. Key Topics Ownership changes everything Choosing integrity ov...

Summary This episode explores the vital role of character in career growth, trust, and resilience through life's challenges. Chris and Andrew discuss how consistency, integrity, and faith serve as anchors during hard times, shaping true leadership and personal development. Takeaways Character is built one choice at a time, like a muscle. Trust is developed through consistent actions, not just...

Summary This episode explores the true meaning of loyalty, its importance in personal and professional life, and how leaders can foster a culture of loyalty through actions and attitudes. Chris and Andrew share insights on loyalty during adversity, the impact of remote work, and personal responsibility in building trust and commitment. Key Topics - The irrational nature of loyalty and commitment d...

Summary This episode explores the concept of 'if only'—how it fosters regret and self-focus—and offers practical ways to shift towards a present, outward-focused mindset. Chris and Andrew share personal stories, biblical insights, and actionable advice to help listeners move beyond regret and embrace their current opportunities. Key Topics - The subtle self-focus of the 'if only' m...

Summary This episode explores the transformative power of failure, emphasizing how it can be a beautiful and essential part of growth. Chris and Andrew share personal stories, insights on identity, perseverance, and reframing failure as a refining force rather than a setback. Key Topics - The personal and emotional impact of failure - Failure as a necessary step for growth and learning - The impor...

Summary This episode of the YOU Not Me Podcast explores the deeper meaning of success, contentment, and character beyond medals and records, using the 2026 Winter Olympics as a backdrop. Chris and Andrew share insights on how to pursue excellence with integrity without sacrificing building meaningful relationships and finding lasting fulfillment. Key Topics: - The pursuit of excellence and its imp...

In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris and Andrew explore the profound impact of personal relationships on individual growth and change. They discuss the importance of community, accountability, and the necessity of hard conversations in fostering genuine connections. Through personal stories, they highlight the role of mentors and friends who challenge and encourage us, emphasizing that...

Summary Leadership is a lost art. A lot of people wonder how they can lead at home, at work, or on their sports team. In this episode, we discuss the true essence of leadership, emphasizing that it is not about titles or authority but about responsibility, service, and character. We explore how leadership manifests in various areas of life, including marriage, family, and the workplace, highlighti...

Summary In this episode, we discuss the various seasons of life, emphasizing the importance of understanding and navigating each phase intentionally. We explore the challenges faced in different decades, from teenage years to adulthood, and highlight the significance of mentorship, building relationships, and investing time in family. The conversation underscores that while each season has its uni...

Summary In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris Behrmann reflects on the conclusion of the Division I men's soccer season, discussing the significance of winning and losing, and the importance of finding purpose beyond competition. The conversation delves into the pressures of expectations, the journey of growth through failure, and the need for intentionality in creating a lasting im...

Summary In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris Behrmann delves into the concept of gratitude, especially around the Thanksgiving season. He explores the common pitfalls of gratitude practices, emphasizing the importance of recognizing what we truly deserve in life. The conversation highlights the dangers of entitlement and pride, advocating for a mindset shift towards humility and apprec...

Summary In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris Behrmann discuss the significance of starting now in achieving personal goals and building lasting habits. This episode emphasizes the importance of urgency in taking action. The conversation also highlights the value of investing in relationships and the role of community in personal development. Listeners are encouraged to overcome mental...

Summary In this episode of the YOU Not Me Podcast, Chris explores the true sources of happiness and fulfillment, emphasizing the importance of relationships over material wealth. He discusses insights from the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which reveals that quality relationships are key to long-lasting joy and health. The conversation also highlights the significance of time as a finite res...

Summary In this episode, Chris discusses the importance of maintaining a mindset of excellence regardless of external circumstances. The conversation centers around why individuals should not wait for perfect conditions to give their best effort, as this can lead to stagnation and missed opportunities. The episode explores the themes of influence, service over self, and the significance of setting...

Summary: In this episode of the YOU Not Me Podcast, Chris Behrmann discusses the pervasive darkness in the world and how to find light amidst it. He explores the importance of perspective, particularly the 30,000-foot view, to gain clarity in times of suffering. The conversation emphasizes the need for relationships and community, encouraging listeners to step out of passivity and engage with othe...

Summary In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris Behrmann discusses the importance of finding balance in life amidst competing priorities. The conversation explores the sacrifices people often make in their careers, relationships, and personal fulfillment. Chris emphasizes the need for intentionality and selflessness, advocating for a life that integrates purpose across all areas. The disc...

In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris Behrmann discusses the importance of intrinsic motivation in leadership. He explains how leaders can create engaging environments that foster intrinsic motivation, leading to better performance and satisfaction among team members. The conversation delves into self-determination theory, the three essential needs of autonomy, competence, and relatedne...

In this episode of the You Not Me podcast, Chris explores the rapid advancements in artificial intelligence (AI) and its implications for human relationships, employment, and mental health. He discusses the limitations of AI in fostering genuine connections and the importance of human empathy and care in a technology-driven world. The conversation emphasizes the need for individuals to cultivate t...

In this episode of the YOU Not Me Podcast, Chris Behrmann discusses the critical distinction between being an 'and' person versus a 'but' person. He explores how this principle can be applied in various contexts, including hiring, relationships, and personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the importance of character, humility, and self-reflection in evaluating oneself and othe...

In this episode, the conversation explores the essential balance between truth and grace in relationships. Chris discusses the importance of both elements, how they can be defined, and the dangers of leaning too heavily on one at the expense of the other. Chris provides practical applications and examples, along with insights into navigating difficult moments in relationships. The episode conclude...

In this episode of the YOU Not Me Podcast, we discuss an integral element of the YOU Not Me Mindset - Be The Change. Be The Change refers to transforming the world around you one interaction at a time. You can choose to be the kind of person who ignites others, shapes communities, and builds life-altering relationships. Through pure-hearted, intentional service, you can create a ripple effect that...

In this episode of the YOU Not Me podcast, Chris Behrmann discusses the essential steps for personal transformation. He emphasizes the importance of understanding one's current situation, reflecting on past experiences, and setting meaningful goals. The conversation highlights the need for accountability, the significance of relationships, and the impact of personal aspirations on oneself and...