The Wellness Helpdesk

In Episode 57, host and certified coach Nikkei Lamodi breaks down the two types of late bloomers she supports through one-on-one mentorship. Are you someone who just needs support and accountability to make quick progress in one area of your life? Or are you looking for a breakthrough year in 6 months time to tackle multiple areas of your life with lasting change? Nikkei explains both mentorship o...

In Episode 56, host and certified coach Nikkei Lamodi, dives deep into the common struggle of self-doubt that can hold you back from taking action to break free from being behind in life, whether it’s in your career, health, or finances. If you’ve ever felt like it’s too late to start breaking free from being behind in an area of your life, this episode is for you. Nikkei shares personal stories a...

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly playing catch-up and don’t have any real strengths to help you move forward, this episode is for you. The truth is—you do have strengths, and they’re the key to breaking free from feeling behind. In this episode, Nikkei dives into: ✅ Why looking inward should be the fiirst step for every late bloomer. ✅ How knowing your strengths boosts confidence and t...

Ever feel like you’re failing at adulthood or running out of time? You’re not alone! In this episode, your host and certified coach, Nikkei Lamodi, shares a game-changing strategy that helped her finally break free from feeling behind in life—and it can do the same for you. She's diving into the sneaky limiting beliefs that keep you stuck and how to challenge them so you can finally make the progr...

Have you found yourself stuck in the same place in an area of your life no matter how much you "do"? In this episode, host and fellow late bloomer, Nikkei Lamodi shares her personal journey of breaking free from being behind financially. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The mindset shifts she made to go from the financial shame that kept her stuck to confidently hitting financial milestones. How...

Feeling like you’re running behind life's expected milestones? You’re not alone. Join host, Nikkei Lamodi, a fellow late bloomer and eldest daughter who’s been there. She shares empowering strategies and heartfelt stories for late bloomers in their 30s. Whether it’s finding love, switching careers, or chasing long-buried dreams, this episode is your reminder that it’s never too late to rewrite you...

Are you an eldest daughter who feels stuck in the cycle of self-sacrifice, constantly putting others first while your own needs fall to the wayside? In this episode, Nikkei shares the one common thing all her eldest daughter client's had in common that led to improving their health, money, and relationships. After this episode, you'll know exactly where to start to create a life that nurtures your...

In this episode your host, Nikkei Lamodi, gets real about the struggles and strategies of setting boundaries during family gatherings—especially as an eldest daughter. With the holidays right around the corner, it’s time to prioritize your mental and emotional health without the guilt. This is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever felt drained or overwhelmed by family gatherings, particularly eldest...

In this episode, I share exactly how I helped my client gain clarity around an important conversation with her partner around finances. She was feeling nervous, unsure how to navigate the financial expectations that come with moving in together for the first time. But with just one powerful question I gave her, everything shifted for her. Tune in to hear how this question helped her define her fin...

In today’s episode, we dive into the concept of "Carry vs. Assist" and how it shows up for eldest daughters. If you’ve ever felt like you're doing it all—planning, cooking, cleaning, managing everyone's needs—this episode is for you. We'll discuss how carrying the load alone can lead to burnout, frustration, and resentment. Instead, I share an alternative that will bring bala...

As an eldest daughter it's not uncommon to show up for everyone and do it all. Somehow you manage to find a way even when you don't know if you have enough energy, money, or resources to show up for someone else. This was my life, until I learned exactly how to use boundaries. In this episode, I discuss the last family situation that lit a fire under me to learn how to use boundaries to ga...

As the first/second-generation eldest daughter, early on, it's expected that you'll "be the example." Your path is laid out for you based on your family's cultural expectations. Whether that's the type of education you pursue, when you get married, who you marry, and when you have kids. But what if you don't want to follow the exact cultural expectations that have bee...

As a first gen eldest daughter you achieve many firsts on your own. But one that is very new to you and your parents are feeling your feelings. This either feels very familiar or very scary. However, feeling your feelings is learning to navigate them in ways that are safe so that you can show up for yourself in the ways that you need. In this episode we're joined my licensed marriage and famil...

Every first-gen eldest daughter wants to hear from their parents “I’m so proud of you”. But what happens when the pursuit of this praise and acknowledgment from our parents ends up compromising our health, relationships, and work/life balance? You want to make your parents proud but also feel happy with the life you're creating. In this episode, I share two things you can begin doing in order...

As a first gen eldest daughter you can be apprehensive about taking a step toward a new path or toward a dream you've only kept to yourself. Like changing careers from one that is lucrative to one that feeds your passion, from deciding to travel full time for a year instead of allowing the pressure to marry to keep you going on endless dates, or from wanting to train for your first 5K instead...

In this episode we have the pleasure of hearing from Viv, founder of Over Gen Poverty.   We explore: The impact of generational poverty on first gen eldest daughters.  The first steps to take as a first gen in order to over come generational poverty.  How Viv was able to go from growing up in poverty to being able to pivot careers into tech, make a six-figure salary, and financially support her pa...

The first-generation eldest daughter receives all the responsibility, high expectations from everyone, and constant requests for help or advice.  But what each eldest daughter truly wants is for someone to show up for her the way she shows up for everyone else.  As the first gen eldest daughter you're praised for what you do, and it can lead you to wonder if you're loved for who you are an...

Learn how my client, was able to go from putting pressure on her partner to hearing him say "I love you" organically without her prompting. After joining 1:1 coaching with me: She had more connection, trust, and peace in her dating relationship. She has found her identity outside of her relationship status.  She shares more vulnerably in her relationship deepening their connection. She&#...

In this episode we have the honor of having psychotherapist, coach, educator, and social worker TJ Matton on to share her expertise around play. We explore: Why play is abandoned by first gen eldest daughters. How it negatively affects them in adulthood. How to practically integrate play back into their life in order to experience improved mental, physical, and emotional health. TJ’s business, The...

In this episode I wrap up the 2023 year on the podcast, and share some changes coming to the podcast in 2024.  Schedule a Free Consultation Call for 1:1 Coaching Connect with Me on Instagram Join the Eldest Daughter Community to Learn Tips On How to Create Healthy Relationships with Your Parents & Siblings

You're finally doing something for yourself, and attempting to rest. But you can't stop thinking about your to-do list, which makes you feel guilty for spending time resting instead of being productive.  In this episode I provide a 3 step framework that you can implement so you walk away from rest with more energy to show up for yourself and those you love. Schedule a Free Consultation Cal...

In this episode I discuss two areas of my identity that I had rejected up until the end of 2018.  I talk about how the loss of my dad was pivotal to me healing, growing in self-love, and so much more. If you are someone who has parts of your identity that you've rejected for so long and are ready to start accepting those parts of you, then listen in to this episode.  Schedule a Free Consultati...

Do you  face guilt the moment you decide you're going to do something for you? Do you begin to think about all the to-do's on your list that have gone unchecked? Or the time that you'd be taking away from the kids if you spent that time doing something for yourself? Even though you know deep down you really need to do something to fill your cup. In today's episode I share with you...

Even though you have the roles of mother, wife, your career title, etc? Have you ever felt a loss in identity? Becoming a mom, transitioned you to a new identity. As you adopted this new identity, you started making decisions and showing up differently. Then came a day when you glanced up and asked yourself: “Who am I?” beyond the roles and labels that define me? This question doesn't have to...

Is there truly one right way to show up as a mom? A way that provides you the freedom to be yourself, feel empowered in your parenting decisions, and allow for you to build toward your desired vision for your family. I'm here to confirm that there is one right way to show up in motherhood. In today's episode I breakdown: Why this one right way should be your chosen way. The benefits availa...