The Way Back to You

"Maybe you were never too much. Maybe you just had feelings no one knew how to hold with you." - Anat Peri In this episode of The Way Back to You, Anat guides Mallory, a natural caretaker who can believe in everyone except herself. Mallory grew up being told she was too sensitive and too much, so she learned to hide her feelings until they exploded. Then she would shut herself in her room, alone,...

At 2:00 in the morning, I woke up crying. I walked into the bathroom and heard myself say something I had never let myself say before: "I can't hold all of this anymore." For years, I thought I knew how to slow down. I had done the healing work. I knew how to regulate my nervous system. But I was still holding everyone. My business. My clients. My team. My family. My husband. Everyone's needs, emo...

"The moment you stop asking, 'Am I worthy of being chosen?' and start asking, 'Is this person actually showing me they're worthy of me?' everything changes." - Anat Peri In this episode of The Way Back to You, I sit down with Becca, who came into our session after one incredible first date left her nervous system completely activated. When the man she felt so excited about stopped taking initiativ...

“Silence is not safety. Silence is the sound of you leaving yourself.” - Anat Peri Self abandonment does not always look like losing yourself. Sometimes it looks like being easygoing. Keeping the peace. Going along with what they want. Staying quiet because speaking up feels harder than swallowing what is true. And sometimes it looks like the opposite: getting louder, more controlling, or blaming...

"You are not disappearing when you choose yourself. You are finally showing up." -Anat Peri In this episode of The Way Back to You, Anat guides Jessica, a new mom who gives everything to everyone and cannot find herself anywhere on her own list. Jessica already knows she is a people pleaser. What she does not yet see is why choosing herself sets off a wave of guilt she cannot think her way out of....

"Secure is not calm. Secure is who you let steer." - Anat Peri In this episode of The Way Back to You, Anat tells the story of the ten days that changed everything. Two and a half months into dating the man who is now her husband, he asked her for space, with no promise of when, or if, he would come back. Instead of chasing him, texting him, or making his silence mean something about her, she pour...

Sara came to this session three days after a breakup, trying to do something she had never really done before: stay with herself instead of reaching for someone else to make the feeling go away. If you lose yourself in relationships, abandon your own needs to keep everyone else happy, or feel panic at the thought of being alone, this live coaching session is your way back to you. Losing yourself i...

What are you holding onto because having fifty percent feels safer than having nothing? Maybe it’s a relationship you already know isn’t right. A situationship you keep returning to. A job that’s fine. A friendship you’ve outgrown. The “good enough” version of something because letting it go means facing the fear of what happens next. Nine years ago, I was thirty-seven, sitting alone in a room in...

My friend Nikki is forty-eight. She drove hours to visit her mom and stepdad and walked into a house where she felt completely invisible. No questions, no eye contact, just "there's food in the fridge" and a door closing behind it. By the time she called me, she was crying like she was five years old. In this session we follow it all the way back to one moment. Nikki at four, asking her overwhelme...

In 1997, I found my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend's phone number. I would block my number and call her. Not to say anything. Just to hear her voice. I did that for the better part of a year, and I was seventeen. I promise you have your own version. This episode is about why we keep looking when we know it's going to hurt. The midnight scroll. The drive past their street. The mutual friend you casu...

The Permission to Stop Abandoning Yourself — with Evelyn Evelyn has done years of inner work. She meditates, she feels her feelings, she shows up. And still the exhaustion won't lift. Still the hollow feeling. Still the sense that no matter how much she gives to her mom, her son, everyone around her, she's falling short. What we find underneath surprises even her. This is a live, unscripted coachi...

What are your three memories with your father? Just you and him. If you can't find three, or they all have other people in them, this episode is going to explain more about your relationships than years of talking about them ever has. Anat Peri tells the story of the phone call that cracked her life open: asking her father what he remembered of their time together, hearing the same three memories...

Elissa came to this session carrying something so many high-achieving women know intimately... an incredible man in her life who wanted to love her, provide for her, and take care of her... and she couldn't let him in. She didn't know why. She just kept pushing him away, isolating, grinding harder, and burning out. What we discovered had nothing to do with him and everything to do with a little gi...

You've done the courses. Read the books. Maybe you're the one everyone else comes to for advice. So why is that hollow feeling still there? In this first episode, Anat Peri tells the story of the morning a voice told her to check her boyfriend's backpack, and how what she found exposed eight years of "doing the work" without healing a single wound. If your life looks right and feels wrong, if you'...

Have you ever done all the work — the therapy, the courses, the self-help books — and still felt like something wasn't healing? That's where this show begins. The Way Back to You is a podcast about the patterns of self-abandonment that keep us stuck — in relationships, in love, in life — and what it actually takes to come home to yourself. Each week, host Anat Peri shares raw personal stories and...