The Vital Goddess

The Cervix (yes I'm capitalizing here) is an absolute wonder. A magical portal into the sublime. An invitation to swim in the infinite sea of love. Yeah, we're going there Goddess. This precious jewel that was revered and worshiped in ancient cultures is for the most part buried treasure for most modern women. For many valid reasons. All of them can be summed up in one phrase: thousands...

I'm so excited to share this week's episode with you!  I had a wonderful conversation with naturopathic  doctor Jen Harrington. Jen runs an online clinic focusing on midlife women's health from her home in Sydney Australia. We talked about the power of mindset, the sassiness of midlife (and why that's a good thing) and the challenges that many women face entering their prime ti...

Any major dude will tell you that gratitude is a core part of any spiritual practice. And I totally agree. What any major dude won't tell you is that real true gratitude can't really come into its full frequency without sensual pleasure. Without being in a dynamic, erotic relationship with ourselves and the life force moving through us we can't truly, fully be grateful. At least tha...

The rise of the feminine is multidimensional and multi-orgasmic. There's no one way to express feminine (or masculine) energy. We all have both. We are complex, kaleidoscopic humans in a dynamic, fluid dance with the universe. The dance of these energies through you is one that only you can bring to life. And that's a beautiful thing! We're hearing a lot about the rise of the femini...

True beauty is not a cover up it's a reveal. It's a celebration of your essence; your divine light. Soul shine.   To quote one of my favorite books on the topic: "The benediction of beauty begins by surrendering the how and blossoming into the expanse of now. Unconditional acceptance of who you are, what you are, and where you are aligns the heart and mind. Appreciation is the exqui...

Get ready for a fun and sassy adventure! In this episode I chat with Sex, Love and Intimacy coach Gina Catherine.  We wax poetic on the power of pleasure, embodiment, emotional alchemy and so much more. Gina shares my passion for lifelong vitality, pleasure practices, breathwork and how midlife, menopause and beyond can be the adventure of a lifetime.  Not only that she's got a huge, radiant...

Our relationship to beauty can be so complicated. It can be really tempting to side step it, ignore it pretend it doesn't matter. Or get completely obsessed with it. There's a lot here to unpack. Beauty has been hijacked.  It's been commoditized and used against us. It's become a source of a lot of fear and insecurity causing heaps of mental and physical stress.  In truth, true...

Can astrology help you embody your inner Goddess? You bet! If you're open to it. And if you use it through the lens of the feminine. I got into astrology around the same time that I started to explore the Taoist and Tantric sensual arts and ancient Goddess cultures. I was lucky to be pointed towards astrologers that have deep reverence for the sacred feminine.   What does that even mean?   Wh...

How do you feel about doing Kegel exercises? Do you love them? Hate them? Do you do them? Are they getting you results? If so, do they leaving you wanting more? I often say that my work is for women who want more. If the Kegel leaves you wanting more, this episode is for you! If you're like most women I know the Kegel is just not doing it for you. Kegel exercises are still standard advice for...

One of the best ways to connect with your feminine energy is to notice when you're cut off from it.   Awareness is the first step.   Being disconnected our feminine life force has become such a normalized way of being that we barely even notice. We're conditioned out of our true nature to such a degree that we begin to believe that feeling unfulfilled, flat or cut off from our pleasure,...

True sexual confidence is a rare thing. Although most folks crave it, regardless of gender or age sexual confidence can be confusing and elusive. That makes sense.  In a society where sex is considered problematic of course it's going to be tough to access authentic confidence in our erotic expression. We're constantly bombarded with images and ideals of what sexual confidence is "s...

No time for pleasure practices? I get it. Life can definitely feel that way. And while that can feel so true, we have a lot more agency around this than we've been lead to believe. The idea of reclaiming our feminine can be so alluring and appealing and yet when it comes to "rolling out the mat" and getting into a regular rhythm with embodiment practices that support that, we hit a...

Today I want to share with you one of my favorite feminine embodiment practices: The Taoist Breast Massage. I’ve been practicing breast massage daily for years and it has completely transformed my physical breasts and my relationship with my breasts. It’s also deepened my connection to my sexual vitality, feminine essence and my experience of pleasure. Breast Massage is one of the simplest and mos...

Your feminine essence is multi-faceted. It's kaleidoscopic. There is no one way or right way to be 'in your feminine." What I've found to be true is that the only way to discover, awaken, have sustainable access to and embody your own unique sacred feminine/Shakti essence is through feminine spiritual practice.  Feminine energy is passionate life force creative energy and it wa...

What is feminine energy and how do we tap into it and embody it?  Feminine energy is  life force creative energy that's in every human. It contains the rich deep wise wilderness of our rawest emotions and the swirling nuances of our passion and ecstasy in the same breath. It contains the codes of our soul's deepest yearnings. The sacred content we need to fully live, create and express. ...

Low libido is an epidemic and although lots of folks entering midlife report lack of libido as a chief complaint, there are many people, (record numbers actually) in their 20s and 30s with the same complaint.  The fist thing I want to say about low libido is this: don’t attribute it to your age . While your body may be going through a transition, that’s all it needs to be; a transition. It’s not “...

If you’ve ever felt like you’re being put out to pasture, this one’s for you.  Ageism is toxic and it can stop a woman in her tracks just when she’s getting started. In this episode I dive into why I believe that sensual pleasure is the ultimate antidote to ageism. Fear mongering around growing older, especially for women, is rampant. It’s really easy to buy into it and it’s really easy to interna...

Are you finding it challenging to make your pleasure a priority? I hear you! And it makes sense. My short answer for why we face so much resistance to exploring our sensuality is this: 5,000 years of patriarchy. The sacred feminine, our sensuality and natural erotic nature have been on the chopping blocks for generation upon generation. We carry our own trauma, blocks, and baggage and our ancestor...

Shame is a heavy vibration that can sabotage our vitality and pleasure and block us from living our best lives. I feel it's the number one thing that stands between us and full embodiment of our sensuality and the self love/body love that is a natural byproduct of that. The hammer of shame has been used as a control program for thousands of years and it's come down hard on women's s...

We are living in very exciting times. A new way of being human on the planet is emerging. For over 5,000 years an extreme over polarization into the masculine principle has dominated all of our systems including our spiritual institutions. What's been revered, worshipped and held sacred has been almost exclusively dictated through a masculine lens. This has led to a massive imbalance and a de...

Hey! I'm back after a summer adventure in the mountains and ready to get back to work. Goddess style. As we turn the corner into Virgo season, I'm feeling a strong craving for deep ritual. A desire to recommitment to sacred work. For me that means getting back to the temple. Getting back in the rhythm and flow of regular sensual practice. In community. As  kid I always resented "bac...

Venus is emerging from a long slumber. After thousands of years of exile, She wants back in. She wants Her arts honored and She wants to express through us as embodied pleasure, beauty and love.   I've been calling this rise of Venus The Venusian Revolution and the current astrology speaks to this (see my previous episode). This revolution will impact the collective but it starts at a very pe...

When we align with Venus we become part of the solution. The challenges we face right now on the planet are intense to say the least. We're being asked to make radical changes. Bold changes. We're being asked to create new ways of being human on the planet. And change the game we've been playing.   We're being asked to move from a scarcity/fear-based finite game rooted in domin...

What if  all we desire is desiring us? What if the ultimate lover we yearn for has been here all along? What if the hottest romance is by design an internal experience? I've been hesitant to share this part of my journey because it's a bit woo to be honest.  It took me a while to wrap my head around this concept and put it into practice. But when I did, it changed everything. There'...

"Rage is passion without a place to play." If you've followed me for a bit you may have heard that one. It came to me at a time when I was raging up a storm. Pretty much on a daily basis. I was going through menopause and rage was a constant companion. I know that's not the way it goes for some women, but that's the way it went for me.  A teacher I was working with at the...