The Vital Goddess

The word Tantra can evoke a lot of different images. It can seem exotic, esoteric, edgy, otherworldly. There are a lot of conflicting messages that make it seem pretty complicated. But my understanding of Tantra is quite simple. Tantra is the awakening and expansion of the love that you are. The art of embodying your love.  It's not something you need to seek or strive for. It's in you....

If you're the kind of gal who likes to have some evidence-based info when it comes to your health and wellness decisions, this one's for you! Today I'm in conversation with hormone and sexual wellness expert Dr. Diane Mueller. Diane holds double doctorate degrees and has over 15 years of clinical experience. She blends cutting-edge medical knowledge with her insights as a sexologist...

Have you heard of the Taoist concept of Second Spring? Omgdess, I think every woman needs to know about this! Here are the Cliff Notes: From the Taoist perspective midlife and menopause are called Second Spring; a spiritual & sexual rebirth. Yep, I said spiritual and sexual. Second Spring is a time of life when a woman comes home to the sacredness of her body, rejuvenates from the inside out a...

No time for pleasure? This one's for you Bella! It's sooo easy to run ourselves ragged. And when we do we forget who we are.  When we connect with our pleasure it lights the way home. No matter what's going on in your life right now, honoring your sensuality and taking time for mindful pleasure will deeply serve you. Pleasure is the portal. It gives us access to our most noble quali...

Compassion is a beautiful human quality. It opens us into deeper experiences of love, intimacy and gratitude. Receiving compassion from others can be just the medicine we need when things get tough. Compassion feels good in the body and like a balm to the soul. To give it and to receive it elevates us into the realm of human spirit. When compassion enters the room it's like a deep exhale. And...

We all know that feeling... Uncomfortably numb. We're so good at showing up and functioning in the most stressful and chaotic circumstances.  Most women I know are masters at it. While this strategy of overriding our feelings and our bodies to do what needs to be done helps us adapt and survive, it's not a long term solution. When we go numb, we can't selectively numb. And there&apo...

Happy Mother’s Day weekend! On the one hand, it’s a beautiful celebration of motherhood and on the other… well, it can bring up a lot. It’s layered. It’s complex.  What I’ve found to be incredibly healing and empowering on my own journey as a woman, as a daughter and as a mother is to connect with the true power of mother. The Creatrix The Great Mother within. The womb. The womb is not just about...

Drama. It's everywhere. It's expensive. It's exhausting. It's more addictive than caffeine.  And the crash is worse too. Society runs on drama more than it runs on Dunkin. And it can run us into the ground. While drama is a part of life, it can be less so in yours. We can take the reins. Want my favorite way to pattern disrupt this madness? I've got you! Let's dive in...

Oy! The voice of the Inner Critic. We can so easily get duped into believing the bs, can't we? Nothing kills our joy and pleasure more quickly than unsolicited feedback from the Saboteur within. We tend to be our own worst enemy. And I'm yet to meet a woman who is immune. What we need here is a strategy. A simple, effective strategy to seduce that Inner Critic and get back to the busines...

Your intuition is gold. And it's so unique to you and you alone. Without a reliable connect to your inner wisdom you can easily lose the plot on your precious life. Why you're here. What you came here to express and create. What the next step is for you on this spiraling journey. We live in exciting times And incredibly noisy times. It can be challenging to cut through the din and tune i...

Do you want to up your manifestation game? Of course you do! You're not here to be a victim of circumstance. You came here to create. Joyfully create.  Your desires matter. They really do. And you living into them plays an important role in what's happening on the planet right now. A new Earth is dawning. Ancient ways of being human are being reborn in new and beautiful ways. Venus is ca...

Beauty is a loaded topic isn't it? Brings up a lot. Which is why we need to explore it. Beauty has been hijacked and distorted.  Almost beyond recognition. And what we see now (pretty much everywhere in society) is the toxic mimic. True beauty is sacred. It’s is a reveal, not a cover up. Your essence dancing in your cells. It has everything to do with embracing your sensuality and pleasure. A...

If feeling irritated, wired and tired is your normal, you're not alone. If accessing your sensual pleasure and feminine flow state has been a struggle, again, you're in good company. We live in a world that makes feeling good in your skin a major challenge. Many women feel depleted, exhausted and done by the time they hit midlife. (Men too btw). Things are massively out of balance and it...

Perfectionism is sneaky thing. It's usually creeps in during childhood as an attempt to feel safer in a world that didn't actually feel that safe.  In response to a confusing and overwhelming world (even if our parents did a great job), our young selves can easily feel uneasy and take on a belief that if we do things perfectly, we'll get our needs met. We'll feel safe. We'...

If you're anything like most women in my world, you want to change the world. You know deep in your heart that there's got to be a better way. A way to create more harmony, beauty & love in the world. A way for all of us to feel more joyful, blissful, ecstatic even as we explore this human experience. You came here to this garden planet to fully live the magical adventure you signed...

These are no ordinary times. And you are no ordinary woman. If you’ve been in my world for a while, I’m sure you’re interested in harnessing the power of the sacred feminine. That creative, sacred essence that lives inside of you. The energy that creates worlds and at the same time is uniquely yours. And I’m sure you’re down for exploring ways to tap into more of that power. And live your life mor...

I'm sure you've noticed: We're bombarded daily with toxic, disempowering narratives on what it means to age as a woman.  Constant attacks designed to leave us feeling invisible and "put out to pasture.” Fear mongering and "it's the beginning of the end" story? It can really mess with you. On a bad day, you may even start to believe all the bs. We've been tra...

The Taoist Jade Egg practice is one of the most curative and empowering practices on the planet for the female libido. So many women (of all ages) are struggling with low libido, unfulfilling sex lives; feeling numb, bored, exhausted or experiencing pain in their intimate lives. Some women give up on sex entirely. Some grin and bear it and get really good at faking. Many end up blaming themselves...

Happy Valentine's Day! 🌹🎉💘 A day when many people celebrate love. All kinds of love, but especially romantic love. Romantic love is a powerhouse isn't it? And so layered. It's one of the most compelling experiences a human can have. I think most people would agree; to swoon is divine. We see the world differently in that rose-colored state. Our mood soars. We're tapped into...

The evidence on the impact our emotions have on our quality of life is impossible to refute. Our emotions play a huge role on how we feel in our bodies.  Our health and vitality are greatly effected by our emotional state. Not to mention our pleasure, sensuality and intimacy. Emotions are a part of our human experience but how we process them (or not) is intrinsic to our wellbeing. We focus a lot...

It's so important to have a big picture, North Star, Goddess Avatar vision. But showing up in alignment with that vision on a daily basis? Doing all of the daily things? That's a challenge! No pressure but...we are emitting a frequency in every waking moment whether we realize it or not. And the quality of that frequency determines much of our life experience. Short term and long term. U...

These are wild times we're living in. So much going on. So much uncertainty. So many things clamoring for our attention & concern. It's huge. It's heartbreaking. And It can be so easy to collapse into overwhelm, fear and doubt. Have you found yourself in that dead end space of trying to make sense of all? Trying to figure it out? I hear you! We've been trained to rely on an...

Sometimes our biggest obstacles are hiding in plain sight. If you’ve ever felt stuck or stalled in manifesting the life of your dreams you’re in good company. And it’s not your fault. We’re always manifesting. And we all carry unconscious & semi-conscious blocks that keep us in cycles of drawing in what we don’t actually want.  We can recite positive affirmations on wealth, health & love a...

Here's a Tantric truth bomb for you: As a woman, receiving is your spiritual superpower. Getting good at it will awaken your feminine consciousness. And change your life. Why? Here's my take on it. Pleasure is the portal into activating your The Venus Codes. Your innate, intrinsic energetic signatures for Beauty, Abundance, Passion, Ecstasy & Love. When you're able to truly rece...

I don’t know who needs to hear this but… So cliche, I know, but really. (Actually, I need to hear it too, so here goes)... Have you been in overdrive? Trying too hard to make things happen? Racking your brain to figure it out? (Whatever your “it” of the moment is) to the point of exhaustion & exasperation? Head in a beehive? Way too much going on? Take a deep breath with me. Let out a huge sig...