The Valley of Grace Podcast

When you put toxic victimhood and a lot of knowledge together, what do you get?  A toxic cocktail. #psychology #narcissist #narcissism #empath #toxictraits

Everybody keeps talking about avoiding toxic  relationships.  But how do you know what to avoid if you don’t know what to look   for? Check out today’s episode:  “6 Ways to Know You Are in a Toxic Relationship” to Figure Out if your relationship is just broken , or on a whole ‘nother level entitled “Toxicity.  #psychology

It’s one thing to be a pastor. It’s a whole ‘nother level when you are faced with a Nehemiah situation of toxicity, gaslighting, and jealousy in the church. A lot of times, we think that the situation happened to us out of the blue. However, as the old saying goes, hindsight is 20/20. We saw signs leading up to this big blowup coming all along. We just didn’t really didn’t stop to think about it,...

Have you ever lived with someone who didn’t speak to you for five years? It definitely doesn’t sound like fun and games. And it isn’t. It is spiritual warfare from the devil himself.  Unlike in a healthy relationship where “silent treatment” towards each other covers up the fact that you are angry  , a toxic relationship involves the toxic individual(s)“stonewalling.” Stonewalling is jus...

Have you ever been to the plain of Ono? If you haven’t, you don’t want to go. When someone asks you to meet them there, you should be screaming “Oh No!” #gaslighting #psychology #toxicpeople #toxictraits #narcissism #narcissist #empath #calling #Nehemiah #biblestudy #christianpodcast

When you have a physical infection, you can go about treating it in various ways: Taking Garlic, antibiotics, hydrogen peroxide. Basically, any or all of the above.  But, when you think about it, the same thing is true when the infection is emotional , mental, spiritual, or otherwise. How we treat the infection will determine how we move forward. Dive into this podcast with me as we learn the...

It is a very daunting task, yet, not impossible to reclaim your power and identity after childhood abuse, homelessness, and then narcissistic abuse . The temptation is to keep it all in, form a “prison camp”, as Kathryn calls it, and shut yourself out from the rest of the world. #childhood #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #psychology #emotionalhealth #identity #mindset

It is a very daunting task, yet, not impossible to reclaim your power and identity after childhood abuse, homelessness, and then narcissistic abuse. The temptation is to keep it all in, form a “prison camp”, as Kathryn calls it, and shut yourself out from the rest of the world. #narcissism #psychology #narcissisticabuse #identity #homelessness 

You had one instance of the countenance of your friend changing towards you.  That was it.  However, you still don't feel 100% free to be vulnerable with them when it comes to your trials, tribulations, trauma, and drama.  There's a reason for it. #love #loveandfreedom #toxicrelationships

We often think that it is our Christian duty to stay in that toxic relationship, fix the other person in the relationship, and control the outcome of that toxic relationship . That’s not our job, but somehow we take on these burdens and more. When we lose our voices, we put up with anything. People-pleasing comes into play, self-sabotaging our health, and the lack of boundaries comes in, and unfor...

We often think that it is our Christian duty to stay in that toxic relationship, fix the other person in the relationship, and control the outcome of that toxic relationship . That’s not our job, but somehow we take on these burdens and more. When we lose our voices, we put up with anything. People-pleasing comes into play, self-sabotaging our health, and the lack of boundaries comes in, and unfor...

What’s seems logical is not always what’s right. It seems logical to find someone or something to fill that empty void and brokenness inside of you. What ends up happening is that this void brought on by abuse and trauma attracts people who exploit these areas. When you refuse to allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in your decision-making process, you get into all kinds of trouble, leading to stayi...

Since when did God tell you that being in a toxic relationship was carrying your cross or performing ministry? Satan uses all kind of lies to warp our vision of love and keep us trapped in a vicious cycle of never-ending pain. We think we will get clarity on getting out of a toxic relationship without acknowledging the truth. But even after acknowledging the truth, you have to act. You cannot just...

It seems easier to trust God with what it is he has told you to do when you know what the outcome is going to be. However, we know that if we only trust God when certainty is involved, that means that we don’t fully trust him. Our trust becomes conditional. #obedience #calling #narcissism #psychology #toxicrelationships #narcissism

When you tell your friends about your new partner , are they able to predict how your story will end? Toxic Relationships pull you in with intoxicating excitement, but they leave you high and dry after experiencing the infamous narcissistic abuse cycle. But there is hope. When you tell your friends about your new partner, are they able to predict how your story will end? Toxic Relationships pull y...

A lot of times we find ourselves in toxic relationships trying to figure out what happened. The signs were there all along. You tried to create a lasting relationship between two people with different values, belief systems, and operating systems, hoping the superficial things on your list would be enough. The only thing that did seem to last is the trauma bond and soul tie that the toxic relation...

We have all been guilty of one-upping. However, we often fail to realize the spiritual implications of doing such a thing. The seed of envy gives us an infection. When we dissect these implications, it will cause us to grieve the innocence of what we did not know, confess, repent, and move forward looking at other people as image bearers.

Once you give a man your mind, body, and soul, he has everything he needs to take away your voice.  #narcissist #story #healing

Sometimes you think that just because you have been doing something all these years, it means that thing needs to remain status quo.  Is it helping or harming your relationships?  Is it benefiting you or the other person?  Is it because you are serving your unresolved trauma, grief, and undealt with brokenness? #narcissism #toxicrelationships #love #loveandfreedom #narcissist #women...

The million dollar question is: Should I stay or should I go? Some people think the answer to the question is obvious. But it is… Continue reading → Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Divorce, & Remarriage with Authors Kirk & Debbie Taylor

We all want that magic formula. What no one tells you is that there isn’t one. Success in any relationship: romantic, business, friendships, or ministry, is a lot of work. Add toxicity to the mix, and you’ve got something on your hands. Valley of Grace Ministries and Timothy Horton GR8 own the licensing and rights to the Valley of Grace song.

The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, Narcissism, & Disguises Part 2 Although we all wear masks at one time or another, some of us find ourselves living among the never-ending masquerade party of narcissism. Walking in the spirit, as well as being armored up, enables the weapons formed against us not to prosper.

Masquerade parties are fun, full of mystery, and drama. The highlights of attending these parties are the costumes, multi-colored masks , and hors d’oeuvres. The low points of attending these parties is enduring the possibility of a belligerent, uninvited guest. Join me as a guest at “ The Masquerade Party of Lying Prophets, False Intentions, & Disguises Part 1”, and see if you can pick out the wo...

How does God reach out to you in the midst of abuse, homelessness, and toxicity?  One day at a time.   Travel back in time with me and Author & Speaker  Sunshine Griffin as she unfolds her story of redemption, and how leaving home at thirteen turned into God’s saving grace.

We need human connection to thrive, grow, develop, and be challenged. When we lack the skills of essential human connection, we have an open-door invitation to toxic relationships, lack of trust, disobeying God, ignoring the promptings of the Holy Spirit, and doing things our way, instead of his.