The Urban Foster Dad

Every placement disruption affects a child. When a child loses another home, they may hear a message that nobody wants them—even when that was never what the foster parent intended to communicate. So instead of asking only, “What did this child do to lose their placement?” we should also ask: “What happened to this child before they ever walked through that front door?” And we need to ask foster p...

Behind every foster child is a story that most people will never hear. These are children who have experienced loss, uncertainty, and things no child should have to go through. As a foster parent, I’ve seen firsthand how much these young people need—not just a safe home, but someone willing to show up for them, listen to them, encourage them, and remind them that they matter. That’s why I’m asking...

Behind every foster child is a story that most people will never hear. These are children who have experienced loss, uncertainty, and things no child should have to go through. As a foster parent, I’ve seen firsthand how much these young people need—not just a safe home, but someone willing to show up for them, listen to them, encourage them, and remind them that they matter. That’s why I’m asking...

Today was one of those reminders that foster parenting isn't always picture-perfect. My foster son got overwhelmed and punched one of our kitchen cabinets. In that moment, I had a choice: react to the damage or respond to the pain behind it. Many children in foster care carry trauma that shows up as anger, fear, or frustration. While we hold them accountable for their actions, we also have to...

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If you're explaining why foster care payments may not seem to match the level of a child's behavioral challenges, some common reasons include: The payment rate is based on a classification system rather than the day-to-day reality of the child's behavior. If the child has not been officially assessed at a higher level of care, the payment may remain at a lower rate. Behavioral needs ma...

If you're explaining why foster care payments may not seem to match the level of a child's behavioral challenges, some common reasons include: The payment rate is based on a classification system rather than the day-to-day reality of the child's behavior. If the child has not been officially assessed at a higher level of care, the payment may remain at a lower rate. Behavioral needs ma...

Foster care stipends are intended to support the needs of the child , not to be personal income you can freely spend on yourself. That said, the reality is a little more nuanced. What the stipend is meant for The money you receive is to cover things like: Food, clothing, and housing for the child Transportation (school, appointments, visits) Personal care items Activities, school supplies, etc. Ca...

Nothing prepares you for moments like this. In this episode, I break down a tough situation that crossed the line, and how I addressed it with firmness, respect, and a focus on teaching better behavior. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-urban-foster-dad/exclusive-content

Many foster kids do things that foster parents strongly dislike, but usually it’s not because they want to make the foster parent miserable . In most cases, the behavior comes from trauma, instability, or learned survival habits from their earlier life. Since you’ve been a foster parent for many years, you’ve probably seen some of these patterns already. 1. Poor Emotional Regulation Kids who grew...

Typical monthly foster care payments (Virginia) As of around 2025–2026 , the base payments are approximately: Ages 0–4: about $580 per month Ages 5–12: about $677 per month Ages 13+: about $861 per month These payments are meant to cover the child’s needs and are generally not considered taxable income . Additional money that may be provided Foster parents can sometimes receive extra payments , su...

Why you wouldn't want to adopt a kid who is ADHD or has autism. Both are neurodevelopmental conditions , meaning the brain develops and processes information differently. Children with these diagnoses can be very capable and talented, but they often require more structured parenting and support . Why some people hesitate Behavioral challenges Impulsivity, emotional regulation issues, meltdowns...

Children with conditions such as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or Autism Spectrum Disorder often appear inconsistent: they may struggle with some tasks yet perform extremely well in others. This pattern is largely explained by how their brains process executive function, motivation, and sensory input . 1. Executive Function Differences Both ADHD and autism can involve challenges...

I’m finding this placement particularly challenging. His behavior can be rude and oppositional at times, and ongoing hygiene concerns have been difficult to manage. He won't flush the toilet after pooping and he's not the most attractive kid. I also recognize that some of my reactions are rooted in frustration. Regardless of those feelings, I remain committed to treating him with dignity,...

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The trafficking of foster children is a deeply concerning issue, as vulnerable children in the foster care system can sometimes become targets for human traffickers. This problem arises from a combination of factors, such as unstable living conditions, lack of consistent support, and emotional trauma that traffickers exploit. Foster children often move between homes, may run away from placements,...

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A Baltimore County caregiver says Maryland Child Protective Services put her “in the line of fire” and didn’t tell her. Angela Studivant, for five years, worked as a Child Care Specialist at The Children’s Home in Catonsville. During that time, she says she cared for Walter Martinez, the MS-13 gang member who murdered 20-year-old Kayla Hamilton in Harford County. And the whole time, she had no ide...

A. Each public institution of higher education shall provide a grant for the payment of tuition and mandatory education and general fees, except fees established for the purpose of paying for course materials such as laboratory fees, and, if such institution is a baccalaureate public institution of higher education, room and board, for any Virginia student who: 1. a. Has received a high school dip...

Arguments for Holding Parents Responsible: Parental Responsibility : Parents are legally and morally responsible for raising their children, teaching them right from wrong, and ensuring they behave appropriately in society. If they fail to do so, they may be held accountable for their children's actions. Prevention : Holding parents responsible may encourage them to take a more active role in...

Smoking as a foster parent is generally discouraged and, in many cases, is subject to specific regulations and guidelines. The rules around smoking can vary depending on the jurisdiction or the agency involved. Here are some common considerations: Health Concerns : Secondhand smoke is harmful, especially to children, and can increase the risk of respiratory problems, asthma, and other health issue...

CULPEPER, VA (WWBT) - A Richmond man was arrested after leading deputies in Culpeper on a chase in a stolen car that reached 132 mph. The  Culpeper County Sheriff’s Office  said paperwork in the car identified the man. He was apprehended by a police dog after crashing into a wooded area, fleeing on foot, and hiding in an abandoned school bus. The chase began shortly after a traffic stop at 9 p.m....

Missing your son while he's away at college is a natural and deeply human experience. It reflects the strong emotional bond and connection you share with him. Here are a few reasons why you might be feeling this way: Change in Daily Life : When your child goes to college, your daily routine changes significantly. You’re used to having them around, hearing their voice, and sharing moments toget...

It's important to approach the topic of foster children with sensitivity and understanding. Not all foster children are violent; however, some may exhibit challenging behaviors due to various factors related to their backgrounds and experiences. Here are some reasons why some foster children might display violent or aggressive behavior: Trauma and Abuse: Many foster children have experienced s...

Ex-foster kids often face unique and significant challenges that require specialized support. Here are some reasons why they might need extra help: Trauma and Mental Health Issues: Many foster children have experienced neglect, abuse, or instability before entering the system. These experiences can lead to mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, or PTSD. Support services are crucial for...