The Unmistakable Podcast

Arrogance and confidence get confused often.  Sometimes people are actually arrogant.  But then, sometimes confidence people get called arrogant because they irritate someone else's insecurities.

Control comes in many forms.  If you're always looking for it to display in an aggressive way, you might be overlooking the most effective form of it; emotional control.  Conflict happens in every relationship, but if you keep finding yourself in a spin cycle of conflict that continues to resurface after you've thought you solved it a thousand times.  You might be under emotional control.  It's no...

Talk yo talk!  It's always your best option.  Your voice already has all the ingredients you need to succeed.  Never let anybody trick you out of that.  Southern accents take a lot of criticism in professional environments.  Some voice coaches even specialize in helping people water down their accents.  That's tragic!  You're basically paying someone to teach you how to be less of yourself.  You'r...

Attention is powerful.  It's acutually a form of currency.  Intuitively we already know this.  That's why we say... PAY Attention!".  Attention is the life blood of economies, ideas, star power, news headlines, and even religion.  The minute you withdraw attention, those things start to die.  Attention is a power that we undervalue and give away far too easily.  In fact, when we do give it away, m...

A lot of relationship end from inrreconcilable differences, but where did the differences come from.  Many would say they grew apart, but really, the differences were always there.  We just don't take enough time to look beyond attraction to spot 'em... So then, by default, the journey reveals them instead.  Walking in different directions will always cause growth in different directions.

Don't waste time trying to prove yourself to people who are determined to misunderstand you in the first place. They'll just pick through your story to find the parts that confirm what they already think about you. So instead of giving them more ammo, give 'em silence instead. Then they'll have no choice but to pay attention when they are watching you make moves.  #friends   #justwatch   #storytel...

Being born again is something we should experience several times in this life. None of us remain the same version of ourselves forever. For better or worse… we evolve. Our experiences either adapt us toward our higher potential or pull us further away from it. The choice is ours. And when we choose higher, we experience rebirth. A new elevation of identity. A more mature version of ourselves tryin...

Most people would probably claim they don't care what other people think, but sometimes it matters. When you privately recognize a strength or talent, the natural progression is that it be recognized publicly. When your talent gets affirmed in public, it changes how the world sees you. And that allows people to acknowledge you on a new level. It's like a getting promoted in the game of life. If yo...

Confidence has roots.  When it's real, it's not performance; it's identity.  Your deepest confidence is rooted somewhere early in your identity formation journey.  As experiences affirmed your natural strengths, your confidence grew... but not because you were good at something, because you had discovered a natural expression of your identity, and owned it.  Confidence follows design.  The way you...

Long ago, I learned to be myself in any room. It's always been a strength of mine to bring the room what it needs, without loosing who I am in the process. My hometown of Marion SC bred that into me, and I took it all over the world. It carries more weight than any college degree ever could, and more credibility than any certification. #transformation #beyourself #myvoice #mystyle #vpstudio

Interracial relationships have always carried tension in America. Can they really work? Perhaps, but the people involved have to get real about what's at stake. If they don't, a fundamental disconnect is waiting to happen that could end up further reinforcing why you may have questioned the notion to begin with. #vpstudio #interracialdating #interracialdatingsite #interracial #interracialmarriage

Ever ghosted someone… or been ghosted? That's just a symptom of a deeper root. People who ghost aren't comfortable standing on what they really want; their preferences. When there's no major conflict to spark things off, lack of interest can feel like a shallow reason for leaving, so people ghost. Preferences aren't good or bad. They're just preferences. Stand on yours, regardless of what people m...

Intimacy is very fragile. The wrong words can permanently damage it… And everyone says the wrong thing sometimes. So how do you recover intimacy. Remember. Remember the person you first connected with. Come a little closer and remind yourself what it feels like being next to them. It'll make you realize that the argument is not who you are, it's just where you were at the time. —VP Studio. #connec...