The UnlearnT Podcast

Send us Fan Mail The Gardners join us to share their journey as a blended family, revealing how they built a strong foundation through commitment, communication, and adapting to unexpected changes. Ty and Ruth Abigail discuss how their relationship evolved from online dating to creating a unified family, demonstrating that love makes room for the unexpected. • Meeting on Facebook and moving from t...

Send us Fan Mail The whole Smith family gathers for an intimate, multigenerational discussion about parenting approaches, examining what needs to be preserved and what should be unlearned for the benefit of future generations. • Jacqueline Smith (mother) shares how "more is caught than taught" when it comes to parenting • Rev. Rufus Smith IV (father) reflects on giving his children what...

Send us Fan Mail We explore how what comes out of us under pressure directly reveals what we've been filling ourselves with, just as squeezing a lemon produces only lemon juice because that's what's inside it. • Taking inventory of what we consume through our eyes, ears, and bodies determines what will come out when life squeezes us • Our digital footprints provide a practical way t...

Send us Fan Mail Juanita shares her journey as a single mother parenting her now 18-year-old daughter from age four, offering wisdom on co-parenting, building resilience, and evolving from teacher to coach. • Transitioning from a two-parent household to single parenting requires choosing trust with both the co-parent and eventually the child • The shift from teaching to coaching should happen earl...

Send us Fan Mail Erica Ramsey joins RA to discuss the profound transition from career-focused independence to motherhood and how she's navigating this unexpected journey while maintaining her identity and business. • Success in business doesn't automatically translate to feeling prepared for parenthood • Becoming a mother in the first year of marriage required a complete mental shift • T...

Send us Fan Mail God is moving us from transactional mindsets to transformational encounters that prepare us not just to receive blessings but to become capable of holding and sharing them. The real test of faith comes not in waiting but in the moment God starts giving us what we've been asking for. • Distinguishing between transactional relationships with God versus transformational encounte...

Send us Fan Mail Settle in folks! Patrick and Shemika Harrington share their wisdom on navigating the challenging transition from parenting children to parenting adults, discussing the generational differences between Gen X parents and their Gen Z children in today's rapidly changing world. • The difference between commanding children and conversing with adult children • Understanding that &q...

Send us Fan Mail Freedom depends not on unlimited choices but on clear boundaries that enable focused attention and meaningful progress. • You cannot focus on something that isn't properly framed • Like picture frames, boundaries help eliminate distractions and highlight what's important • True freedom isn't chaotic—it's responsible, enjoyable and safe • Struggling to focus oft...

Send us Fan Mail Eric Ballentine, Executive Director of Streets Ministries in Memphis, shares his journey through fatherhood, marriage, and ministry as someone who "jumped off the porch" at age 12 before finding his faith at 25. His powerful story reveals how his past experiences shaped his approach to raising children in a blended family and the lessons he learned about authentic manhoo...

Send us Fan Mail The time has come to break free from limiting narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of stagnation and disappointment. We must dig deep to identify and extract the thoughts that make us believe nothing will ever change in our lives. • Stop building mental frameworks that support your old life • Understand that the way you speak about your desires shapes your reality • Actively...

Send us Fan Mail Hard work isn't enough to become a billionaire or reach your greatest potential - consistency and acquiring new knowledge are the true differentiators that create extraordinary success. • Billionaires don't become billionaires just by working hard - two other factors make the difference  • Consistency requires discipline and making decisions based on principles rather th...

Send us Fan Mail Gain courage to change your mind and experience more freedom as we explore unlearning what we thought we knew about the church. Our varied experiences reveal the importance of personal faith and community outside the church walls. • Emphasis on personal faith beyond church attendance  • Importance of community in living out one’s beliefs  • Unlearning the rigid structures of tradi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the significance of dreams and the need to unlearn limiting beliefs that hold us back. By reigniting hope and leaning on faith, listeners are encouraged to revisit their aspirations and trust that with God, anything is possible. • Discussing the importance and value of dreams  • Examining limiting beliefs and how they hinder progress  • Reinstating hope...

Send us Fan Mail We welcome Megan back to the podcast for a crucial conversation centered around race. Through personal anecdotes and open dialogue, we explore the complexities and nuances of discussing race among friends from different backgrounds.  - The importance of courage in changing perspectives  - Creating safe spaces for honest discussions on race  - The role of relationships in fostering...

Send us Fan Mail This episode delves into the true nature of purpose and its often-misunderstood dimensions. We challenge listeners to distinguish their real purpose from people-pleasing, emphasizing that fulfilling one’s purpose can energize rather than drain. • The importance of purpose is often misunderstood  • Central purpose: glorifying God above all  • Confusion between people-pleasing and t...

Send us Fan Mail The episode dives deeply into the complexities of grief and loss, featuring insights from Joinne Chandler, author of "Life After Loss." Listeners are encouraged to embrace their emotions and understand that grieving is a personal and ongoing journey. • Importance of asking for help during grief  • Unlearning the perception that grief has a timeline  • Navigating uncomfor...

Send us Fan Mail Listeners explore the swift movement of God and the importance of unlearning limiting routines that slow our spiritual and personal growth. This episode encourages an active evaluation of current habits and mindsets to embrace the profound changes God is ready to initiate in our lives. • Discussing the consequences of waiting and developing comfort routines  • Importance of breaki...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the complexities of relationships, discussing the valuable lessons learned at the kitchen table and the transformative nature of love. By unlearning outdated beliefs about chemistry, commitment, and conflict, we encourage listeners to engage with their partners in a deeper, more meaningful way. • Discussing Valentine’s Day and personal stories  • The im...

Send us Fan Mail This conversation urges listeners to unlearn the idea that relationships should be easy, focusing instead on the sanctifying power of vulnerability and sacrifice in intimate connections. We discuss compatibility, the importance of personal gaps, and the intricate dance of mutual growth required in meaningful relationships.  • Challenging the notion of easy relationships  • The sig...

Send us Fan Mail RA and Jaquetta explore the intricate relationship we have with money and the importance of redefining value over wealth. They share personal anecdotes that reveal common misunderstandings about finances, emphasizing that true fulfillment stems from recognizing one’s intrinsic worth rather than merely chasing higher paychecks.  • Discussing how money was perceived in childhood • T...

Send us Fan Mail This episode embraces the importance of taking time to sharpen our metaphorical axes, acknowledging that productivity improves significantly with a solid foundation of self-care and preparation. We discuss the struggles of managing busy schedules and the impact of neglecting our routines, encouraging listeners to find ways to invest in themselves for greater outcomes.  • Understan...

Send us Fan Mail We explore the crucial process of unlearning harmful emotional lessons ingrained in us from childhood, emphasizing the importance of emotional vulnerability. This episode dives into the impact of societal expectations and the interplay between faith and emotions while encouraging listeners to confront their emotional baggage for true healing.  • Emphasizing the importance of emoti...

Send us Fan Mail The episode emphasizes the necessity of unlearning outdated norms that hinder personal growth and freedom. Co-hosts engage in conversation around adapting to changing societal expectations, sharing personal anecdotes, and discussing generational dynamics of normalcy.   • Introduce the concept of unlearning from familial teachings  • Discuss societal expectations versus personal tr...

Send us Fan Mail Kinah Burkes shares her profound journey of emotional growth and the realization of the importance of vulnerability and authenticity. Through candid stories from her past, she reflects on her struggles with emotional immaturity, the pressure of expectations, and the significance of confronting one's personal truths to achieve true freedom and connection.  • Kinah emphasizes o...

Send us Fan Mail This episode emphasizes the importance of embracing change and consciously preparing for 2025. It encourages listeners to discern where to focus their energy and how to maintain hope amidst challenges, highlighting the necessity of both saying yes to what matters and no to distractions.  • Preparing your soul for the changes of 2025  • The significance of community engagement  • A...